"Pick a thought you would like to believe about yourself, and use it as an 'anchor belief' in your mind. Start repeating it to yourself, and aim for 1000 times a day for 100 days."
It sounds easy enough, but amazingly it's quite tough to stick to the routine. It's just so boring repeating yourself over and over again. And of course you could put it in the form of an audio recording and listen to it over and over, or put it in the form of a mind movie. But, personally I think it is important to speak your affirmations out loud, and to do so with conviction over and over again (even though it sucks). And unfortunately you don't get that level of involvement with audio recordings and mind movies. They are more passive methods and not as effective in my experience.
There is this pick-up-artist/dating couch named Richard La ruina. In one of his videos he talked about how he used affirmations to change his perception of himself. He wasn't always good with the ladies, and he also use to perceive himself as not being very attractive. But, with the help of affirmations, he was able to change that perception of himself. I believe he said one of his affirmations was "I am sexy". And now he has become just that in the eyes of many woman. He said these days it is not uncommon for woman tell him that he's sexy.
With some of the amazing physical changes that people on this forum have attracted with loa, it makes you wonder if saying something like that to yourself could actually make you become more physically attractive and sexy. Maybe such a statement, if believed, doesn't just change your perception of yourself, but changes other people's perception of you too because by believing it, it is actually physically changing you - making you more sexy. It's just a thought. I don't know if it really is or not, but it makes you wonder.
I absolutely LOVE this post.
While overall I've increased the attention I get over the last 2 years and sometimes I feel like I look better than ever, and I used to think I looked like a hedgehog! last week or so, I've been feeling quite ugh. Mostly it's cos I started getting heel pain in August, though it's a lot it's still not quite right so I haven't been able to exercise like I was doing except for a bike ride about 2 weeks ago.
Do you know any good affirmations for a slim and youthful face?
Face mostly DOES look youthful though not this last week, but also it looked a bit bloated this week and I don't care in a way if my body looks a bit fat though I HATE that and I was LOVING the curves I had rather than now :-( but when weight gets to my face, I am NOT a girl who can wear a chubby face well.
I had a few months in my life once too when I had almost a heart shaped face and I felt so pretty and I'd LOVE to get that again.
ANYWAY I am gonna use these tips and any ideas for a slimmer face please let me know too. I have pretty eyes if I may say so myself and I don't want them hidden by face fat. A lot of big lassies have HUGE eyes but not me. But I am grateful for my pretty eyes, hair and other features about me I really love.
I might try the 1000 a day....is that doable in a hectic job though? I guess it is or I could see how many I could do a day and increase it daily perhaps. A fun experiment for sure.
As always I LOVE the way you write so much. It's even quite poetic! And always helpful uplifting and wonderful.
Thank you for making the very start of my Thanksgiving day positive! This will be the very first thing on my mind this day, and it's also the very first thing I've given thanks for today! Loads of thank you-s from me!
An extra thanks for what you said about hitting that wall! I've hit that stupid wall so many times, and now I know what it is! I had no idea what it was so I just took it as some kind of failure and would end up right back at the beginning thinking I must've been doing something wrong all along and that my belief that it was "working" must've been some placebo, false belief! So this really cleared a lot of mess-ups up for me! And I know it will keep me from spiraling back out of control in the future. Thanks so much!
I think your post has actually stirred a new challenge in me! I've taken on (and actually accomplished!) so many in such a short time, and they've all been fun. I think you saying that if we start today, 3 weeks from now, in December, we could be seeing our benefits -- that has really sparked the desire to take on a new challenge (for lack of better word for it) for me! I think I'll try for better beliefs about myself and how I respond in my relationship. :) I tend to harbor a lot of fear in that area and it just bogs my relationship with my SO down so much! I've been working on it for a while and actually have made like a whole 360, but need more work and this way, it'll feel fun! I actually have basically changed SO much of who I *thought* I was and it's all amazing! I'm so much better and more fun and kind now, so this is the perfect challenge. By December, I just might be my perfect, comfortable and happy (not letting my spouse's actions and feelings determine how I feel at any given moment) self!
You have been such a brilliant inspiration to me! I will now work to hold this positive, high vibration that you've given us here throughout my day & make this one heck of a lovely Thanksgiving. ;) Thank you. I seriously was NOT feeling it before reading this... AT ALL.
You commented, "Pick the person you want to 'get with.' Can you match their thoughts, beliefs, feelings, mood fluctuations etc. That is actually rather difficult to do."
I would posit that the majority of people do this all the time. Think of all the people out there who don't know/don't believe in LOA. They go to bars, clubs, events, etc... and look for a partner. They find someone and then change themselves, their behavior, their thoughts, feelings, or whatever to suit this person. People go to online dating sites and do the same things. They often end up with someone, doesn't mean that person is right for them.
I do believe in LOA and have had it work for me and against me. I am just wondering about all the people who are unaware and just pick the hottie at the bar and go from there. Your thoughts??
This is such beautiful post Sir Neil. Thank you!
I think I might start my 1000 positive thoughts a day, today :)
well, you've pretty much described me in a nutshell lol. and, what's even more hilarious, i started my own tradition a few years back, of watching "bridget jones' diary" on new years day
i think you're right about the consistency, and i can tell you first hand, it's out beliefs. for whatever reason, i have manifested that i'm only found attractive to MUCH older men (who also tend to be married), or the 65 year old lady who wants to set me up with her nephew or grandson. the older women at my church constantly tell me how beautiful i am, yet i can't seem to get the 30 something, cute guy to even look at me once. i struggle with this all the time. but, looking back at my life...i WAS successful with this maybe 5 years ago, when i lived in st. louis. i had lived there with a girlfriend, and we would go out on the weekends together. we would always joke around that we would find the cutest guy in the bar to make out with...and you know what? we did! or, i would even find the guy most of the time, and she would kind of get jealous. i ALWAYS got a number from a cute guy...but, now that i'm living back in chicago (my hometown), and (my friend is married)...i DO kind of feel like bridget jones.
but, i will say, knowing how the loa works...i haven't done much to try and manifest this. i'll start with your affirmations today. thanks! :)