there is no hope, there is sureness! as long as you visualize what you want & mantain your balance by feeling good you will achieve all your dreams.
“Do you think there's hope? Please be honest with me. Or should I just give up and force myself to settle for anyone else just to forget him and move on?”
Or you could take the third option: Focus on soothing yourself and think thoughts that help you feel better.
This whole post was about how someone else was making you feel. When your emotions are created from the thoughts you think about them. So when you think different thoughts, you will help yourself feel better.
This isn’t about your relationship with someone else, this is about your relationship with yourself.
“But if I can get back the relationship with that someone else I wouldn't be feeling like this . . .”
That’s true, and also conditional. When you base your emotions on the conditions and others, then your emotions will forever be in a state of flux, going up and down, up and down, up and down depending on what’s happening. So you will be offering resistance to what you want and then slow everything down and keep yourself away from what you want because you need conditions to be different so you can feel better. But what you’re learning is how to focus your thoughts so you can feel better with yourself and your life right now. Then you allow yourself to have the relationship you want and free your partner from how you feel and no longer need them to be any particular way so that you can feel good, because you have shown yourself you can feel good unconditionally. Then your partner will appreciate the complete freedom you allow them because they are off the hook for how you feel. And that’s what everyone wants.
Yes it is possible, but only through feeling better regardless if you get back together. If you don’t need to get back together, you allow the greatest possibility for you or someone who is a match to what you want to get back together.
Brilliantly said Brian!
Honestly, I can understand why he's moved on, your so desperate, dependent and in need of his attention that you can't even maintain you're own sense of self. Attraction wise, you don't attract what you WANT you attract what you ARE, and its clear that you don't think highly of yourself. I don't mean to sound cruel but too many people walk around wanting their ex feeling like crap while failing to truly understand LOA. It's not just thinking positive and hoping that the ex will magically come back, it's about your relationship with yourself and how good you can be to yourself.
And you can feel better without the ex, your happiness isn't dependent on the ex even though you're making it so. Is there hope? Of course, but its all about you and how you feel about yourself than anything else, but right now you're your own worst enemy. Also, MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS, looking at what he is doing is only making you feel worst which is not helping the cause. Loa is about feeling better not worst.
You're welcome, you deserve your own love and attention that you can only give yourself. Have self compassion, love and patience, that is what made my own journey easier. Its not always easy but it's not impossible. *hugs*