Powerful Intentions: Law of Attraction Community

Powerful Intentions is a unique Law of Attraction Online Community

I think I think I'm a Slut. How do I kill this limiting belief before it kills my self image?

I think I think I'm a Slut --

The Universe has brought it to my that attention for the third time an ex-friend of mine has been spreading rumor about me telling people that I am a slut. She recently moved out of town last week and will be going away to college in the fall, so ITS OVER. I have to forgive, let go and move on. But we all know, the Law of Correspondence states that our physical reality is a reflection of what we are feeling on the inside. I am left with this empty sort of feeling and this suspicion that I THINK I think that I am --- A SLUT!

Is that why I haven't had a real boyfriend in three years? Because on a subconscious level, I think I am a slut? Where did this limiting belief come from? Well, I made some mistakes during my Junior year of Highschool and even after having graduated Highschool I made a couple more, but having survived those experiences, I come out on top with my virginity still in tact! Yep! That's right folks! I'm a virgin who subconsciously thinks she's a slut based on some poor decision making as a teenager pertaining to men. I think it's wrong for women to look down on other women for being promiscuous (which I BARELY am). Why is it that when a guy hooks up with a lot of women he is praised by other men, but when a woman does it she is dirty? If a girl wants to be a slut, it's nobody's business! I think society looks down on sluts because they confuse them with "home-wrecker" which NOT the same thing.

My choices were not the only thing that fueled this limiting belief.
Since Middle school I have aspired to attain super natural beauty. I owe all my thanks to the Law of Attraction for nearly manifesting such a thing onto my physical being. I use to think I was so ugly I would pull my hair. Now I'm almost twenty and I love myself and the way I look! I told the Universe I want to embody a seductive, alluring, enticing, cute and sexy energy and nature. Through manifestation I accomplished these things, even without makeup! But now I am experiencing the side affects of it; guys who only want to sleep with me, online stalkers, unwanted male attention even when I'm not trying to be sexy.

When we aim to become something we all have a model explain we wish to imitate. Now that I think of it, a lot of the women who I admire are often called sluts and bimbo regardless if they did of didn't do something promiscuous. It's assumed that because they get a lot of male attention they automatically slept with all of them (which is not true). I am now realizing that YES, I want to look like a playboy model, but at the same time, I want to be the girl next door. Seductive, alluring, fun loving, independent and a little enticing, all the while untouched, pure and innocent. Am I contradicting myself?!

Not only that but, I am a deliberate creator and I want the Law of Attraction to become easier and easier with each passing year! I want this limiting belief to go away so that my chakras can unblock, balance and open allowing the things I desire to flow to me MORE efficiently, manifesting my desires with precision and grace.

So how do I stop feeling like a slut when I haven't even had sex with anybody yet? I know the first thing is to stop doing things that support that notion, but what after that?

Views: 301

Reply to This

Replies to This Discussion

I am left with this empty sort of feeling and this suspicion that I think I think that I am a slut.”

It’s not so much you think you are that, it’s more what you believe that word represents.

The only reason you would feel hurt or upset by someone calling you that, is that you feel upset by the negative opinions of others. And all that means is you aren’t fully centered in your feeling of worthiness and value.

When you feel worthy, valued, loved, appreciated, and accepted (regardless of the opinions of others, and only taking your opinion of you into account), then even if someone did think you are something, you would not feel any negative feelings to it because you know who you are and you know your value.


“Is that why I haven't had a real boyfriend in three years?”

Not necessarily the whole reason, but the core emotions behind it would create resistance to what you want (i.e. not feeling valued for who you are and loved).


“But now I am experiencing the side affects of it.”

There are no side effects other than the ones you believe.

You can be less than attractive, and receive no attention.
You can be less than attractive, and receive attention.

You can be attractive, and receive attention.
You can be attractive, and receive no attention.

It’s not based on the physical composition, only the vibrational composition that the individual is offering.


“... unwanted male attention even when I'm not trying to be sexy.”

If you are continuing to receive unwanted attention, then that lets you know that you are giving your attention, to unwanted attention. Attention = Attraction. So, the more attention, and resistance, you give to what you don’t want, you receive more of what you don’t want.

As you shift your focus to what you do want, you will begin to attract that.

So, what do you want? How do you want to feel?

For example, “I want to feel comfortable. I want to be secure. I want to feel ease. I want to feel relaxed. I want to feel free. I want to feel freedom to be myself.”


“I want this limiting belief to go away so that my chakras can unblock, balance and open allowing the things I desire to flow to me MORE efficiently, manifesting my desires with precision and grace.”

The irony is, your resistance, or limiting belief, about this limiting belief, is what makes it so that you are not in a state of allowing. This limiting belief is not blocking you, but your belief about this belief, is what is blocking you.

In other words, you could have this limiting belief AND still be open and allow what you want, as long as you are not offering resistance to having the limiting belief.

I see where I went wrong. I'm trying not to care about other people's opinions but I'm so attracted to the idea of being a sexy attractive woman who is desirable! I enjoy manifesting that self image and projection. It brings me happiness!

I am so hurt. I can't tell you how hard I tried to let this go. Even when I move on I am left with these hurt feelings. I grew up with this girl, I met her in the second grade and now we are young adults and we had an awful fall out. How did our friendship lead to this? It's just sad! I wish I could just let it go and forget it like some really spiritual people I know but it's not easy for me! Believe me when I say I don't want to do this again with her in another life. I want to release this Karma in this incarnation but I sense that I've known her in a past life since the emotions are SO HIGH on both ends. Can the law of attraction help me accomplish something so deeply embedded in my life path? Am I being dramatic here?

Thank you so so much for answering this question. I can't tell you how grateful I am that you've given such valuable input.

I sometimes get this.  Guys JUST wanting to have sex with me.  And it's annoying!

But well OK so we manifesting being seen as sexy - which is awesome, right? But now we want to manifest being seen as sexy AND girlfriend material.  You know, that they see our great personalities too. 

It made me laugh how you want to be "the girl next door" I see myself as the girl next door type or rather the lady next door & at times I hate that I see the girl next door as I dunno I guess pretty but not very glamorous? 

But maybe I should embrace my girl-next-door-ness?

So I guess what I want to say is for starters in NO way are you are slut, for one you're a virgin for goodness sake you've slept with NO guys let alone a LOT of them!  Secondly, what you do or don't do with your body is NOBODY'S business but yours.  If a woman is a virgin or very promiscuous so that she will literally have sex with ANY man who asks or any shade in between still it is HER body it is HER decision & personally I think it is nobody else's business!

I get annoyed at times when guys ask for sex, like on online dating, straight away because I am NOT dressed slutty AT ALL or saying ANYTHING provocative and I guess i see it as an insult but I don't know?

Maybe find a model you want to look like who IS those things you want to portray?

Chakras, wait i had a thought....I don't know much about the chakras so I may be WAY off here.....

OK there is a sacral chakra i THINK and it is related to sex somehow but chakras can be blocked but I've also heard they can be TOO open?

Do you think maybe our sacral chakras are blocked or too open somehow?

I think maybe also affirming things like yes I'm sexy and I am also pure and innocent (etc.) maybe that will help?

Say affirmations that combine them and imagine being seen as both all in one, perhaps?

Wait!  Things that you said happened earlier on in life, have you forgiven YOURSELF for them?

Cos if not, maybe it's time you did?

You took the words right out if my mouth. I want to seem MORE-SO girlfriend material. I think I should use Shania Twain as one role model. She's a Canadian country singer who has the girl next door thing going on yet an irresistible essence to her being. Guys are always saying how they want to be her boyfriend (she's desired). You might be right about my sacral chakra being too open. I think I might be dancing with my hips too much, I don't know. I love to dance with my hips and I do it everyday. That usually opens up the sacral chakra beside my simple extent to open all seven chakra. I forgave myself until this blew up in my face last week.

Hi

How about affirming - " I am loved "

:)

I don't like the word slut because there is no such thing.

You are beautiful, perfect and especially as Natasha says, you are loved.

Check out Louise Hays YOU CAN HEAL YOUR LIFE at home study course.
From my experience, girls who are called sluts are generally girls who are attractive, but have very low self-esteem. This then attracts criticism with a sexual edge to it.

You are not a slut, your experience and activities so far show that quite clearly, but for some reason you think and feel you are, and that is the vibration which people are picking up on. So change what you feel about yourself. The word slut connotes inferior quality and a substantial degree of guilt. Start by imprinting a new belief about yourself: I LOVE AND APPROVE OF MYSELF.

You don't need criticism from others, and you don't need to be made to feel guilty about anything. You are a worthwhile human being just like anyone else. So start to approve of yourself and respect yourself in this way, and then you will change the reactions of people in your world and of what they think about you. (And you will also find that existential doors will starts opening for you as well).

Change the wording of it as well.  Reality always follows self-image, and the word slut has negative connotations.  Change your own self-labelling to something like PLEASURE GIVER which is a lot more positive.  It may sound a bit silly at first, but your mind will get used to it......and so will your reality. 

Okay so firstly a few things to examine here.  Nothing wrong with being a Slut at all.  Its just a choice.  Some people are and some people want to be.  No crime there.  Secondly, its really important to look at your context.  You seem to refer to it being a negative.  Being a Slut can actually be a really good thing too.  It has advantages that you may be overlooking.  Plus what people term “slut” is actually someone who works consciously with the universe (which is a good thing).  Now with the ex friend of yours – that’s interesting because it is really a good thing you are (a) aware of this and (b) you have choices here that you need to consider.  Firstly telling this friend that your upset and have heard these rumours is one course of action and worth considering.  It doesn’t have to be a face to face conversation (although that may be better because (a) you will know for sure if they are lying and (b) you can get clear indicators of what is happening), but can be an email or text too. 

 

Now you say you have to forgive.  Well that may be true – but it doesn’t mean you have to make yourself a doormat for her to walk all over you.  Forgiveness is like love – its supposed to be atwo way street.  You forgive yourself before you forgive others. 

 

You refer to Law of Correspendence – I have heard a few mentions of it over the years but I have not found it to be true for me, so its again an interesting choice to claim that and make that work for you. 


Now is being a Slut a limiting belief – only if you make it so.  It can be an incredibly powerful and empowering belief too.  It may be what helps you to realise you are valuable and deserve good things in life.  It may make you aware of your desires and needs, and also of others too.  That’s not a bad thing. 

 

Now rather than a Slut being just about having sex, its actually about being able to receive from everything and anything.  That’s actually quite a powerful thing to be and do. 

Your desires seem centered around controlling how other people see you...which you simply can't do. One person's slut is another person's sexy dream-girl is another person's bore is another person's toy is another person's nightmare is another person's wife-material is another person's competition. If you base your image of yourself on the reactions of others, you'll never ever catch up with your own authenticity. What do you find sexy? What do you find slutty (whatever slutty means to you)? What do you find 'girl-next-doorish"? Develop the confidence to trust yourself unconditionally above all else.

As an example, last night I was watching a dramatic series where a teenage girl discovers she is featured in a leaked sex video, when a male schoolmate whispers to her "Your breasts are great" (or something like that). Later she is online reading comments and another male student says "Ugly tits." Same girl, two different perspectives, and neither of them in any way indicative of who she is.

These boys cannot actually judge who she is, they can only judge the extent to which she mimics an ideal they carry around in their own mind.  But if this girl thinks her breasts are who she is then she will question herself whenever she is privy to somebody's bad review. 

Same with you. If someone calling you a slut causes you to question within yourself who you are, then you haven't yet discovered your true self.  Good reviews (approval) of your expressed sexuality cannot make you even a fraction more than who you really are, and bad reviews (disapproval) of your expressed sexuality cannot make you even a fraction less of who you really are. 

Become secure in yourself and how you want to express yourself, and then no matter how many men you are with (or not with), and what you do (or do not do) with them, if anyone calls you a slut or something that is maybe even worse to you, they will simply seem like an idiot mumbling things to themselves...it will have that little impact on you. 

RSS

Powerful Sponsors

Start Your Free Trial Today

Start Your Free Trial Today

 

 ===========


==================


 

Advertising  Group Powerful Intentions.

Join our advertising group and learn about placing ads on Powerful Intentions and the rates.

 
=================
Powerful Intentions Community-

 
Follow PIcommunity on Twitter

 

Welcome To PowerfulIntentions!


Welcome All Powerful Intention Members!.

Powerful Intentions is a unique, online community of people from all walks of life who possess three very important and focused qualities.

Those qualities are:

You believe in the Power of Intentions And The Law Of Attraction And You Are Enthusiastically "Attracted" to be here By Inspired Action!

The P.I. Team's Powerful Intended Result is to:

Create the most fertile community in the world for people to manifest their Intentions!

People who join P.I. are "set up" to BE Successful.

Brilliance, Fun, Luck, Joy and Ease can't help but rub off on them to positively raise their vibration!

Unlimited numbers of the "right" people attracted to P.I., collectively co-creating the most abundant and brilliant ideas, actions and manifestations that have ever been experienced on this planet!

AND we are Happy, Connected, and Abundant, with Brilliance, Simplicity and Ease!!!!!

It's a DONE DEAL and it sticks No MATTER WHAT!!!!!!!

Badge

Loading…

Powerful Advertising Group


Advertising Group on Powerful Intentions.

Join our advertising group and learn about placing ads on Powerful Intentions and the rates.


© 2018   Created by Powerful Intentions.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service