Having trouble believing....

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Permalink Reply by David on November 29, 2009 at 2:45pm

I think a few things I'd suggest.

How it works: LOA works with you attracting things to you, and it's about your relationship with the Universe. This is an amazing powerful thing...which is why it's not always relevant to ask an outsider. I think asking for techniques and guidance on here is the right thing to do but the type of questions you're asking only you/your higher self and the universe can actually answer...because if you don't believe LOA is working then that's the truth.

How to make it work: again, different for everyone. I've tried different methods. Some work, others didn't but I had to try them. It's just like life, you try things, see if it's for you , if not you move on. But it's important to make a note of what does work for you! Like when you learn a new skill you keep a mental storage of it. I've seen you post that the magnet to money video works for you so keep doing it. Don't be upset if it doesn't work, just move on to the next thing.

Ask: This is the most important thing for me is to ask. If you're stuck ask 'how do I get out of this?' if you don't believe 'ask for help to make me believe' no matter what you're problem is always always Ask for what you want.

There are so many things to consider with LOA and so many different adventures people have had, I've heard so many but I always remember to make a note of what works for me.

Some things always in my mind:
'A belief is just a thought I keep thinking' Abraham Hicks quote. So I know to keep thinking of something then it's a belief. It doesn't matter if you're unemployed, you think to yourself 'I don't deserve this' it's not about deserving it's about focused thought and you thought more of being unemployed than employed. Been there myself! When you read it like that it takes less pressure to believe you deserve what you want.

Vibration. Have to make an effort to get into the vortex, or get into a feeling good place. Finding out what makes it easy for me and doing that.

Changing thoughts; Change your thoughts, change your life. We all want things, that's easy but you have to change your concious and subconscious thoughts so that we focus on what we do want without negative believes coming in. This requires effort and a bit of time but you have to make the effort to begin with! Nower days I do have thoughts of what could go wrong but they last minutes before I change them and focus on what I do want. It's amazing I got to this point...what does it for me is almost the threat of what happens if I don't think this way.

Solutions not problems: Always focus on a solution, the end result - not a problem.

What you resist persists: Resisting something. Shouting no doesn't make it go away it just says you accept it and include it in your thoughts, don't focus on it. Say 'no I don't want this' but don't resist it.

The thing is all the tools to do this are available for free and on here but you have to open yourself up to be attracted to seeing them. I got all this info from here, books, dvds; applied it and used it and it works. I mean when you say you want really unbelievable stories - well there are loads posted here all the time and it's also asking for something to believe in, which isn't actually believeable so you're just creating more 'confused' head place to be in. Something as simple as changing that to 'Can someone tell me a story which will just blow me away at how it turned out?' would make a world of difference.

Which I'll add:

Watch your words. I was watching a Louise Hay video and she said it's as if the universe listens to every word you say. I'm not saying monitor your words but if you say negative words and put them out there then it's attracting it. Like it says in The Secret. Don't talk about it, don't think about it, don't write about what you don't want!

Star you are amazing and full of potential. Never give up! No matter what.
This is the best reply I can give you as the tips I said may very well not work for you but they do for me...it's all about your personal thoughts and the universe responding!

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Permalink Reply by athena on November 29, 2009 at 2:50pm

I just want to add there are TONS of people wanting their ex back and YOU got it.
So you're doing something right.
And also you say the $5000 came from his business & you are unemployed. Yeah but you are FREE to take up jobs or opportunities. (Yes I'm not saying that automatically means you have the money for them but you are ready, willing and able.

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Permalink Reply by genevieve on November 29, 2009 at 3:06pm

Hi Star,

I have had a lot of doubts about LOA over the years of trying to understand it. sometimes it is a good idea just to forget it and just live life as you did before. But you may find like I did, that once you learn about it, it never goes away. It just becomes a fact of life.

sometimes too, it is helpful to stop asking and just observe the negative things that happen in your life and amazingly you will remember the negative thoughts and feelings you had in hte weeks leading up to it that made it happen. Often our negative manifestations are easier to 'see' than the positive ones, and I think it is because we tend to be negative by nature and many of us NEVER dreamed big dreams of money or health or good things and so we are new to manifesting 'positive' things and are not really good at it, at least not as good as manifesting hte little negative things.

Then when you get back to allowing yourself to Ask and Dream, you may have a fresh outlook, and not put so much importance into getting the big things or that sinking feeling that if you ask you might be disappointed ...then magically and slowly little good things start to manifest and back comes the belief.

We need to be gentle with ourselves, especially when chaning core beliefs !

So love yourself, you are a Star !

love and light Gen

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Permalink Reply by Star on November 29, 2009 at 3:26pm

Thanks Gen :) You are right. When you say 'often our negative manifestations are easier to see than the positive ones' that is so true.
If I think about what my beliefs have been for quite a while. I have no job, I cant get a job, its so hard to find a job, Im stuck. You have no idea how many times I have said these words to people. And guess what, it has remained my reality lol
I can think of 1000 other examples. So that really is proof that LOA works lol I just need to start changing my beliefs to positive ones.
About what you said forgetting it and just living life as I did before, even considering this makes me feel bad lol
Because LOA gives me so much hope. It is the thing that keeps me going everyday.
I may have trouble getting myself to believe, but I always walk around thinking, its ok, you have LOA things will change for you, they are changing. But because I then go on to thinking, wel i havent got this desire, I havent got this, I dont have that... it seems impossible for me to... etc, thats why its going back down.
Im kinda like scales, theres one side of me thats great and is believing and then theres the other non believing side that balances it out so I constantly remain stuck lol
If I can tip the scale so that my desires and my positive outlook takes over, thats when I will start seeing changes. :)
Thanks for your help :P

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Permalink Reply by Star on November 29, 2009 at 3:15pm

Thanks David, you always give such good advice :)
and Athena, your right, I did attract my ex back(for a short time though lol) and do you know what both of your comments have made me realise? Im just not trying hard enough lol
Ive just thought well, what am I doing everyday to try and make LOA work for me? Not alot, is the truth.
I think back to when I wanted my ex back and I committed to believing he would come back.
I visualised and I affirmed to help me believe and I let go and I conciously put things into practise.
And it worked. With my other desires, right now, I am not really doing anything. I am just setting intentions here there and everywhere and then Im not doing anything to get me to BELIEVE that they are coming.
I cant just expect to believe when I am not even trying to believe can I? lol and thats what I have been doing.
Im so silly lol That is the work I need to do, find a way to BELIEVE that they are coming so I will be in a receiving mode.
Else I havent really tried have I lol
I cant say, oooh LOA isnt working for me, because I am not making any effort at the moment to make myself believe my desires are there on a daily basis. So there is nothing wrong with the law of attraction, I'm just not applying it correctly! lol
When I wanted my ex back, I wanted it so passionately at first and I would refuse to believe that anything could stop me.
I think, I am just becoming a bit lazy lol
I am not even trying, I am just thinking, ooh my desires will come,but I am not believing because I'm not really trying anything that is getting me to believe.
I kinda gave up a bit lately. I was doing visualisations and writing affirmations everyday at one point, but I stopped.
I am gunna commit to believing every day from now on.
I am gunna try lots of different ways of believing, experiment with everything. Im gunna really put 100% in.
What have I got to lose?
Even if the LOA doesnt work, I will be a happier person just by believing.
And if I think about it, LOA does work. There are so many examples I have seen.
and there isnt a way it couldnt work really. If I believe I am a person that can achieve anything they want to I will become that kind of person.
Its like when I think back to when I was little. I could do anything I wanted to then!
I really could.
Things used to happen for me with ease, and people always used to comment on how amazing I was lol
And I believed I could do anything I wanted.
I used to always think, and I'm talking from a very young age, 'I can do anything I put my mind to'
Because I could.
All I had to do was want it and focus on it and it would happen.
I even used to tell people that I had things or I could do things before I actually had them or could, because I knew I would do it! lol
I remember at the age of 7 telling my dad that I won a singing competition. the singing competition hadnt actually took place yet.
But I told him I won and he was congratulating me and was really happy.
And it hadnt even took place lol but I knew I was going to win... I did lol
I still have the trophy :P
I am gunna commit everyday to getting that mindset again. To believing that I already have my desires :)

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Permalink Reply by David on November 29, 2009 at 3:24pm

That's more like it!!!
I remember when I came on here first I wasn't so sure what to do and all these people telling me things I couldn't even logically understand and then months later it became a reality for me.

Also I think what you may be experiencing is overflooding your brain with info. I did this and at times it felt like my brain was in a washing machine, if that happens, sit back and relax for a few days because otherwise you can't think straight.

Notice how all your experiences/successes flowed nicely together (as the universe wants) compared to 'got to get this done, gotta do this, then this, then this, then this, that'll sort that out, then that...then I'll be okay asap' when it never works like that. :)

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Permalink Reply by genevieve on November 29, 2009 at 3:41pm

You have helped me too Star, as I have lots of reasons to believe in LOA, I had a healing, but I have been "trying" to heal my eyesight and am constantly feeling negative about it ...but I was looking for a particular video to post here and couldnt find it but I found an even better one and it shows ME how to finally put my eyesight right

Here it is Abraham with even more wisdom for us - Its about physical pain, but for mental anquish it is the same cure !


The sentence that did it for me is the one about if you are 70% of the time in the vortex ie not thinking about the things that are going wrong in your life, then you are HEALED. Not the exact words but ....wow ...I got it

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