Hi everyone. I'm currently going through a break up and am having a very hard time dealing with it.
I had been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half and everything was going perfectly, we saw each other everyday and we would never fight or have issues with cheating or losing feelings etc. We were extremely happy together.
It happened just over a week ago when she texted me saying that she wanted a break because she had to focus on school this year, as she is taking very hard subjects like math, chemistry, physics etc. She had already failed her last year so she is redoing this year. I completely understood that and offered an alternative of only seeing her once a week on the weekends. She said that would be too hard and she doesn't want to be in a relationship where she can only see me once a week. I asked if I did anything wrong and she told me I was the best boyfriend.
I recently texted her the other day to see how she was doing and asked if she still loved me, she said yes but I'm just making it harder. I then told her I'd be willing to wait as long as it takes and she replied 'don't wait you're just waiting your time. Once I'm done this I have to go to college and I won't have time for a boyfriend'. I was devastated. It all came out of the blue. I know we can make it work because we both love each other and it's important to find balance in life.
However, I do feel it has something to do with her mom, long story short her mother screwed over her father in terms of money and now she is no longer talking to her mother. This happened just a few weeks ago. I have talked to many people about it and most of them say she's scared to love anymore because if your own mom can't love you than who can? I think she is just taking everything really badly and is trying to cut out the things in her life that she has control over. Because I never did anything wrong and we had a great relationship.
We are meeting up at some point to get each others things back and I'm not quite sure what to say when this meeting happens. I have not been able to stop thinking about this and it's driving me crazy. I just want my love back. I have been writing affirmations down in a journal about us being together and how great our relationship is in the present tense. I also try and visualise us together and think positive thoughts. Some times I can't help but think negatively though. I really need some advice as to how I go about bringing her back into my life. Because I know we can make it work even if we can't see each other as much.
Thank you so much for reading!
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