Astro, I do agree many times "Small steps" are easier for some. After many years of doing this and gaining confidence in the process, the "Small steps" are just to slow. It's like building up your muscles. At first you carry 25 pound blocks one at a time. After you have exercised for a while, you realize you can carry 4 blocks at the same time and do the task in one quarter of the time. You look back and ask yourself, why did I waste so much time before?
Pretty good idea. It makes you realise that although your current situation isn't good, it could be a whole lot worse, and it makes you realise that the present isn't as bad as you think it is. Best not to dwell on this though. Get off the subject of how worse it could be, quickly, before you start drawing that into your life. Realise that you have created the present reality, then give thanks for the ideal solution. Affirm that IT'S ALL TURNING OUT IN A GLORIOUS WAY.
Neil - thats a good reminder. I remember in Access they teach you to say "All of life comes to me with ease, joy and glory" 10 times a day morning and night. The theory was that even if you experienced bad things (a label we often use indiscriminately) that it would be easy, joyful and glorious too. So your post reminded me of that.
Also Michael Loiser teaches to say "i'm in the process of" when misfires seem to happen. I really enjoyed his book which is short and sweet too.