Hey guys, I need some advice, I got a new job back in April which was a really great opportunity to take, however I am finding that the director/boss is a bully. Its not only to me, he picks on people and intimidates them, embarrasses them and tried to control every aspect of your life (even outside of work, the type of work we do is for shows in the UK and internationally, he tries to bully us into going to these shows outside of work till about 11pm at night to hand out leaflets, and not be paid for it). He picks on everything, we have set times to make a drink, when sitting by the window you can't look out, wiping your feet when you come in the office, not getting crumbs on the floor (literally the most minimal crumbs you will ever see...)
He is spiteful, sometimes racist and controlling. I wanted to look for another job but I really enjoy the people I work with and the money is really good for the area I am working in.
I'm trying to stay positive and keep my thoughts and feelings at a high vibration to manifest all the things I want but I feel suppressed and sad at work because we are being completely suffocated buy all of his ludicrous rules and constant remarks about everything we do wrong. When I get home I just feel resentful and drained. We get absolutely no praise for the work we do and even when we do attend these shows in our own time and using our own money for expenses, he moans about something else we are doing wrong.
lately he has been picking on me a lot, and its wearing me down. I'm not sure how to stay positive when I go into work and just keep being told I am doing everything wrong. I work hard, I get everything done that I am supposed to, I am always 20 to 15 minutes early for my shift, and always clean up after myself. But he still finds something to pick on :(
i know bullies can totally kill your vibe but i also truly believe that your vibe can be killed only if it is not a steady one. Nobody can do anything to you without your permission so remember you Always have the power. Now you can decide which new story to tell: your boss becomes kind and caring or he goes away or whatever and start believing the story you tell, d Universe won't disappoint you. Realize that You have created this for some subconscious reasons so work WITH your current situation not against it and it may change very fast. Blessings*****
Thank you Dorothy, I am going to try and focus on a new story. I have to admit I do struggle with people affecting me, I think where I had a tough upbringing I can become sensitive to it. I wish I was untouchable but I am slowly getting there when it comes to how people treat me. This is great advice, thank you xx
You can become untouchable, just work on your vibe, your past has no inflence on your future. Here are some quotes 4 you:
Thank you, these have really inspired me! Especially the first one :) xx
As Bashar says, circumstances don't matter, only state of being matters. The current reality has already built up momentum. So you'll have to give your thoughts and feelings to a new reality until it builds up momentum. Then the grid will fill in. I found this video helpful:
There was a guy in the movie The Secret who was being bullied and he turned his situation around. I think that movies is on Youtube if you haven't already seen it.
I have seen it, I just completely forgot about that part so thank you for reminding me! I will take a look at this video! Thank you xx
Will watch this video, thank you for sharing!
TY, i enjoyed this video
yes, the bully comes so we can learn about LOA :(
my trick is to think "nice hair" [or something...], then to say to myself "what do i want?". i can then say" i want them to go away and leave me alone".
this requires finding better feeling thots and a desire to really want this to work out for me
and then more work is to find out what i have been thinking about life or myself that is attracting the bully so i can lose that vibe .
oh yea, the bully likes being that way for now cos it works for him; so the more i work on accepting that they are satisfied the better it is for me. my hating how they are isn't going to phase them and keeps me from losing them sooner.
good luck, have fun learning what works best for you