Hi all...............the other day in a therapy session I was talking about how change happens and how focusing on what we want, what it feels like etc is important. Then I heard myself say....'but then we undream what we were dreaming'..................
The client said he really liked that explanation and I do too!
For example..........Let's say I want a new car. I notice the cars on the road and get clear about what it is I want. And then remember that my house in Omaha hasn't sold yet so I can't afford a car payment. Then I get into how it would feel to be driving a new car. And then remember my bank balance. I appreciate my current car and how much fun it is to drive. Then worry about the funny noise it is making. Then I think how I NEED a new car and start to feel anxious. Then I work very very hard to change my feelings because I just know that I'm sabotaging the new car vibration. Then it will be all my fault if I don't get a new car and my old car falls apart. Then I notice that I'm feeling bad still so I paste a smile on my face and try to convince myself that I'm feeling good while inside I'm feeling awful.
Oh my goodness!!!!!!!!!!!
Am I the only one who does this? I think not. So how can we turn this around?
STOP. What I do is totally change what I'm thinking about. I will walk around my home and appreciate the things I do have. I will play with my cat. I will call a friend or go outside and do something. When I'm in a place of feeling good, about something else...........THEN I will begin dreaming about the new car I desire. I find a picture of the car. I put it where I can see it. And then do my best to let it go. The desire/order has been sent. Now my job is to feel good. As good as I think the new car will help me feel. But rather than think I need the car in order to feel good....... I feel good about every single thing in my life RIGHT NOW.
Then, when the old habit of worry and lack returns. I STOP and start over.
It has helped me to write this out. I hope it helps someone else too.