Hi everyone !
Hope everyone is well!
I have been away from the boards for a while but I am struggling with some things and I feel confident that you guys will be able to help me.
I have been in a new relationship for about 4 months now and it has been great . He made it apparent he was interested and we flirted for a long time before our first date .
He was very unhappy in his current relationship and he was not single for long before we began to date.
This is where the issues arise ... Even though his ex and Him have been separated for a few months now she is still so much a part of his life ... So much so he has had to move back into their flat to support her through some tough times. She has no idea about me as he says he doesn't want to hurt her anymore than he already has becasue be broke things off but it now means we have no time together , he deletes our conversations/ can't talk much etc because he is with her.
This is causing issues because she is trying to win him back and I know she will be doing everything to try and tempt him.
I know it's putting him In a difficult position because he isn't happy with her and he is having to stay there .... says he loves me and misses me etc but I get jealous and worried .
I am leaving for three months and we already never see each other , I'm struggling with it a lot.
His actions don't seem to match with what he is saying sometimes ... Like he misses me etc but doesn't make an effort to try to see me ?
When we do get time together it's great and we are so connected but it's the time apart that is causing issues.
I need help trying to turn this around because when I come back from my trip he has made it clear he wants us to be together fully but I feel like a dirty side piece right now ... Can I tolerate this until I get back? Is love this difficult ?
I know it's about supporting each other and I really admire him being honourable trying to help his ex etc but I also feel selfish by wanting us to have time together and able to do normal things like go on dates etc .
So many conflicting emotions and I really could use some help with clarifying the situation and trying to be a bit more positive about our future.
Thank you so much in advance