Hello, i joined a dating site and have been corresponding with this guy who has grown on me. On my profile i stated wanting only friendship bla bla bla, I told this guy this, even thou its clear on my profile, i emailed him at first if he has any bites and then he asked me and i told him how i just wanting friendship.
Yesterday i said to myself Yes I am wanting friendship but really i want a relationship with someone who i feel is ideal for me and with that there is friendship within it too. I now want to tell him that.
However i truly want to manifest a date with him, like he asks me out, or is it okay to ask him out. My girlfriend says wait for him. I am like Why? I could be waiitng forever.
I am surprised I feel this way, as my heart is still attached to my ex (my ex knows this). Yet i feel this connection to this guy on this dating site and would like to get to know him more and better. How do i manifest a date, what can i do without sounding desperado.
We exchanged mobile phone numbers too, yay.
Any tips advice, i appreciate :) Thank you.
Exactly Grayson I feel like messaging him my inner truth. I thought I want friendship first and really I want a relationship with the friendship in it. I am sending mixed signals.
i agree with what you said.
“How do I manifest a date?”
The same way you manifest everything: Feel good and satisfied.
If you feel inspired to ask them out, do it with no expectation it needs to lead to a date. Have fun with whatever the outcome is.
Its been great, i have been feeling good, so nice to feel that feeling again. I posed a question which was so bold of me, but hey i went with it and was received with appreciation :)
I feel this resonance with him, and i do like him. Yet i need to calm down too hahaha
he lives 2.5 hours north of me, so not that far
The guys on dating sites in my experience are disproportionately highly weighed on wanting only casual sex.
If you wrote friends and he had responded only to that he is really just likely looking tor no commitment sex
As in casual with no commitment. I learner the hard way that the universe can hive jimwhat he wants while a men hived barely enough to try to make it a relationship on my/the girls part too. But in reality they believe you are casual and will sleep around.
Not necessary laura, people have had good expeirnces on dating sites too. You just need ot to stay in your own vibration of a serious relationship.
So why does it have to be either/or? Why can't you just progress the friendship and see how it goes?
Why not just ask him if he wants to meet for a coffee and get to know him a bit better without the pressure and expectations of it being a "romantic intentions" date?
Have fun with it and keep it light and casual and let it unfold without a need to put a label on it or sort him into a pile before you even get to know him.
Asking someone if they want to grab a coffee sometime is hardly desperado. It's just a "I'd like to get to know you better in person" thing.
Well thats the ideal Daydreambeliever ;) so hopefully it flows that way, no pressure at all :D
I have written my proposition out in preparation to send it to him. Awaiting that moment when i feel right to do so. I truly appreciate hearing from him, and how we text chat, he is refreshing to me. My intuition is sparking up and feels there is more to this, yet will be patient (try to).
I intend to meet this guy :)
I did a little bit of detective work last night and found out more about him. I really do like this guy, yet to meet in person to know. So will send a proposition in next few days. So with my discovery, he is so talented and smart. He is tall, attractive, smart, talented. So far he is ticking my boxes, the rest i need to find out more.
My ego is stepping in with doubt like He is amazing, you need to be awesome to be with him.
We do have some things in common. I appreciate him texting me when he does. I already this connection to him, probably soulmate thingy.
I need to tell myself I am good enough, and have been doing well until i discovered a little more about him. Its like I had a big GULP, geez he can have anyone, why doesnt he?