I have been visusaling meeting a life partner - the visualisation is when I am going to sleep I imagine them lying next to me, with my back to them ( this is on purpose - I dont want the image of someone I know to creep in) and I imagine their arm around me and them gently kissing me on the shoulder to say goodnight. This is a very comforting feeling. I have been doing this for a month.
The other day I met up with an ex boyfriend, who is a good friend ( we get on incredibly well but for many reasons he is not long term relationship material ) and he ended up crashing at mine and exactly this scene occurred, This is not the person I need to be with 100% for many many reasons which I wont go into now. We are great as friends but completely incompatible as partners and I was unhappy when I was with him although I have great fondness for him as a friend.
I don't know what the message is, or how I can get this visualisation to work with someone who is a lot more suited to me
Feedback appreciated !!
Maybe you should add more details to your visualization? The bed scene is good but add more scenes.
What I would suggest is the multi-solution paradigm: imagine yourself with numerous different partners, each one with a different face and look. That way, you aren't restricting yourself to just one or one type, and you are giving the Universe some creative leeway in who it brings you. There isn't just one soul mate for all of us, there are many thousands of possibilities.
Well firstly recognise you have already started the work and this is showing you – you are making progress. Sure it isn’t yet with someone you desire as “relationship material” (or perhaps “judge” is a better word). How do you get the visualisation to work (well its already working to some degree) you can refine it moreso. I mean rather than just that scenario, have you got clear on what you actually desire from a relationship. This one scene is great, but it could be anyone on the planet. So in essence you got what you ordered. So what else could you visualise with this partner and feel good with? Would it be romantic walks holding hands, or a picnic where you sit eating wonderful foods and you laugh and relax together. You don’t have to have an exact picture of the guy in your mind, just focus on the feleings so you are able to recognise those feelings when you meet one of the new potential men in your life instead (and what if there wasn’t just “one” life partner but several).
I don't know if this will help anyone or not since this is an old post, but one thing you can do along with imagining that scene is to also imagine having a brief conversation with someone about it. Imagine it has happened and you're telling your sister or best friend about it over the phone. Maybe the imagined conversation goes like this:
You - "Hey Jill you're not going to believe what happened".
Jill - (your best friend) - "what happened?"
You - "I met this guy and he's perfect, he is (describe his qualities). We're so compatible is crazy. I can't wait for you to meet him".
Jill - "That's fantastic, I'm so happy for you."
Add in a brief conversational scene like that which help you focus in on exactly what you want. And go back and forth between these two scenes. Play them over and over in your mind for a few minutes at least twice a day to plant the seed into the subconscious mind.