If I remove my attention from the things I want, I end up feeling negative. If I focus on the things I want, I end up feeling negative. Whatever I try to do to have better feeling thoughts, I just end up feeling negative. I may feel good for 3 days after getting back up, but then I will start feeling unconciously hopeless and it just doesn't feel easy. What if I just decide to re emerge into non physical to finally feel all the good I've been trying to reach for? I'm tired of playing this game. The only time I feel good is when I meditate and I can't sit in my bed for 12+ hours meditating.
Hi, thank you so much for your kind reply. I've been doing much better these past 2 weeks. The truth is, feeling good about anything or appreciating something is feeling good relative to everything, it's quite a catch! As abraham said, choose the disc not the subject.
I now meditate 2 times a day instead of just one and WOW, I'm much more aware and optimistic throughout the day. I've been having a lot of synchronicities and I've been soothing myself. I no longer get angry at things that usually triggered me. I'll remind myself to be patient and enjoy anything at reach, I may not see the manifestations yet but they are a sure thing and I can always find any way to translate those vibrations even if it's something unrelated! Fun fun fun present present present UNFOLDING
Thanks for always replying to my topics
I am glad that you are seeing changes GW! :)
The other day I forgot to mention one thing. So I was getting good at this awareness and choosing positive thoughts thing and had a lot of success, some subtle some huge.
But I traced the origin of these thoughts and it was directly or indirectly coming from one area of my life and simply ignoring negative thoughts didn’t eliminate the source of those thoughts .
Someone had already posted this topic on this forum : I had made some very wrong decisions in that area of life, from a place of fear and lack and desperation and these thoughts were simply signaling the pain I was going through. It wasn’t until I stopped proceeding on that path and made a fresh start making decisions with love and abundance and faith that they started to disappear . I will never again try to escape or resist the communication from my higher self.
Dear GeeFyWeefy, you're doing amazing!! Here are just a few quotes that i can help ya to stay in alignment:
I want some some guidance. I really don't know what to do when other people comment on my physicality. I can be feeling great about everything, but then I'll have someone comment on my body unbothered and my mind will just become foggy and I will feel sort of discouraged about my NOW. Everywhere I go it's insecure people criticizing everyone, diet, "why are you eating that?" And I'll just go thinking... "wait until my desired physical body manifests... you'll be nowhere near the beauty of it and you'll notice I don't even care about what I eat or what you look like" but it will take me a few hours to get back up or until I meditate. Sometimes it's not even about fitness, but rather stuff I could not "change"... "your lips are too thin" "your eyes look sleepy" "your waist has become squared" "Your cheeks are bigger" I reeeally really hate when people comment about my body! I'm not even actively criticizing it! I avoid looking in the mirror as well and I never ever ever criticize anyone.
There could be a few ways to handle this. Ask yourself what you want. Does this physical version of you bother YOU? If it doesn’t then be bold yet nice and tell them they need to mind their own business. But if you want something different then start focusing on what you want with the excitement of having it. Don’t focus on the change or the process but the final result only.
Do it for yourself. Do everything for your joy . Take a look at your attitude towards yourself and your life. Are you chasing down your dreams everyday ? Do you genuinely appreciate and admire yourself ( not just your appearance ) and your life ? Or are you just floating in this experience and reacting to situations. Most of the times physical issues ( even the emotional ones) arise out of accumulation of disallowance of our highest joy.
Is it possible for you to avoid these people? If not , may be you can intend for them to appreciate and support you or to meet new people who do so. Also you can start genuinely appreciating them and verbally complimenting them. People automatically start liking people who compliment them. You cannot criticize someone when they are complimenting you.
Also pay attention to any impulses that you get. If you feel inspired to take up a new workout or modify your diet then go for it. Working out and healthy eating isn’t such a pain until you assume it to be. I can’t explain this better but to put it simply- when you feel inspired to take an action it will be executed so smoothly that it won’t feel like work at all. No, action doesn’t create things but it is a very effective tool to focus your attention. When the universe provides you the least resistant path you just go for it.
The other thing I would modify is what you think about your NOW. You could say that you are now on your way to your desired physical version. What you are referring to your now is actually your past. You see the difference?
There is something I learnt from watching reality transurfing videos . The author recommends visualizing and feeling the process of you reaching your goal. In your case you could start focusing on the feeling of becoming a little lighter and healthier and prettier ( or whatever you desire ) daily. It seems logical to me that people lose a little weight daily until they reach their final goal. It’s like affirming that I am on my way and I can already see the proof of my progress. Do this if it feels good to you. This can be a good vibrational bridge to your final destination.
The other suggestion would be to feel your emotions fully without actively thinking about it much. We tend to avoid ‘negative’ emotions . But feeling them fully might actually make you feel better by releasing patterns. Perhaps you might move from being hateful to angry to revengeful and so on. Eventually it will allow you to allow the vibration of your desire. We cannot make LOA work but we have to let it work .
Until then keep yourself motivated with success stories . There are amazing transformational videos on YouTube or stories on secret.tv
i was going to write the same things! lol! so i'll just add 2 quotes:
It doesn't bother me as such, but contrast has inspired huge desire to change almost everything, not because I want to escape this body, but because I simply like what I have desired. I'd love these features and this body etc etc.
Regarding the impulses, oh I've been getting a few these last few days. I feel like cleaning up my room, doing the dishes more often, you know, stuff I'd usually be lazy about doing. And it doesn't feel like work at all, I feel naturally motivated to do it which is awesome.
Now, I told myself I'd be open to a change in my diet if I got the impulse, or even exercise. But for food, I eat exactly the same, except now I enjoy everything. The truth is I enjoy fried chicken and cake as much as I enjoy a super green salad and a spinach beverage. See, I like eeeverything and it is not my desire to have a specific diet or avoid foods, my desire is to get the energy and nutrients from whatever I am given or feel the impulse to eat. I don't worry about carb fat or protein percentages. And I feel good eating this way. So what changed with food is: 1. I stop eating the moment I am satisfied, why would I stuff myself just to finish the meal? I never realized that before. 2. Whatever I am served at home I enjoy. (Again, before I would just listen to percentages and carry on eating a bit worried) 3. I listen to my impulses when I buy food, and if my impulse says "junk food" then junk food it is, but to me it is not junk, it's delicious food my body is asking for!
Now with exercise, I haven't gotten a single impulse for that. I used to hit the gym about 2 years ago and had some good results, I went from skinny to more ripped and with a superb ass (granted my ass was a conversation everywhere I went) compliments flooded from everywhere. Still, I wasn't satisfied with how I looked (far from it) and exercise stopped being fun after a while, I jumped into action without being aligned, I went for it "anyway" as abraham would say, which is NOT the way. My last time at the gym was around April of last year, and granted, I've lost a lot of that progress but who cares. During those last months of gym I decided to become even more dedicated I changed up my diet drastically to the point I was financially "tight" and voilà, unwanted fat started going away and I started packing even more muscle. But I was the unhappiest, most miserable, insecure person, I didn't even have time for other stuff and I haaated what I ate!!! That's when I turned to LoA again and stopped everything.
I believe 100000% my body can naturally produce the perfect muscles and fat percentage on its own, but still I said I would be open to exercise if that's what I felt inspired to, the universe knows what's up and I aint messing with that. On top of believing my body can change on its own, I desire to discover a perfect outdoor exercise I enjoy, but not to manifest my desired body, but because I love the activity and relaxation of it. I still don't know what it is but I'm sure I will get the impulse (I desire something that makes me jump and flip and be super agile)
So no impulse in regards to exercise yet (or my dream outdoor activity) BUUT, I feel a loottt lott of twitching and throbs and such in every muscle, literally. Calves, lats, traps, biceps, triceps, abs, waist, ass, legs, you name it, and ONLY when I am aligned, so the path to my ideal body is really just alignment with no action.
Thanks for your reply again. I don't look in the mirror because my tendency is to focus on what I dislike, so when I go "avoiding" its approval, my vibration raises and I forget it even bothered me in the first place and enjoy other things. Abraham would say to stop doing anything that makes us uncomfortable, so I think this is key. (Plus, in one of her videos she says you can't use a body that you've been mad at for a long time as your excuse to be happy) This doesn't mean feeling bad if I accidentally catch glimpses of myself or avoid pictures of me, it just means not searching for approval in mirrors, which is the reason I look in it after all. But ugh, you're so right, playfulness and not taking things so seriously is key! I guess why other's comments bother me is because they catch me off guard after me not even thinking about my body for a while.
I think I'm on a good way because I've been in this high frequency a lot these days and I can literally feel many parts of my body changing throughout the day, but I need to be more playful with what people say. It will be a matter of time before they say "Oh, so you had work done now" hahaha. Granted, I'm not changing to please anybody, but myself, still I know I need to be at peace with where I am.
When I feel good about other stuff and don't make my body my focus, I start feeling good about everything, including my body, and naturally, the momentum will bring me good feeling thoughts about my body. It's quite a paradox, sorta.
Yes, it's a habit. Today something clicked, and I told myself if this body is all I have in the now I will embrace it without fear, and sure, I dropped some fears of catching glimpses of myself and instead I went "I like the way I look" but not justified on what I actually see, I dont know how to explain it. This gave me peace, but still, I have no need of looking in the mirror every time. As one of Brian Freedman's post says, it's not the action but the feeling, so there's no established abc method to manifest, but making peace with what I have now sure makes me feel better. Thank you for that.
I've read several success stories of people altering their appearance by not focusing on their current one and ignoring the mirror, but I'm sure they were at peace even if they did.
Super interesting! Thanks for sharing! I feel very peaceful today, I stumbled upon a topic called the feeling method by someone on the appearance group, and they basically recommend to feel everything without supressing it, and then moving on. I realized, thoughts can be ignored but feelings must be acknowledged. So if I feel bad about anything, I will let the thought go and sit with the emotion and cherish it.
You mentioned you were a model! I feel curiosity about this, since it's my absolute desire to be extremely photogenic and do some modeling for nice brands, just thinking about it makes me feel full of life!!!!! I want to fel that thrill of seeing my body somewhere and thinking holy shitt I look like a snack! :D Sorry not sorry but my soul wants it!!
I want to add, I'm talking sexy beefy model not haute couture :D