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The Dog Whisperer Method of Changing Thought Habits...
I wanted to share some insight that has come to me while watching the T.V. program "The Dog Whisperer", which I believe can be very helpful for retraining the mind to more positive thoughts...
In "The Dog Whisperer", Cesar Millan rehabilitates dogs from some of the most dramatic issues. And one of the main reasons it works so effectively and so quickly, is that dogs live in the moment. Since they don't reason, when they are being rehabilitated, they don't think "This isn't going to work - I've tried this before!" or "This is ridiculous - I've tried EVerything!" and so on. They just follow the lead .... and the brain Automatically makes new associations. And it's like Magic.
There are the three main requirements that Cesar introduces:
1. Excercise
2. Rules, boundaries, limitations
3. Affection
And in this order. The reason for putting excercise first, is that the brain is less open to learning or paying attention when there is pent up energy.
So, how does it apply to us? ....
1. Excercise:
When we have subconscious programming that results in negative habitual thinking, it generally builds up a lot of negative energy, frustration, anger, fear and so on. Before we're able to be receptive to a new, more positive and calm way of thinking, we need to drain that negative energy. Just as Cesar advises draining the pent up energy in the dog by giving him enough excercise before attempting to make any changes... so we sometimes need to find a way to drain the pent up negative energy before we're able to fully open receptive to changing our habitual thinking.
We can do this through physical activity - running, sport, punching pillows, screaming therapy, dancing etc. and/or through expressing it in writing. Write a letter you'll never send. It can be a general open letter to everyone, or to one or more people in particular. In this letter, write absolutely Everything that comes into your mind. Insult, cuss, blame, rant, rave, be unreasonable - just get it all out and onto the page/screen. Once you've drained that negative energy, your mind will be more receptive and open to new thought patterns and habits - more positive ones.
2. Rules, boundaries, limitations:
The way Cesar corrects a dog when he displays unwanted behaviour, is by making a short, sharp "sh" sound. This snaps the dog out of the unwanted state of mind, and into a calm, attentive state. This is usually required several times before the change becomes natural.
He teaches that timing is the key - to catch the intention before it escalates. This requires becoming aware of the dog's change in attitude, and correcting at the very first sign. This way, the behaviour doesn't escalate. So, for ourselves, if we become aware of our thoughts, we can catch ourselves at the first sign, and correct our habitual thinking immediately - nipping it in the bud with a short, sharp "sh" ;) lol. Well, of course it doesn't have to be a "sh" but I find that's very effective - especially after watching "The Dog Whisperer" because my mind is used to hearing it as a correction. But you can have a word or another sound. And of course, the sound doesn't have to be out loud, you can say it in your head. It's a way of snapping your automatic thinking out of that frame of mind in the moment, before it takes hold.
3. Affection:
Of course, this is something most of us are lacking when it comes to displaying it to ourselves. Find ways to show yourself affection. Do at least one thing for yourself each day, just because it feels good. Do for yourself what you wish someone else would do for you. Treat yourself the same way you treat loved ones - with the same compassion and the same consideration.
And finally, Cesar teaches that the most important ingredient to being successful is a Calm, Assertive energy. This works with dogs of course - BUT it ALSO works with humans - AND with Ourselves!! Practising being in a Calm Assertive state does Wonders for your vibration, your state of mind, and reassuring your mind.
I HIGHLY reccomend watching "The Dog Whisperer" even if you don't have dogs (I don't have a dog, but I'm intrigued by the process) - and while you're watching, see how much you can relate to the subconscious, your own issues, and your own rehabilitation. :)
I hope this is useful.
Love and Light and Magic xxx
In "The Dog Whisperer", Cesar Millan rehabilitates dogs from some of the most dramatic issues. And one of the main reasons it works so effectively and so quickly, is that dogs live in the moment. Since they don't reason, when they are being rehabilitated, they don't think "This isn't going to work - I've tried this before!" or "This is ridiculous - I've tried EVerything!" and so on. They just follow the lead .... and the brain Automatically makes new associations. And it's like Magic.
There are the three main requirements that Cesar introduces:
1. Excercise
2. Rules, boundaries, limitations
3. Affection
And in this order. The reason for putting excercise first, is that the brain is less open to learning or paying attention when there is pent up energy.
So, how does it apply to us? ....
1. Excercise:
When we have subconscious programming that results in negative habitual thinking, it generally builds up a lot of negative energy, frustration, anger, fear and so on. Before we're able to be receptive to a new, more positive and calm way of thinking, we need to drain that negative energy. Just as Cesar advises draining the pent up energy in the dog by giving him enough excercise before attempting to make any changes... so we sometimes need to find a way to drain the pent up negative energy before we're able to fully open receptive to changing our habitual thinking.
We can do this through physical activity - running, sport, punching pillows, screaming therapy, dancing etc. and/or through expressing it in writing. Write a letter you'll never send. It can be a general open letter to everyone, or to one or more people in particular. In this letter, write absolutely Everything that comes into your mind. Insult, cuss, blame, rant, rave, be unreasonable - just get it all out and onto the page/screen. Once you've drained that negative energy, your mind will be more receptive and open to new thought patterns and habits - more positive ones.
2. Rules, boundaries, limitations:
The way Cesar corrects a dog when he displays unwanted behaviour, is by making a short, sharp "sh" sound. This snaps the dog out of the unwanted state of mind, and into a calm, attentive state. This is usually required several times before the change becomes natural.
He teaches that timing is the key - to catch the intention before it escalates. This requires becoming aware of the dog's change in attitude, and correcting at the very first sign. This way, the behaviour doesn't escalate. So, for ourselves, if we become aware of our thoughts, we can catch ourselves at the first sign, and correct our habitual thinking immediately - nipping it in the bud with a short, sharp "sh" ;) lol. Well, of course it doesn't have to be a "sh" but I find that's very effective - especially after watching "The Dog Whisperer" because my mind is used to hearing it as a correction. But you can have a word or another sound. And of course, the sound doesn't have to be out loud, you can say it in your head. It's a way of snapping your automatic thinking out of that frame of mind in the moment, before it takes hold.
3. Affection:
Of course, this is something most of us are lacking when it comes to displaying it to ourselves. Find ways to show yourself affection. Do at least one thing for yourself each day, just because it feels good. Do for yourself what you wish someone else would do for you. Treat yourself the same way you treat loved ones - with the same compassion and the same consideration.
And finally, Cesar teaches that the most important ingredient to being successful is a Calm, Assertive energy. This works with dogs of course - BUT it ALSO works with humans - AND with Ourselves!! Practising being in a Calm Assertive state does Wonders for your vibration, your state of mind, and reassuring your mind.
I HIGHLY reccomend watching "The Dog Whisperer" even if you don't have dogs (I don't have a dog, but I'm intrigued by the process) - and while you're watching, see how much you can relate to the subconscious, your own issues, and your own rehabilitation. :)
I hope this is useful.
Love and Light and Magic xxx
Tags: beliefs, cesar, dog, habits, millan, patterns, rehabilitation, subconscious, thoughts, whisperer
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Permalink Reply by WES on -
Yes! Finally someone on PI who sees the inspiration of Cesar.
Your post is much more genius and informative. Where have you been? ;-)
My greatest LoA guru has been Cesar. He "reabilitates dogs" and "trains humans". It is funny how some people let their dog walk all over them because they are afraid of hurting it's feelings, thus believing the dog has their limiting belief in their own head.... I love when he tells them stuff like that.... The dog doesn't care about the limiting belief....
Well, anyway. It is amazing to me.
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Permalink Reply by Moria on
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Sweet Illusions...you never stop surprising me with your Beautiful insight! :)
Thank you for being You and for sharing your immense wisdom!
Much Love!
Moria x
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Permalink Reply by Awesome on -
Actually Wes, you're the one that brought this to my attention and I must admit it has been a heartfelt experience to watch and Illusions, you always make great points to share with us here.....so thank you both!
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Permalink Reply by Giovani on -
Hi, illusions!
Thanks, for this wonderful application of The Dog Whisperer's advice!
I'm not surprised something like that would come from such a show. I remember how excited I've gotten over every episode I've ever seen of Super Nanny! All I could thinnk was how ANYONE could learn so much from what Jojo was saying.
Now, I've never seen--wait! I think I saw him once on Opra and was very impressed!
Well, the technique you describe sounds perfect for human beings. In fact, I'll bet dog owners who use it on dogs end up using it on themselves automatically. Hahaha!
& I can't imagine using anything but the "shh" sound. It's so natural. It's to the point without being harsh. You can also say it out-loud without attracting attention. Of course, different people may see this differently. However, I know what I'm gonna do.
Thanks, again! :o)
Sunshine & Blessings,
Giovani
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Permalink Reply by Christine on -
Mmm--very interesting--does it work on children too?
LOL
Mine are driving me crazy--LOL *sigh*
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Permalink Reply by illusions on
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Hi Christine :)
YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ABsolutely!!!
Children also have the need for Excercise, Rules, boundaries, limitations, and Affection. In the case of children, because of course, their brains work differently, Affection doesn't need to come last and should be there consistantly :)
But Excercise before trying to get a child to focus or sit still will make life a lOt easier ;) Depending on the age of the child, there are various methods, tools and strategies, but for example, I believe that getting a child "hooked" on a passion/ sport/ hobby/ good cause before they hit puberty can avoid a lOt of potential challenges! It needs to be something they feel passionate about - something that excites and/ or drives them.
And, whereas, okay, it's a little more complicated with children than just saying "sh" lol. it's still more effective to pre-empt what the child's behaviour will be and catch it BEFORE it escalates ;) Planning ahead helps too. It's very easy - especially when children are younger - to "set them up". I don't mean that in a bad way, but you can orchestrate the circumstances of a behaviour problem at a time and place when it's convenient to correct - and they will fall for it ;) In other words, if a child always misbehaves in the grocery store, set up the situation specifically for the exercise.... Plan to go to the store when you don't actually need to shop - when you're not pushed for time, and then you'll be in a better state to be able to use the "calm assertive" approach.
And, in my oppinion, most importantly, always approach discipline from the point of view of an Ally, not the enemy. Planning ahead helps to make this approach easier since there is less stress and frustration involved...
So, for example, in the case of the grocery store scenario, I would set the child up by choosing something she feels strongly about - an ice-cream, a trip to the playground, feeding the ducks - whatever makes her excited - and I'd tell her that after the grocery store, we're going to do/have whatever it is. But that if she misbehaves ... (and it's Vital to explain to her exActly what I mean by "misbehaving", so for example I may say (speaking slowly and clearly) "If you ask me for something and I say that unfortunately we can't get it, not today, then you need to say "okay" and come away from it. Okay? If you scream and shout and stamp your feet, then unfortunately we won't be able to go to the playground today/ feed the ducks/ get an ice-cream. Do you understand?" ...When she says "yes" I'd then confirm: "So, we're going to feed the ducks after the store - but can you tell me the one reason we won't do it?" - or something along those lines so that, in repeating back to me exactly what it is that would jeopardise the treat, she's very clear and is completely aware that the treat is totally within her control. I would probably also say something like "So, if there's something you want, and I say no, not today, what are you going to do?"
Then I'd go through the motions of shopping - being certain to go past all the triggers - any toys or sweets or whatever it is that would normally set her off.
It's most likely she'll give in to the tantrum pattern - which is GREAT! Because it's the opportunity to make that correction. I would give her one reminder - for example: "Do you remember that we're going to the playground, but that if you scream and shout we won't go?" With some luck, she'll continue to throw the tantrum.... and then, because the entire outing is set up for this, you can calmly leave your shopping basket, pick her up, and leave the store. Then, in the car you can sympathetically (the sympathectic part is very important) say to her "Ah, sweetie, I'm sorry but unfortunately we can't go to feed the ducks now. Remember I said that if you screamed and shouted and stamped your feet that we wouldn't be able to do it? And of course, you did that, and so unfortunately we can't feed the ducks today."
She's bound to kick up a fuss - and that's fine, she's expressing her frustration. You can just sympathise and say something like "I know! It's so frustrating. I know how much you wanted to feed the ducks. But the good thing is that tomorrow, when we come back to the store, when I say no to something, you can just say "Okay" and come away from it like I asked you... and then we can go feed the ducks afterwards! So you'll remember tomorrow won't you." ...... and then I would say no more, and just allow her to wail and rant and rave and get it all out of her system. And I'd be able to because I'd have set aside this time specifically for this exercise, so I'd be feeling calm and patient.
And then I'd set the same exercise for the next day and see how she does. I'd remind her (sympathetically) about the previous day, and go through what is required of her again - to make sure she's very clear on what I mean. Hopefully this time, she'll be able to resist the usual instincts, and she'll say "Okay" and walk away from the item (and even if she's a bit sulky about it, it's okay because it's different from the behaviour I'm wanting to discourage and it's her way of being able to resist that),
And then we'd go and feed the ducks.
But of course, if instead, she misbehaved again, the result would be same as the day before - and I may then try a different treat the next time - something more important to her.
** I find that using the word "Unfortunately" is very effective and gets the meaning across that I'm on the child's side - that I'm so sorry that that is the way it is, but that there's nothing I can do about it. Like when you have to take a chid to the dentist and he doesn't want to go - you feel sympathy for him, and you're compassionate about it, but Unfortunately, he does have to go. This change in approach alone can lower stress for both child and parent. :)
And I'd set this up a couple more times in case it was a fluke... until I was sure the pattern was changed.
It does take time and it does take planning, but it saves so much time and stress in the end. ;)
P.S. And I'd make sure that whenever I wanted her to make an effort to behave, that I've let her have a good run around or other physical play and a rest before expecting her to concentrate. Children need to drain physical energy before they're able to focus effectively. And resisting temptation takes a lot of concentration! And of course, it's easier if she's not tired/ cold/ hungry or thirsty. ;)
Ooooh, sorry - didn't mean for this to be such a long post lol. Parenting is a major passion of mine and I got a bit carried away!
Let me know if I can help with any specific issues/ age group.
Love and Light and Magic xxx
http://www.yourselfempowered.com
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Permalink Reply by Milenix Loerdi on -
It is an amazing program indeed! He truly whispers to the people before he does to the pets! I thoroughly enjoy his aproach to "fear" and his unconditional positivity that can really bring out only one response - love! :-)
Its just fascinating to watch a program that practises the Law of Attraction - somehow, I hope that make more programs that reveal this transpersonal type of "counselling"!
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Permalink Reply by hopefulperson on -
so helpful for me this morning, i was about to launch into the same old feelings.
and you are right, he catches them before they escalate so it doesn't become an out of control situation and we should try to do that with negative thoughts etc....just 'sh!' them.
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