It's been a month since my ex boyfriend broke up with me for the second time. While I have been feeling a lot better this breakup than I did during the first breakup, I often find myself feeling discouraged. Last time I focused on visualising and sending love and all that, but right now all I want to do is let go tbh. I don't want to check for signs and think about him as often as I do. The issue is that I just can't seem to let go...I would love to forget about him and my desire for having him back because I know that the universe doesn't forget about your desire. I know that the universe knows what I want and that it is working on it, but meanwhile I just want to let go of this desperation and anxiety and almost forget about him. How do I do this...?
Hi I think this blog post might help you.
Me too MB, I hope you get there too xo
'I know that the universe doesn't forget about your desire. I know that the universe knows what I want'
You aren't separated from the universe, so to speak. You always know of your desire unless you decide it's not what you want. Technically, there's nothing wrong with desire. It won't interrupt your manifestations; it's a reminder of what you want and perhaps why you want it.
What could actually be eating away at you is need. You may think you need him to be content and happy in life. How was life before you met him? Did you feel content without him? Were you happy?
Many people approach letting go with an attitude of it being the next 'step' in the process of manifesting a certain reality. It's almost as if they're asking, 'What do I do now so I can move on from this step?' Ironically, what you can do is move on from that. Looking at letting go as something you have to do can be counterproductive, because you're attaching yourself to even more. Letting go is letting it be, so to speak. It's moving on, knowing that you can be happy without your desire yet still remaining open to receive it.
So, what you are saying is that I should just accept the breakup instead of "forgetting about him" as a way of letting go? And stay wanting my desire but also being happy without it?
I'm wondering, I'm not so into Lanie Stevens' stuff now. but sometimes I find her cord cutting
meditation helpful with this sort of thing - with feeling
over-attached to someone. It CAN be done if you want to move on from someone but it can ALSO
be done to decrease over-attachment if you're wanting to manifest someone back.
Thankyou for this suggestion Queenie :)