As I type this, I’m sitting on a train heading back home for Christmas. I’m happy to be returning to my family for a week but I can’t help but dwell on a problem I’m having with my Boyfriend. I’m a
Weve only be dating a couple of months, and even when we were only seeing each other in the very beginning I knew he intended to go to australia in mid 2019. I was so surprised when he officially asked me to be his girlfriend because I never thought he wanted that kind of commitment. When I asked about how having a girlfriend would affect his move to Australia, He told me at that time that “plans can be moved”. I never questioned it and we never spoke about it until yesterday; he suggested that long distance wouldn’t be feasible and that we’d just end the relationship once he leaves. (We’re both from ireland so the time difference between Oz and Ireland is 12 hours I think).
I got upset, I told him I was willing to do long distance and that I’d even move to Australia in Jan 2020 (as I’d be qualified then). It’s always been my intention to travel also and he knows this.
He wants to continue the relationship until he leaves in June 2019 but thinks it’s best to cut contact after this.
i have no idea where this leaves me or what to do.
Ive known this guy for 3 years and things only took a romantic turn in the last year. We get on great and our relationship is amazing, but I’m so hurt he’s choosing Australia over me. I don’t know how to continue, I don’t want to loose him but I don’t know how to make this better.
I’ve always followed the secret and tried to create the life I want through mantra and vision boards but this situation makes me feel so helpless and out of control.
I attracted Dave to me - I wanted my soul mate with all of his traits and quirks and I got him! I don’t want to lose him but I don’t know how to do that.