Empaths sometimes practice a disempowering story, that basically says, “I am powerless over how I feel. If someone is happy, I’m happy. If someone is unhappy, I am forced to be unhappy. I am like a bag in the wind, of other people’s reactions.”
There is no way you can tell that story, and feel good. The reason is, your Inner Being doesn’t agree with it. Any thought you think that is disempowering, is not true.
You can be aware of people’s emotions, and understand why they feel that way, but you’re not actually feeling their feelings. Their emotions are theirs, and yours are yours.
If someone is upset, they are focused on what they don’t want. If you are upset because they are, you are focused on what you don’t want. So you both feel upset, for the same, general reason (specifics may vary). You are receiving your own, individual guidance, that has nothing to do with the other person, other than how you are thinking about them.
You create your emotions. But if you don’t know you are the one doing it, you then logically (although inaccurately) assume, it must be coming from someone/something else. But there is no emotional assertion. You are not at the whim of how other people feel.
It’s just a simple matter of hyper sensitivity (meaning, you’re more aware of what you do and don’t want), combined with a lack of focus, that causes your heightened awareness of lack and what you don’t want, which results in feeling stronger negative emotion.
When you focus more on what you want, then you don’t feel upset, regardless of how they feel. When you see things are working out for them, even when they don’t see it, then you feel better. So if you feel worse because someone else does, that means your perception is off. Your negative emotion never comes from what someone else thinks; it always comes from what you think, about what they think.
Being an empath gives you a tremendous incentive to focus only on what you want, because it feels that much worse when you’re not doing that, which allows you to be a greater benefit to yourself and others.
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p.s. anyway as regards this topic i'd like to share a quote i like:
I appreciate your thoughts.
“Feel angry for no apparent reason. Usually afterwards in hindsight we learn that everyone in the room was angry.”
The reason the person would feel angry, is if they were judging something as wrong. People only think there’s no reason, when they’re not paying enough attention to how they feel, and haven’t made the connection between their thoughts and emotions.
If someone feels upset, that means they were judging something as wrong (whether it be how other people felt, other people’s perception of them, they don’t want to be there, they feel obligated to be there and would rather be doing something else, etc.) which is why they would receive guidance in the form of feeling angry themselves, to let them know that their thoughts are not in alignment.
When you accept everyone as they are, you are focused on what you want, and then you feel relaxed, regardless of how other people feel. Because their guidance system, doesn’t affect your guidance system.
When you see the value in everything, you don’t feel angry (which is feeling powerless) because it’s a different vibration. If you feel angry, you were on the frequency of anger first, to allow yourself to feel that way, otherwise you wouldn’t experience it.
For example, if you feel comfortable and relaxed, you don’t feel angry, unless you judge something as wrong (a.k.a. not seeing the value in something), then you drop your vibration, because you feel more powerless, and receive anger as guidance. Now, anyone else who is angry, Law of Attraction helps you two rendezvous together. That person didn’t make you angry, they were your indicator to reflect that you were already angry, or close enough, in order to be able to feel that way, otherwise how they feel wouldn’t bother you. A mirror reflects more accurately of what is closest to it.
If you’re in joy, you’re not going to drop down to depression, if someone else feels that way, unless you view their depression as wrong, and focus on the lack of their well-being.
When you only focus on what you like about them, and they’re doing great, they’re right on their path, then you remain in joy.
You're welcome, Dorothy. Glad it helped.
I completely disagree with you 100 percent.
I have another perspective. I literally take on other peoples emotions. At times I must physically pull my aura in to protect myself from their energy. I like Abes advice. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=04EkAaelCco