She is my first and eldest as I have 2 younger ones. From point potty training we have always had some issues with constpitation and soiling herself. Well it continues some week worse and since xmas it has been. I have been to doctor and laxatives make it worse. I think its more psychological as in too busy playing and doesnt want to sit on the toilet. Attention. I have tried lots including not giving it attention ! Pretty hard when it's happening alot. This is hard when it comes to kids. If only she would just sit on the toilet. She hates it. Please advice best way??? She is otherwise a great healthy little kid!
Okay with your eldest, have you tried showing her that there is a reward to sitting on the toilet? You see kids are great learners and so if they think there is a benefit from doing something like that, and they get a treat, they will do it non stop for that treat. The other thing is to make it a fun thing for her to do. I get that she hates it, but maybe that’s part of the reason she doesn’t want to do it. How could you make it more fun for her?
So what is your thoughts here then? What do you think you need to do differently? At 6 years have you tried talking to her about it?
Okay, maybe its the "trying". You know when we try anything we set ourselves up for failure, because it means that we are not fully committed to creating change. Its like having one foot in and one foot out. Now when she is fine, how are you reacting? Are you giving her praise, telling her how much you like it that way. When she isn't fine, how do you respond? Teachers and health visitor are all good sources and will no doubt help.
I do not have direct advice like a reward to give you. I would suggests cycling through rewards for that. Maybe a treat she hasn't had before.
As for the LOA of attraction, I have advice that has worked great for me. My child can be stubborn like I have never seen in any other child. It use to drive me bananas. What I started doing is telling her the things that I was grateful for regarding her. It didn't have to be immediately true as she is still very young. But I believe I am speaking these good things into her. I do that for her before bed. She beams at me while I do it and goes to bed with far less protest. Then before I go to bed I write a list the things that she did that day that I appreciated and the things about her I like. I list no less than 10. I read the list aloud to myself sometimes too. When I do these things, I find it easy for me to feel feelings of gratitude because she is doing awesome things already and I am believe I am laying the foundation for greatness. Her behavior is often better the next day. Even when it isn't, I find that I get frustrated with her far less.
You're welcome. The rule of thumb is 21 days. Please let me know how it worked for you.
That is wonderful! Starting her off early manifesting great things.
Have you looked at the Sarah books by Esther Hicks/Abraham hicks? They are for children.