Stop the Negative Thoughts!

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Permalink Reply by Awesome on November 18, 2008 at 2:59pm

I just finished reading Louise L. Hay - You can heal your life.............Beautiful book.....Dedication says it all: May this offering help you find the place within where you know your own self-worth, the part of you that is pure love and self-acceptance.....It's the perfect book for letting go negativity and looking at life with a whole new perspective.....May it bring you all the joy it brought me....

And welcome Eva..................

Namaste,
Awesome

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Permalink Reply by Leslie on November 18, 2008 at 3:09pm

Maybe I should check this book out too Awesome - being the recent state of mind I have been in. Thanks as always!!

Leslie:-)

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Permalink Reply by Kahu on November 18, 2008 at 3:12pm

The Louise Hay book is great and I still have a copy. This book is great in combination with Serge Kahili King's book Healing Relationships which explain from an LOA perspective why Hay's stuff works and gives some great exercises.

Aloha
Kahurangi

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Permalink Reply by Kahu on November 18, 2008 at 3:04pm

There is a great book by Serge Kahili King called healing relationships that has some great techniques. http://ww.huna.net

Basically thinking negative thoughts has become a habit. Most of us are taught it as we grow up. You simply need to replace that habit with one of thinking positive thoughts. What is positive to you may not be so for another so you need to spend some time observing your thoughts and make some decisions about this.

I teach the Huna philosopohy from anciet Polynesia and we tend not to think in terms of positive and negative but more in terms of which thoughts are useful and which are not in terms of a specific goal. The terms positive and negative tend to generate a judgemental emotional response which limits our ability to create change.

I wrote and article on positive programming and would be happy to post it here if you are interested. It's not too long.

Aloha
Kahu

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Permalink Reply by Eva Tutic on November 18, 2008 at 3:17pm

Please post it Kahu.. I would be very interested in seeing the post.
Kind regards,
Eva

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Permalink Reply by diane daoust on November 18, 2008 at 3:09pm

If you like reading and want to elevate your soul i recommend ''THE UNTETHERED SOUL'' by Michael A.Singer. It brought me peace and joy within. Namaste Diane

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Permalink Reply by Kahu on November 18, 2008 at 3:23pm

Positive Thinking

This is a tool for change that has been misunderstood and much maligned over the years. The question is, what is it really, and how to get it to work for you. Part of the problem people have is that it sounds too simple to possibly be true. Well it is simple but it just isn’t easy.

Positive thinking is *not* being in a bad situation and trying to convince yourself that it is really ok. Positive thinking is *not* feeling all cut up about something on the inside and trying to present a positive attitude to others. Positive thinking is *not* being in a really tough situation and thinking that there is nothing that you can do about it.

Within Huna thinking, real positive thinking is taking a positive attitude to whatever situation, event or relationship that you experience. Real positive thinking is knowing that no matter what circumstance you are faced with, good or bad, there is always a way to improve and enhance it. No matter how desperate a situation seems to be, positive thinking always provides something to do to heal it.

Most of us manage to be positive about some things and not others. To the extent that you can take a positive attitude to anything your life will be positive. If your thinking is 50% positive then your life will be 50% positive. If your thinking is 100% positive your life will be 100% positive.

So, how do we tell if we are being positive? If your thinking is coming from a place of fear, jealousy, greed, helplessness, a desire to control, a perception of lack, or any of those kinds of things, then it isn’t positive. Anger when it is coming from a place of fear also isn’t positive. When anger comes up and inspires positive action then it is positive. We are being positive when we think about any situation in a constructive way.

Next, we ask ourselves, how do we change our thinking if we discover that we are not being positive? How do we turn our changed thinking into action that creates change in the real world? Thinking in modern society has become very negative and critical, focused on beating down the other guy to get ahead. This kind of thinking has become a very ingrained behaviour, a habit that takes time and effort to change.

When we are looking for some way, in any situation, where we can be effective in even the slightest way, we are being positive. When we turn our thinking to seeing ourselves doing things successfully and it doesn’t matter what, even if it doesn’t seem connected to the situation we want to heal or improve, we are being positive. As we uncover limiting and obstructive thoughts we change them into expanding and constructive ones. This is being positive.

These changes we make are effective when they flow through our mental images, our feelings, and our behaviour. They are also effective when they flow through a specific issue being healed. We need to persist in doing this until the new thinking replaces the old thinking and becomes habit, until we don’t need to place as much conscious attention on maintaining them. Thinking alone doesn’t change anything. If we don’t decide to act on the new thoughts and follow through on that decision, nothing has changed.

One way to practice this day-to-day is to acknowledge everything that you do that is successful, and I mean every little thing. I successfully woke up this morning. I successfully walked from the bedroom to the bathroom and successfully had a shower and got dressed. I successfully drove my son to school and got him there on time. I got home ok without running off the road. Then I successfully made some breakfast and drank my coffee without burning myself or spilling anything – even if I had spilled something I would have successfully cleaned it up.

Many, many people go through life doing a huge number of successful things and still see themselves as a total failure. Working through this process, one of many options, helps us to see how really successful we are every day. At first people can get discouraged because they discover how really negative they have been but this is good, don’t get discouraged. As we begin to shift our focus and develop the habit of feeling and acting successfully it expands into every area of our lives and our lives become increasingly fun, prosperous and positive.

Whenever we begin on a program of change like this, the old habits always tend to resist. We will find ourselves thinking and acting the old way. Just change your thought, feeling and action, right in the middle if that’s where you become aware. Don’t be cross with yourself. Being cross will reinforce the old pattern (this takes practice too). Just gradually make the changes and reinforce the new positive habits. Rehearse the new patterns and actions in your imagination until they begin to form habits and you find yourself acting that way for real.

As I said, this process is simple but it is definitely not easy. It takes time and focus, determination and effort. We can all achieve a state where our thinking is 100% positive and our lives are 100% positive. It’s a journey, and one well worth the effort. As we begin, reality gradually and magically begins to change. Books, people and situations appear to support us on the journey. We just have to start and keep moving.

Graeme Kapono Urlich (Sept 2008)

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Permalink Reply by Leslie on November 18, 2008 at 4:13pm

This is very good - thanks for sharing:-) Like Awesome posted to me yesterday - no matter what is going on around us, we need to feel happy within. Sometimes this can be ddifficult when many things around us are not that way - you know what I mean. Right now it can be difficult for me to remain positive and happy when so much around me is negative, stressed, etc. I know too if I can pull myself out of this mood, negativity, things will get better and in turn I will feel better and more happy & positive.

Thanks again for the insight:-)

Leslie:-)

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Permalink Reply by Kahu on November 18, 2008 at 4:19pm

The problem with happiness is that we tend to make it conditional on external things like the behaviour of others, the weather or the state of our finances but that's a whole other article that I'm working on.

Basically happiness is the most important thing but there is nothing in life that can make us happy. There are things we can use or people we can be with to increase happiness but it has to be there inside us first. How does it get there?

We DECIDE that we are happy... NO MATTER WHAT.

Aloha
Kahu

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Permalink Reply by Leslie on November 19, 2008 at 10:50am

Kahu - Thank you - this is so true but during difficult times when there is a lot of external termoil - it can be more challening - maybe it is just me personally that I tend to let negative external things, people, etc. get in my way of my happiness or peace. Thank you for your kind reply!

Leslie:-)

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Permalink Reply by Kahu on November 19, 2008 at 3:04pm

Yes it does take practice, practice, practice but it does become easier to "flick a switch" when we notice we are getting down. I have a friend in Hawaii who says he still gets depressed sometimes - for about 30 seconds.

He has simply learned to recognise the signs and shift his focus as I am learning to do also. In my case I am using it to recover from a serious injury that could have crippled me. With constant physical pain it is hard to stay up and positive but that's not an excuse. It just means the mountain is a little higher.

Aloha
Kahu

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Permalink Reply by Blythe Spirit! on November 19, 2008 at 8:35am

Hi there E,
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A little word on negative thoughts. I have taught myself over the years that to create a pattern change is the best way to rid yourself of theses negative thoughts. eg:

Everytime you think of something you do not want to think of just do something different such as (my pattern cutter is) I make the scissors sign with my two fingers and I pretend to cut my throat saying snip snip!

That action is to be repeated every time you have a thought you do not wish to persue. After about a week of the continued action, you will do it without thinking about it.
his realy works. I promise you.
Just persevere!
Hope it helps and see you on our site soon. Please post an article when it is ready.

Have a magic day!

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