The other day my sister asked me, “Are you excited?”
And I replied, “I’m always excited.”
And she said, “You passed. You didn’t say, ‘For what?’”
People who know me know I only focus on what is wanted, focus on feeling good, and being excited. I enjoy being excited because it feels good. It feels, well... exciting! Most people feel they need a condition, a reason, to feel good, or to feel excited. Otherwise, they may not see the point in feeling good or feeling excited. Yes, conditions that you want can be nice, exciting and fun, but my alignment, feeling good and excitement is unconditional.
Even if I feel frustrated or upset, I say to myself, “I’m frustrated. And that's okay. I allow the resistance I am feeling.” Regardless of the emotion, it is a contrasting, clarifying experience to help you become more clear on what you do want and can be experienced in a positive, good-feeling way. I appreciate and validate whatever I am feeling, and define each experience as a good-feeling experience, which helps me to see it and feel it in that way. Just because you do not feel good, does not mean you cannot feel good about, or appreciate the experience of, not feeling good. You can still feel good about not feeling good, ha ha, if that makes sense.
You may not have access to the emotion of excitement right now, and that’s all right, but even just focusing on feeling good or feeling a little better. Do you need a reason to feel good or to feel better? Do you need a condition to happen before you will allow yourself to feel good, or to feel better?
Or, do you choose to focus on feeling good, finding relief, or feeling a littler better, now, for it’s own sake? Is feeling good, enough of a reward to focus on feeling good?
As you focus on no longer needing conditions to justify your good feelings, then you begin to practice unconditionally feeling good, and that’s at the heart of the Law of Attraction and being the deliberate creator of your own reality. The more you focus on having unconditional alignment, unconditionally focused on feeling good, you will consistently feel good and let others and conditions off the hook for how you feel. You will receive the core, most powerful manifestation that you are looking for and feel wherever you go, and that is the emotional manifestation of feeling good and being in alignment with who you really are.
And, when you feel good, and are in alignment, unconditionally, then the conditions you want will flow into your life experience and be realized by you, but not to make you feel good, but merely reflect (like a mirror) the good feelings you have already found and focused on feeling within yourself.
You know I had a very similar experience when I was doing yoga this morning. I felt really good physically and emotionally. I felt happy and I realized that what I have or don't have doesn't matter. All that matters is this feeling. If I can feel this good, the rest is easy and fun. (I'm still feeling happy, btw, but b/c I meant to describe that particular moment I used past tense.)
"I realized that what I have or don't have doesn't matter. All that matters is this feeling."
And you always have your Emotional Guidance System, which helps you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to let you know whether you are in or out of alignment with who you are, and if you're out of alignment, you know how to guide yourself back in to that cozy, comfy sweet spot that is you and Source.
"(I'm still feeling happy, btw, but b/c I meant to describe that particular moment I used past tense.)"
I figured you're still happy, since the story took place "this morning," ha ha. I didn't think you lost your happiness that quickly =)
So, so, so good, Brian! Thank you!
And thank you for all your posts and comments here as well as the comments you leave on Melody's blog. Your words always end up either teaching something I didn't know or help to reinforce what I do. I wish you did coaching, offered an online class, or something for us to have direct access to you. Your understanding of all the LOA teachers and their teachers is invaluable.
This is a great post. Thanks! One part stuck out for me:
"Even if I feel frustrated or upset, I say to myself, “I’m frustrated. And that's okay. I allow the resistance I am feeling.” [...] You can still feel good about not feeling good, ha ha, if that makes sense."
I can totally understand how experiences and conditions that we would normally judge as "unwanted" can be viewed as positive, since they help us define the experiences and conditions we DO want. But I don't see uncomfortable feelings (such as being frustrated or upset) in the same way.
If unpleasant feelings indicate that we are thinking crossways to our true Source, then their only real value is to alert us that we would be better served by focusing in a more positive way. However, I can't see the value in spending hours (or days) feeling crummy. In fact, being aware of the LOA makes those situations even worse. Not only do I feel crummy (which in itself is no fun), but then the knowledge of its consequent negative attraction adds another layer of yuckiness.
So, I'm very interested to know more about how to feel good about not feeling good. In fact, this seems like the "missing key" to me: to be able to realize that I'm not feeling good and just flip it around. If it were only so easy!
Unfortunately, trying to turn around a bad feeling is often like trying to dig your way out of a hole. We end up fighting our bad feelings, and by doing so, only amplify them. So, what's the trick?
"I can't see the value in spending hours (or days) feeling crummy.”
I understand, and agree that you don’t want to feel that way. But when you do, you do have a stronger desire to want to not feel that way. And you eventually show yourself that those experiences help you focus in a greater way on feeling good than before. And for the help in focus, I appreciate those experiences.
“Not only do I feel crummy (which in itself is no fun), but then the knowledge of its consequent negative attraction adds another layer of yuckiness.”
If you felt crummy, and didn’t judge the crummy feeling or yourself for feeling that way, you would move through those feelings more quickly.
It’s only when you judge those feelings, or judge yourself for feeling that way, “I should know better. Stop feeling like this. Change how you feel so I can be a happy attractor again.” that keeps you in that state longer.
If you refused to judge lower energy emotions, you would feel better, quicker, because you no longer offer resistance to feeling them, so you allow them to move on.
“. . . to be able to realize that I'm not feeling good and just flip it around.”
It takes practice. But a simple process for me is, “I don’t feel good right now.
"How do I feel? Uncomfortable. Frustrated. Annoyed.
"Okay, so how do I want to feel? Comfortable. I want to feel comfortable. I like feeling comfortable. I want to feel relaxed. I want to feel loved. I like feeling loved. I want to feel appreciated. I want to feel ease. I want to feel ease and flow.”
It very quickly begins to shift my thoughts and how I feel around, because when I shift my focus, Law of Attraction and momentum kicks in and helps me to feel better.
“We end up fighting our bad feelings, and by doing so, only amplify them. So, what's the trick?”
You just pointed it out.
If pushing against your unwanted emotions makes them stronger, then allowing and making peace with them will help them dissipate.
I love this, thank you Brian! Really needed this today! :) xxx