The marriage will be better when you understand your emotions come from the thoughts you think, and not from them. When you let him off the hook for how you feel, and don’t need him to be different for you to feel better and feel good, then you accept him as he is and allow the relationship you want.
Yeah...I'm working on just visualising what did work with us and how things feel when I open up to love. When I look back at how I behaved...so many things were an absolute fear reaction. He felt fear or anxiety over something...and I'd spiral. I'm just trying to be love and I guess whoever else is in a vibrational match for love will bounce my way. It IS a win win way...but sometimes it actually aches letting go of that old fearful me.
Here is a post I did: Letting Go.
maybe you will like this short but extra-powerful video: