my boyfriend just broke up with me a few days ago and since the breakup i keep think about him and obsess over him and where he is and who he's with. i know that these types of thoughts are what is pushing him away and i want to stop think about but it is really difficult. i plan on using loa to attract him back but i know that in order to do this i have to stop thinking about him and the past relationship constantly. do any of you guys have any advice for this o i can stop obsessing and start being the best version of myself
Okay – first turn your attention away from him. I know that is easier said than done, but your focus is key here. Look at what you want in your next relationship. Get really clear on what will work for you. You see the real problem with “relationship” is that it means different things to different people. So for some, it means lots of quality time and physical contact, for others it can mean something different – like words of praise and affirmation etc. So its helpful to review what really worked in that relationship for you, and also what wasn’t working. This is invaluable because once you start recognising that, and becoming aware of that, you start to vibrate and attract that from the universe – and it may be from this ex or someone completely different who is more compatible for you than this person is.
Now “obsessing” isn’t actually a bad thing – it can be a good thing too as you can use it to help create the life you desire to live. You have said you want to be the best version of yourself – that’s an excellent goal to focus and obsess over and get clear on what that means for you too. Plus have fun doing it. Look at what you desire in your life – what its going to be like, the things you will do, the kind of emotions you will feel, so you start attracting and vibrating that and then let the universe start working for you.
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Thank you for the advice I saw my ex today and we talked for a little bit and i think he is upset about the break up he did ask me if i was following him but i explained to him that i wasn't. i'm taking this as a sign to continue to improve myself for a better relationship with him or someone else
You want to continue to improve yourself for you - not for a relationship.