I recently fell for this guy, who already has a girlfriend.
Frankly, it feels a lot like he's starting to feels thing to me as well,
I don't want to separate them or something, and I keep telling myself that I want the essence of someone like him, but deliberately I keep fantasizing about us together.
I don't want it to hurt my attraction process of my soulmate, but is it ok just to use his physical form in my imagination but keep telling myself that someone like him will be wonderful too?
Great post. I think this is the most key aspect of what you have stated:
"You must continue to date other people because those experiences are put before you in order to prepare you for when you do come in alignment with him."
and I would add "or come into alignment with who is right for you."
Thank you so much for your wonderful post, after torturing myself for the past couple of days for falling for someone that is occupied I finally felt that it's OK. and if the universe will think he is the perfect match for me we will be set together.
from some reason I strongly feel that we will be together.
As for the question, I wouldn't mind to get someone with his essence, but won't my imagination prevent it if I keep imagining him and not just a form of someone unknown?
So this crazy thing happened today..
first, I was hoping all day that he will write me on Skype or i'll see him some where at work (we work in the same company) but nothing really happened.
I was about to leave the office and a good friend of his offered to take me home and suddenly he calls him and asks where he is. when he heard I'm there too he came straight ahead. like I was hoping all day.
the second and most amazing thing, while he was on the phone with his friend, his friend told him: "im here with your friend/girlfriend Emma" ( it's the same word in our language)
and I was just thinking, is it the universe giving me a sign?
I truly agree with you Kundalini. what someone wants is a Relationship with the guy. She is not out to hurt anybody. Other people are not our responsibility. she wants him that's all she has to think about.
Everything is possible for eveyone. I mean everything.
I think if thinking about being with this guy makes you feel good in the moment, but in the overall long term of it you're not attached to the outcome and you don't feel like you NEED to be with him "or else," then it;s totally fine to fantasize about being with him.
If you do this with no resistance at all in your vibe (meaning, as stated above, you're just doing it because it feels good) then most likely what will happen is you will let someone into your reality who is similar to this guy, and SINGLE :)