As replied in another thread,
You do attract who you are and how you think, most importantly focus on other things:
1) At a sports event I was appreciating players of the other teams and in the next match, I was man of the match.
2) I was being compassionate towards everyone in the shopping centre in thought genuinely caring for their well being in thought and out of nowhere I women I liked came into my vicinity.
3) At an event, I was working behind the bar and I was being friendly to everyone and thinking good thoughts about the people and when I got home, the women I liked on Facebook messaged me out of nowhere!
4) I was thinking good thoughts about people, thinking of other jobs I may go in and just one day after I applied for a job, yes one day, I got something back.
If you want people to like you, like others
If you want friends, be friendly to all
If you want to be fancied, appreciate others, see the good in others, be kind
Just give: this could be a smile, a favour, appreciation, money, gift, kind words on a forum, helping the needy, helping someone with their job search, letting other cars out before you, being friendly, having a chat with someone, encouragement, just give genuinely.
:) Good job.
Yes Nathan, great post!! Kindness, love & appreciation pay big dividends. <3
I once had a situation that seems similar to what you're describing. I started a new job and everyone there warned me about this one woman saying she was mean and probably crazy. Sure enough, on our first encounter she was unkind with me for no apparent reason.
I decided to do an experiment and send only unconditional love to her. I imagined myself a time traveler, and that I had traveled to the future and this woman was the adult version of my (as of yet unborn) daughter. And I decided that her harshness must be due to some problem in her life which made my heart go out to her. Being my daughter all I wanted for her was goodness.
So whenever she spoke to me I never reacted or responded with anything less than love and understanding. Whenever I saw her I thought only positive thoughts and a wish for her well being. Almost all of what transpired was wordless. The result? Within a week she completely stopped any harshness towards me. Within two she began to act as if she were my best friend. Even more interesting, she began to act that way with everyone else at work too.
Thanks for sharing this Nathan. I read it twice and will probably read it again. I love proof of how amazing life can be when you outlflow positive vibes.