I recently got out of a relationship and I know that the reason for my break up was because of my low self confidence. Although I know that I might not get back with my ex I know that i have to improve my self confidence in order to be the best version of myself. Does anyone one have any advice or techniques to help boost self confidence?
When we're dealing with these types of issues, the thing to remember is that what you're feeling and believing didn't come from you. Someone else in your life told you that you weren't capable enough, or good enough, or whatever. It doesn't matte what was said, what matters is that you believed them. It may have been a parent, or other relative, a teacher, what have you. It was someone who you thought had more intelligence and "worldliness" than you did, so therefore, what they said must be true.
The actual truth is, that they know only their opinion. It's only their opinion that you are this or that. Opinions are not truth or facts. It's just a belief system someone has. That doesn't make it correct and true for you. By remembering that this is NOT true and never has been true, you can let it go. You are more capable than you currently realize. Thin about all that you have already accomplished in this life for proof of that. By reminding yourself of what you have done, and succeeded at, the faster you can let this non sense go.
How you think and feel about yourself is always and only ever your choice. No one else gets a say in that. It's your life. You get to choose how it looks and feels. =)
Ross - Tolemac
You're so sweet & wise Tolemac!