I dont want to think of my current situation impossible. But how am i to be, when he says he doesnt want a relationship and he only wants me as a friend.
I asked why are you on dating sites, that leads to potential for a relationship. He says yes eventually.
So I dont know?? I am lost and confused.
OMG the above is so, so true. There can be no "forcing". I let go and release, and it is easy. Thank you so much for posting this... what a journey in a single post!
Thank you so much @tunasandwich5 for this beautiful story, full of inspiration. I had a realisation today, that in my grief over a breakup I was wallowing on other forums and negative thoughts, pouring over the details of what my ex said, what his new gf looks like, looking at the problems and reading comments saying you can't get someone back. Today, I noticed something, a pattern in what's happened to me which is all down to the way I have been vibrating.
In March last year I became spiritually strong, as I was at a low point in my life: (1) I was feeling unloved (single),(2) I was jobless with huge debts but enjoyed the freedom, and (3) I was fearing I'd never find love to start a family, it was too late (I am age 41). I started doing I AM affirmations, and felt the truth of them (I am love, I am money, etc). And the three desires all manifested:
In May I was offered my dream job which wasn't even advertised by came out of the blue, with a good salary and working from home, with a boss on the other side of the world = job + money + freedom
In July I met a man who I immediately knew was going to be special. I resisted the opportunity until September when I opened my heart and dated him, and we got into a loving relationship.
In October, our contraception failed one time and I feel pregnant straight away. Although it was a shock, we were happy together and getting used to the idea.
Then.... I don't know what happened.... I started to FEAR. And fear took over me. I stopped reading my LOA guides and forgot about what I was attracting. I feared I was not good enough, that I didn't love my bf, that I couldn't cope with a child, that I wasn't good at my job. And guess what.... in December I had a miscarriage, and in January I was told both the job was coming to an end and that my bf didn't want to be with me anymore on the same day, and heard a few weeks later he'd hooked up with a new gf. I lost all three things in the space of a few weeks. This was so horrible for me, I was devastated and on a negative thought spiral. The more I was reading on forums about break ups and miscarriage it was all compounding my negative head mess.
I realised I did want a baby, and I wanted my bf back and for it to be his baby, and I wanted my job back. I started to re-read Abraham-Hicks. It's been tough to raise my vibration and keep it high. I am becoming more aware of when negative thought and doubt happens.
A few weeks ago, I discovered I was already pregnant again! By my ex-bf, as we didn't use a condom just one time in January just 19 days after the miscarriage, right before we broke up, and I happened to conceive straight away. I love this little soul that is choosing to come into my life - this time it is a healthy baby, I already had the scan, all is well :-) :-)
Now yesterday, I got offered my job back, as the boss restructured the company and found space for me and want me to work long-term. So I can continue with the work I love, and it means I get to work from home while pregnant/with the baby, and have a good income. :-) :-)
So already, two of the three desires have completely changed from my losing them to having them again and this time they are stronger.
Now the third thing.... I want my ex back, I love him, and feel happy with him. I want us to be a family. He knows about the baby, but he is acting distant and uncaring and has hooked up with a new girlfriend. This was causing me so much pain. But now I know it is a matter of my FOCUS and BELIEF, and just as the LOA has worked on all three things before, this relationship issue too will change to come back to me stronger than before. :-) :-)
I think when you witness the LOA other areas of your life, and how you can attract things, lose them, and then regain them as a result of your thought patterns, it helps with letting go and believing it will come back xx
hello guys!! especially tunasandwich5, your post really made me to join this forum n inspired me alot..i know its after so many years m reading your post but thing what make me to read is that same happening in my life :)
i wonder after reading your story its almost same as mine..i really need a guidance from everyone as m real confused these days..
before asking i should give some details about my relation..its been 7 years now that i m connected to a person very deeply..6 yrs was in our relation was all fine i mean there was nothing wrong which i ever thought of being aparted..yeah except of mistakes did by me :( and m still cry for what i did with my heavenly relation..its a same like i treated him horribly, all insecurities and my ego bring me to this stage..he used to tell me that if i keep on doing same then one day something real bad will happen which is not in his control aswell..AND same thing happened..i dont know how his extreme love have been suddenly changed..i have been gone through all stages of of breakup..was depressed in almost entire last year..my confidence, my strength everything has been lost because after lose him i got to realize everything..and this realization changed me completely..we were on n off contact with each other because he said that he cant be with me but he likes to care about me..that's also irritating for me...so i quit contact with him for 4 month..and tried to move on n wanted him same..he resisted for my decision but i made it same way..
anyway after 4 month in last november he again contacted me..because he got to know from somewhere that m not fine..n not having normal life..we again started conversation but very less..he again showed his care toward me..actually the thing which always disturbed me is our long distance relationship, we both live in different cities..n after breakup he moved to another country..so communication gap always basic issue bw us..
after contact me back he tried to bring me back to life alwAys tried to cheer me up and then he once told me that when we were having distances in our relationship there is girl proposed him..after denying twice, he has to agree with her because at that moment he thought that i must be having good life somewhere so he should move on too..but now thing making him n me confused from month that he doesn't want to leave me but because of that girl he is unable to make his mind for me..he is pressurized from other side as well..and in my case he had already losted all hopes year back then all this complications make his mind real puzzled..
few days back i asked him to move with that girl n not to think about me..he said he cant leave me, he want me to help him together for making things like before..he want me to help him for removing all thoughts..but all those thoughts when he bring back hurt me badly..i dont know what to do..i think i can bring him back because after everything he is still with me..but i want to know helping him this way is worthy? he wants me to extend communication same as before but m afraid of his thoughts..how can i make him get rid of it..i really want to help him and want him same back in my life..but m confused how can i support him in this case??
its first time i m posting in some forum..time makes me to read post like this:) i never thought of my life this way..
I have tried for 4 months....I know we are meant to be. As stupid as it sounds. I know he will be back soon :) But why does it seem to be getting worse? I just heard that he recently has a new gf. I am not sure what to think. We were together for 2.5 years. He told me he would always love me but he was frustrated. I used LOA to get my life back together...while hopig he would find his way back. But why does it seem that he's going further away and not back? I have tried letting it go...but its kinda hard...because I miss him. How do i just ...let him go? I know i will be posting my success story soon. :) I just need to master this art first
I am a late-comer to this thread, but it's no accident I found it today.
I am very encouraged by the success stories about attracting love, whether an ex or a new one. That's where I am today.
I have been an online dater for a long time now, but not very successfully. Especially in the last two weeks, I have been shot down spectacularly no matter how positive I intended to be, both online and elsewhere.
In the middle of last week I was contacted by a woman I had not seen before in my online searches. Although it was a "Like" of one of my photos, she sent a nice, flirty short email with it. When I reviewed her profile, I found myself encouraged and quite attracted, so I composed a nice, airy, flirty and light-hearted letter back. But she said she had been getting "more than her share of dates and while I was a favorite, she couldn't accept any more. She had so many offers she was confused. She then proceeded to write that I was a great catch and that plenty of quality women would be looking my way. (Well, that part is true...they do look. But that's all they do) And that if she became available again she would contact me "down the road".
Needless to say, that was one more bit of frustration I attracted and I wrote back from that perspective. I was not nasty but I did gently question that if she was so successful and busy, why was she looking around even more? And why look at me now if she didn't have time now but "might" contact me in the future. I ended up saying that if she was really attracted, I would be on the A List now and not "maybe in the future".
I closed the letter saying I really wished I could change her mind but there was not much more I could say. Then I sincerely and truly wished her well.
She read the letter within hours but did not respond.
The next morning as I was driving to work, I felt that an apology was very appropriate because she had been gracious and complimentary and was leaving an open door. Yet I reacted out of frustration and while not nasty or mean, not particularly gracious, kind and understanding either. So I sent a copy of all our correspondence to a friend (also an LoA/Abe enthusiast), who agreed that while I might feel a bit better for having told her off somewhat, an apology was a better idea. I did write back asking for forgiveness and explaining I had been experiencing much frustration lately and reacted rudely, something not truly not like me. I ended up asking one more time for forgiveness and that I would be grateful if she would give me a second look....and a second chance.
That was last Friday, and while she read the apology later that day, I have not heard back from her. (At least she read it)
Now the thing is......I really do have a strong intuition that we could be good together. It's not a bruised ego talking, not desperation and trying to make her "The One"....I am sincerely interested and intrigued by the possibilities we are. It actually surprises me somewhat to feel this way, but it pleases me too.
I am working with a Neville Goddard process and a Goddy technique (which is mental seduction but I am using it to create more than sexual attraction....I fact, my true intention is to create a space for love to unfold. I just started yesterday so I am a long way from taking score.
All the success stories encourage me, but also make me wonder....of course it's possible for me, but am I barking up the wrong tree? After all, we've never even had date in the physical realm.
I read what Abraham has to say about the two reasons why what you want doesn't manifest: first, you are not really a vibrational match to your desire and it can't come until you are. The second is you ARE a vibrational match to your desire but the particular fulfillment you want is not, and the Universe won't bring that either. Or is it simply that there is a small but significant vibrational mismatch that can be aligned? She is obviously looking for someone, and despite all her dates she is still looking so she much not have found what she wants....and at least I come close. And maybe it's me needing to get to that 51% tipping point of looking more at what I desire than what's lacking.
I am interested in your perspective.
I am new here and don't know how to post or anything...but anyway I found this site because I am in a bad way..i almost took my life because I lost my sweetheart..and I am trying to find a way to get her back..we was together for 16 months and we was deep in love and best friends..but she is in a devorce and it was hard because I had to hid from people, we broke up in dec 2012 and she said she wants to be friends, I tried to be friends,but it was hard because I am sooo in love with her, and she was my best friend, 3 months ago I called her and told her the friends thing is not working out and I am going to go on with my life..hoping she would relize she loves me ! I have not heard from her in 3 months and I die every day !! I really need help to get her back in my life..please help me !!
I get your pain and frustration......as my post just a few minutes ago shows, I have had much frustration too.
If you are dying everyday, it sounds to me like you are concentrating much more on lack that on conjuring what you want. As I have proven over and over again, focusing on lack creates and brings more lack, and of course she can't come back to you. We have to find a way to go down a different road.
I know, I know how hard it is to focus on other things that bring you joy when the other is so "in your face". I also was close to making my exit on Friday night, even to the point of beginning to make plans. Fortunately, my natural state of enthusiasm kicked in and I stayed in the world. The very next day things started to improve and just a few more days have me feeling slightly hopeful...far better that extreme frustration.....or worse, despair.
In terms of what to do, there are two processes I am currently working with. One is by Neville Goddard on how to attract a mate, and the other is a Goddy technique on how to absolutely attract the person you want. it may take several weeks or several months, but it certain to work. Just be prepared to be patient and diligent a little while longer....and of course to make yourself ready for the day when she does come to you.
Not certain where to find the Goddy technique and I don't know how to post a large file here. If this site allows it, gie me your email address and I will send you the file. Neville Goddard you can find by doing a google search