“Does satisfaction mean you shouldn’t leave your relationship, job or home and just feel satisfied where you are?”
When you feel satisfied, you may be inspired to move on from the relationship or situation. It’s not resigning to what you don’t want, it’s releasing resistance which allows what you do want. Feeling calm and content doesn’t mean compromising. You don’t have to give up things you want. You get it all. If you don’t compromise your alignment, you don’t have to compromise your desire.
If you need to take care of yourself you can leave, but if you choose to stay in anger, disappointment, boredom or feeling overwhelmed, you will attract more of it. You can’t walk away from your point of attraction. You pack it up and bring it with you.
Wherever you go your point of attraction will create the same or similar experience. Think of it as if you are farting and don’t like the smell, so you try to get away by moving to the next room, but you’re still farting. You can’t get away from it. It will keep smelling wherever you go until you stop farting where you are.
And the smell comes from what you are currently doing, not what you did ten minutes ago. You’re not carrying over the old smell. You’re not where you are because of what you did, but because of what you’re doing. It’s always new and fresh. Emitting dissatisfaction now is why something in your life stinks.
“If you feel satisfied, why would your life improve?”
This is what confuses people. They think, “If I feel good where I am, why would things change? Why would I want them to? I need to feel bad to justify to myself and the universe why I want something better. Feeling better where I am sends the wrong message. Which is why it is smarter to focus on what I don’t like to evoke change.”
People have trained themselves to be pain-avoiders, not pleasure-seekers. Because they don’t know how to get pleasure, but they think they know how to get away from pain. But with attraction, running from is actually running towards. People think they’re running in a straight line away, when in reality they’re running in a circle towards more of the same. It seems like forward movement, but when done enough times you come to find out you’re stuck going around in circles.
Satisfaction summons the best from where you are and/or better from something else. You have impulses of where to go and what to do, so you may move on because you know the place you’re in has served its purpose of creating a basis for further expansion. At the same time, if an experience caused your desires to expand and you now want more from a relationship or work environment, that very person or experience that was the catalyst can also be the fulfillment. If it has the ability to cause you to want, it also has the ability to deliver the goods. It’s just a matter of you lining up with what life has caused you to become.
You’re moving towards more satisfaction. Whether that means stay or go, you’re open to more opportunities for fun. You’re not motivated by seeking relief from pain. You’re inspired to more playfulness.
“I’ve reached the point where I’m just going to give up being in a relationship and accept being single.”
Good! Give up the struggle. That’s what you want to do with everything.
You’re not giving up the relationship, you’re giving up putting your life on hold. You’re giving up waiting for things to change before you feel you have the life you want.
You’re not meant to be single, you’re meant to be satisfied. And satisfaction has nothing to do with another. It only has to do with you having a desire and moving towards it. Taking steps towards your relationship with them is stepping up your relationship with yourself. With unconditional satisfaction you don’t care if you’re in a relationship, and with no resistance you allow it. You can also practice thoughts to where being in a relationship feels normal, it will happen and you’re not surprised.
It’s not accepting where you are so you stay that way. Accepting where you are embraces a higher frequency. And being in that state is what gives you access to your desire. Satisfaction is the password to gain access to your universal account.
What you want does not exist in a lower frequency, so resistance to where you are is resistance to where you want to be. If you’re closed to what you have, then you’re closed to what can come. Accepting now also means accepting what you want is done.
Acceptance doesn’t mean you like it. Acceptance means you stop actively disliking it and using that as your reason to be miserable. You don’t have to like it to see its value. And when you see unwanted’s value, you allow more wanted. Acceptance helps you feel better, and it’s important because whatever manifests will have to feel like how you feel right now. Satisfaction now = satisfaction later. Dissatisfaction now leads to dissatisfaction later. Your emotions clearly tell you what to expect of how things will play out.
“If I feel satisfied where I am, what about focusing on the life I want? To manifest a new reality, shouldn’t I feel myself in that new reality?”
The new reality feels satisfying. When you feel relaxed and interested, you feel how you want to feel in your new reality. They go hand in hand.
“I don’t want to be satisfied where I am because nothing will change. Dissatisfaction creates change. Feeling bad about your weight or work ethic gives you the necessary fuel to do something about it.”
Dissatisfaction creates the desire for change, but satisfaction is what allows it.
Dissatisfaction can lead to motivation for temporary change, but satisfaction leads to inspiration for sustainable change.
If you use frustration as your primary means of moving forward, even if you get the results you want, they’ll be tainted. You won’t be happy for very long and/or won’t be able to keep doing what you did to get there. Then you’ll fall back to your old ways and wonder what’s wrong with you, which will perpetuate your belief in self-judgment.
When satisfaction is your standard, you don’t settle for less than better-feeling thoughts. And with your creative endeavors, you unlock new forms of expressing yourself which encourages you to reach new heights when you’re already having fun.
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Great post! Thank you!
This is a great post and actually on the very subject I am stumbling on at the moment.
In short I have been in a relationship for 4 1/2 years. I love him but I know I am not in love with him. I am not really attracted to him abymore and a lot of our opinions differ. I work with him and it upsets me the thought of losing him but the thought of being satisfied with this and staying with him forever scares me too.. I know its going to sound shallow but amongst the many other things I wish I could change about him, I cannot change his face and at the end of the day, I deserve to be deeply and passionately attracted to someone.
Recently the universe has shown me someone that I never saw in that light before but now its like he just keeps showing up. The problem is he is a celebrity. I am 26 years old I think its ridiculous of me to have such a fan girl crush but I feel so strongly for him and I do not know what to do
This is something I have struggled to understand over the years. Before I have thought " okay, if I get happy with where I am now, the Universe will just bring me more of the same and I won't make any progress. " But what we need to remember is that where we are now (circumstances, people, job, home, health, relationship status etc) is the result of thoughts we have had in the past. The result of a past vibration, so to speak. However, where we want to be will be the result of an improved vibration, which you put out into the Universe, and reap in the near future, and that improved vibration starts in the present moment. We can create that by being contented with where we are now (with what we have already created) and then that will draw in ever-improving circumstances.
this is a great post!!! commenting so i can archive it
Brian- this is awesome. Your comment: "You’re not giving up the relationship, you’re giving up putting your life on hold. You’re giving up waiting for things to change before you feel you have the life you want."
really resonates with me. This has occurred with me recently, but not due to a romantic relationship. Just life in general. I've had my life on hold for sometime because I was waiting for??? Not sure what, but the last few years despite changing jobs and having a lot of movement, I've felt stagnant. Like I was on hold for no particular reason.
My life is always changing, I move a lot, change jobs, and generally keep trying to move upward in my career. I got to a rather pinnacle point about 3 years ago which is what I think caused me to go into pause. It was a moment of, Okay now what? I've spent all this time getting here and now I don't know what to do.
Strangely some of the change to get my life off hold has been minor stuff like redecorating my front room and getting rid of clothes/items I no longer use. These things all represent the past, so by changing this all up, I'm now moving in a new positive direction. One that is in more alignment with who I am now, not who I was 10 years ago.
This is a great reminder. People (including myself at times) have mistaken showing gratitude in the present, for accepting that it is as good as it will get and won't change. In truth, showing gratitude in the present is as much about not expressing negative words, and focusing your mind on what is good at the moment. When you do this, your point of attraction changes.
I like to think of showing gratitude in the present as adding to your "alignment savings bank." Just as you consistently add money to your savings account so that the money in there will accumulate, you practice gratitude so that your alignment accumulates and strengthens.
Life is constant change, nothing is static. So the gratitude bank is like insurance for when life changes in ways you can't predict. The gratitude bank can help to lessen the effects or even bring new, better possibilities that you couldn't image.