I -need- help... badly!

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Permalink Reply by Milou on December 12, 2008 at 9:54am

Soooo, some news on the ex-front.

We're really, really uncomfortable right now. Last night he was at the same party, and at some point we always end up sitting next to each other or in the same group of people but not talking to each other. A friend of both sides told him he should be a little bit more careful with his remarks because they are hurtful to me. He said he saw the point, but didn't see why it took so long for me to get over it..he's obviously over me.

I just don't get why we're not talking.. I want to, but I just did not know what to say.

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Permalink Reply by Debbie Greene on December 12, 2008 at 2:36pm

YOU are choosing to continue to think and act in the exact same manner and you are getting the exact same results. YOU choose to go to a party find him there and then decide to stay. Not only stay but SIT IN THE SAME GROUP OF PEOPLE AND ALLOW YOURSELF TO HEAR HIM TO SAY THINGS YOU FEEL ARE HURTFUL! Getting over him means going on with your life. NOT seeing him at a party and wondering why he won't talk to you! YOU need to think about something ELSE. ANYTHING else if you ACTUALLY want to change this situation.

If not.............well you do know that energy flows where attention goes.............so the choice is definitely YOURS!

Namaste

Debbie

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Permalink Reply by Mallica on December 12, 2008 at 3:08pm

Hi, I just read this entire discussion... you've recieved a lot a good advice. One more thing...don't be too hard on yourself, most of us have been crazily in love at some point. Be kind to yourself, and very proud of yourself! Remember, it's your life, you're the star!! :-)

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Permalink Reply by Milou on December 12, 2008 at 3:18pm

thank you a lot :)

And yeah, I know you're right. But the party is a party with people of my study, him being there doesn't compare to the extreme fun I always have at those parties. But I guess your right..

Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.. right?

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Permalink Reply by Milou on April 12, 2009 at 6:34pm

I just wanted to give you guys a little heads up on how everything's going now.

Remember the party I told about? That was the night I kissed another man. He now is my boyfriend, for 2.5 months already. He makes me soooo happy. He treats me a MILLION times better than my ex did. I am totally over that guy.

In the end it took me untill christmas to get over my ex. Dec. 24 was the final blow, he told me he knew how I must have felt because the girl he had dated for two weeks turned him down. He, apparantly, was heartbroken. That was very hurtful to me, and I got over him then. Also then I was starting to like my new boyfriend.

I now realise my ex really wasn't all that great. Not a catch at all. He is, with all respect, very self-centered, arrogant, careerobsessed, takes himself too serious, does not know how to please a lady, and he basically is a plain idiot when it comes to love. He just doesn't know what it is.

Right now, I am SO incredibly blessed with a guy that gives me ALL I want and deserve, without asking him. He is a dream. He's in my reality. I'm happy. Truly happy and in love, like never before.

So thank you, to all of you, and for the people in my ex-situation: you WILL find someone new and better, if you love and respect yourself.

Thanks. I love you all very much. You mean a lot to me!

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Permalink Reply by Leeanne on April 13, 2009 at 9:40pm

I just happened upon this. I am so glad you have found someone who truly appreciates you for you and loves you for you! :)

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