How to visualize or how to do to get this result?

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Permalink Reply by Kahu on November 30, 2008 at 5:32pm

When you understand how the Law of Attraction works then you will see that yes you can do this.

What attracts people most to one another confidence and acceptance. Working on your self esteme and confidence is the best wayto attract attention from others. People's behaviour towards us is influenced by our internal expectations and beliefs about how we deserve to be treated and we tend to attract people who have that behaviour within their patterns even though it might only show with one person ever.

Start to see yourself as an attractive and confident person and you will begin to become this. You will then attract attention to match. It does take time because the new vision has to transfer from the conscious mind into subconscious or physical level before it reflects in experience.

Aloha
Kahurangi

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Permalink Reply by chengchen on December 1, 2008 at 9:42am

What about if you want everyone to find you excepctionally beautiful? Do you have to visualize that as well? And how to do for your face to change to looking sweet?

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Permalink Reply by Kahu on December 1, 2008 at 2:51pm

Well we can't controll how other people see us, we can only work on how we see ourselves and feel about ourselves. By having positive expectations around how we want people to see us others will respond to that one way or another.

By building self esteme it becomes less important to us what other people think and see about us and we attract people who see us in the best light so the effect is the same as what you are looking for.

Being relaxed and feeling happy affects the expression not only on our faces but in the way we hold ourselves and move. Visualise the way you would like to see yourself in the mirror and spend some time looking at people to see if there are models of what you want so your subconscious can copy them.

http://www.alohainternational.org/html/booklets.html

There are two booklets available to download from this site. They are based on ancient Polynesian wisdom from Hawaii and have some wonderful techniques to enhance your good feelings about yourself. Also available from www.huna.net is a book by Serge Kahili King called Healing Relationships which deals very well with our internal relationship with ourselves. It explains this inner need for acceptance and how to feel accepted, loved and effective - the three basic human needs.

Hope that helps

Aloha
Kahurangi

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Permalink Reply by chengchen on December 1, 2008 at 6:21pm

Thanks for your help Kahu, will check the web site. But then, if we can´t contol how other people see us the it will be not possible to be seen as pretty and get attention from boys right?

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Permalink Reply by Kahu on December 1, 2008 at 6:23pm

Not at all chenqchen - we can have a lot of influence and will attract people who respond to that.

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Permalink Reply by chengchen on December 2, 2008 at 7:49am

Do you mean that the people who thinks i´m not good looking and the boys that don´t pay attention to me will dissapear from my reallity and people who will think i´m pretty and boys that will pay attention to me will appear?

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Permalink Reply by Milou on December 2, 2008 at 8:34am

I don't really see why you need other people to think you're extremely beautiful. They won't if you don't. A low-selfesteem shows, nearly always. And it's not exceptionally beautiful. Love yourself. You don't need someone to think you're beautiful.

Trust me. I know. I've been there. Plus, I want someone to love me for me. Not my looks..

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Permalink Reply by chengchen on December 2, 2008 at 8:59am

I can understand your point of view Milou, but i see it this way...

I don´t really see why some people want to be very rich, for me money is not important, i don´t see why some people wants to be very successful on business cos for me is not important, if i have enough money for my dayly expenses i´m already happy... there´s many wishes people have, and many things that are important for otheres which i don´t see the point... cos everyone is different and want different things... So i really want to be very beautiful and for me that´s important... i know many will think that´s very shallow, but for me wishes of other people as money related and others are shallow to..., but just accept it as they know what´s important for them better than me.

I know many will think i should accept myself and be happy for what i am, but if then everyone should be happy with whatever thay have, if that is not good health, or no money or whatever they want to change... and that will be in my point of view double standard... why should be ok want to change some things and not others?

Supposely loa can help you have and be whatever you want, and in theory there´s no limits... and what i want is beauty, and what i want to be is beautiful... It matters much for me... But not sure how to do exactly to get it... that´s why i posted about it...

Best whises and Regards for

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Permalink Reply by Milou on December 2, 2008 at 9:09am

I see, absolutely. And you have every right to wish so. But I stick to my guns, people will never think you're very very beautiful, if YOU don't think so. Trust me, it really works. You know why? Because when you love yourself, it shows, you smile and SHINE. People who look happy, are attractive. It's simple science when you look at it :)

Hmm how do I say this. For me, you have to accept what you have, but WISH for more. Because if you don't accept, you're not grateful. You have to feel the beauty to finally get it. Because like attracts like. I hope you see my point there :)

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Permalink Reply by chengchen on December 2, 2008 at 9:14am

I do see your point, and thanks cos is very helpful and make much sense...

But i know some girls that don´t think and don´t know they´re very good looking but everyone think they are... What do you think about that?

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Permalink Reply by Sage-32 on December 7, 2008 at 12:39am

i knew a girl that was attractive, but didn't think so, because when she looked in the mirror she saw what her make-up was hiding.
Nobody else saw it that way, of course. They saw the glossy, touched-up package that she was presenting to them, and she consciously presented this image. However, in her mind, she could only be beautiful so long as she hid the girl she saw in the mirror each morning. While i knew her, this attitude attracted a lot of attention from boys -- most of it ended up less than wonderful.

However, her best friend was shorter, and built bigger, but was so bright and cheery and confident. She got just as much attention using her sparkling personality and happiness, and attracted more of the respectful guys than the other girl.

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Permalink Reply by Kyaa on December 14, 2008 at 6:29am

Join the Changing Physical Appearances group on this forum.
But again, either way, the change begins within. You have to learn to accept the person you are, love the looks you have already and be and feel loved before you can change yourself to be more beautiful. If you feel bad about yourself, you will be attracting more of it. That way, you will end up chasing circles. You have to learn to love the you now before you can move any further and change your physical appearances..

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