How concentrate on the good?
I know if the relationship is in trouble you have to only think good and remeber the best times and concentrate on what you appriciate about the other person. Here's the dilema that I've tried to figure out on my own, but don't understand.
The are a ton of qualities I love in my husband but there isn't much good to remember. We haven't been married long and he's not with me at the moment, but will be flying in shortly. I told him I love him a lot but afraid that things are going to be the way they were when we were living together which hasn't been long either and he tells me I've upset him and stabbed him in the back with it. I was hoping for a different reaction of course. Which makes me think that I'll never tell him anything again. Most of the time when I tell him whats bothering me, he tells me I've upset him and a fight usually starts. There have been a lot of tears, broken promises and a lot of fights. I have never fought so much in such a short time with anyone. Now I don't see him and it may be a few more months before he comes. He promises golden mountains, says he loves very much and told me to chose. Believe him and stay or divorse. Of course I don't want divorse but I don't believe him anymore. I already did once. He says remember the good stuff and I know hes right but I can count all the good on my fingers. But I don't want to make a mistake, I already did by marrying too early.
I don't know what to think anymore.
The are a ton of qualities I love in my husband but there isn't much good to remember. We haven't been married long and he's not with me at the moment, but will be flying in shortly. I told him I love him a lot but afraid that things are going to be the way they were when we were living together which hasn't been long either and he tells me I've upset him and stabbed him in the back with it. I was hoping for a different reaction of course. Which makes me think that I'll never tell him anything again. Most of the time when I tell him whats bothering me, he tells me I've upset him and a fight usually starts. There have been a lot of tears, broken promises and a lot of fights. I have never fought so much in such a short time with anyone. Now I don't see him and it may be a few more months before he comes. He promises golden mountains, says he loves very much and told me to chose. Believe him and stay or divorse. Of course I don't want divorse but I don't believe him anymore. I already did once. He says remember the good stuff and I know hes right but I can count all the good on my fingers. But I don't want to make a mistake, I already did by marrying too early.
I don't know what to think anymore.
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Permalink Reply by Eve_Kamenskih on -
I'm somewhere in the middle. I'm actually pretty happy, but all the doubts, fear and the rest mostly associated with him. So when I don't think about him I'm happy and when he comes to mind, for some reason no matter how hard I try, I cannot imagine anything good. Its been two days since I last talked to him and it feels good. Can't believe I'm saying this! bad bad girl. lol
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Permalink Reply by TonyToneTone on -
What did you end up deciding?
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Permalink Reply by Eve_Kamenskih on
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Oh I don't know Tony. We had this big plan, so much was done and now this. He said he's living town for a while so I haven't talked to him for a few days, but sent him a text just askeng how's work. Didn't get a reply reply. Maybe he doesn't want to or maybe he didn't get it.
I don't want to decide anything. Its too hard : )
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Permalink Reply by Robert James on -
Sometimes we do more harm by being sincere and honest. and sometimes it si better not to tell something if you feel it is going to upset the other person. It is the vibration, the frequency thing. Every thought, word or deed has a frequency. So if you hit him with some negative freq(for you ur thought), then it will cause a turbulence in his energy field.
You can change that by meditation. You can change your aura, and also his aura ...
Most of the times it is not what we think
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