My stupid boyfriend all of the sudden since being locked up and had past drug issues, decided to not be pagan anymore and wanted me to convert to Christianity but, I know for a fact deep down he can't use any form of religion to change himself. He has to change himself and stop his addictions himself. Second off I know he's lost and I know he has a stronger belief in being pagan. But, he wants me to convert but, it will not happen. I have no desire to be Christian I hated the religion growing up its boring its not for me. I found my religion and was denying it for years. I am not wanting to give up my handfasting ceremony that HE PROMISED ME THAT WE WOULD HAVE ONE. And, he shouldn't be allowed to go back on promises. I have filled every promise I would do in our relationship and never have broke any. How can I get the old Pagan version of him back and for my desires to be fulfilled and to still manifest the best version of him for Our family. Please help.
You asked, "How can I get the old Pagan version of him back" You can't. As you said yourself, he has to do that. He has to decide it's ok to let go of the fear and make the changes that feel better for him.
"and for my desires to be fulfilled" You have to allow them. You have to let go of your own levels of fear, and know that these things are possible and that it's ok to have them.
"and to still manifest the best version of him for Our family." Again, he has to choose that if that's what he wants. You can only guide him in this. He has to make the decision of exactly what he wants. Just like you, he has his own spiritual evolution, and he will allow himself only what he believes he can have.
Lastly, he's not stupid, just afraid. Give him compassion and understanding, and that will help to give him room to make the best choices for himself. =)
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But, he is being stupid by being close minded and he was the one that told me that I need to coexist with all religions yet here he is telling me to convert. And, do I deserve to have the wedding I desire and it not be Christian? I refuse to marry under that corrupt religion. But, I did tell him I am going to manifest my handfasting ceremony with or without him. And, lastly he can't tell me what to believe I've already been down that road with Christianity and I found how corrupt it really is. I am very happy being the religion I am.