What should I do in order to find my ideal mate? I truly can’t understand…!

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Permalink Reply by Liisa on December 2, 2008 at 6:36am

Hello!:)

At first,u should make a list of all qualities u r looking in ur ideal man,then also to make a list of ur qualities:) and also to write down what u are able to give to ur partner.And btw,if u are saying that u have *chubby not so perfect body* why not to start loving urself and ur body by doing some sport;)

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Permalink Reply by J_the_cat on December 2, 2008 at 8:54am

Thanks for your kind reply, Liisa! :)
By the way, I never said I didn't like my body, I only said it's "chubby and not-so-perfect" just because it is the truth :)
Some sport won't change it that much, believe me :) lol
I would like to find a cute guy that would appreciate me even if I have that not-so-hot body, because I don't want to be forced to change.
And I must say I hate doing sport, the only kind of sport I like is going out for a walk, especially in spring :)

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Permalink Reply by Liisa on December 2, 2008 at 9:19am

:)
I had also not that perfect body then i was younger:)now things have changed;)I love the way i look and the way my body looks.Pitty,i realised that im beautiful just now:P but anyway...better later than never:D
If u wanna find that guy u defently will find;)just be specific!
U dont like dancing?

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Permalink Reply by Secret Sk8r on December 2, 2008 at 10:27am

From what I understand about the LOA, if you meet someone and have real chemistry (not just lust or purely physical attraction), you will both look gorgeous to each other, even if you don't have a perfect body or looks. Let's face it, no one has a perfect body.

Also, a "good looking" person will be the first to tell you that they look so good not because of their physicality, but because of their CONFIDENCE. I am working on this too (being a teenager I often get bouts of low self esteem) but remember that confidence is what makes a person sexy and desirable, not your looks or body.

Hope this helps, and you find your dream guy ;)

Peace

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Permalink Reply by J_the_cat on December 2, 2008 at 10:54am

Dear Liisa and Secret Sk8r,
many thanks for your very kind words!! :)
They made me very happy!

By the way... I ADORE dancing!!! :)

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Permalink Reply by Liisa on December 3, 2008 at 2:30am

Hello everybody!:)

J the cat,if u adore dancing then its also sport:D

I agree with Bernard.Im single and i dont feel like i wanna b with someone..but i guess its coz i still didnt get over one man:P

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Permalink Reply by Bernard on December 2, 2008 at 1:59pm

Dear J the Cat

I also had a lot of questions regarding the perfect "soulmate" etc...

In the past I would go out and "hope" I'd meet a girl. Every single time I went to the movies, a party etc. I would secretly hope to meet a girl - my perfect soulmate. It took my FOREVER, but I finally found the secret to the universal problem...

The key is to stop wanting and needing and hoping! This may sound strange, but it actually makes perfect sense. Like Liisa said - At first be reeeaaally specific. Choose every quality you would like in a man etc. But then... Stop looking for him around every corner. BELIEVE with everything that you possess that you perfect mate allready exists, because he does! He is around every corner and in every cofee shop . He exists in your reality at this moment! All you need to do is stop looking and just KNOW that he is everywhere. You will be shocked when you meet him... Believe me, I was.

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Permalink Reply by J_the_cat on December 2, 2008 at 5:25pm

Dear Bernard, thank you so much for your very kind and wise words!
And so, after all that time, you have finally found your soul mate, am I right ? I am so happy for you! Congrats!!!

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Permalink Reply by Michelle Petkus on December 3, 2008 at 6:13am

I don't think it is a matter of what you look like unless what you look like is going to make you feel self conscious and bring about negative counter productive thoughts. It is all about what you believe that defines your world. I will say though my soul mate did not come packaged how I was envisioning him I knew the connection was there the moment we met. The bottom line being when you meet your soul mate you will know. You may second guess it mentally but emotionally you will know. My best that you find your dream mate.

Love,
Michelle

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Permalink Reply by J_the_cat on December 3, 2008 at 11:31am

Many thanks for your kind reply, Michelle!
What you said is very true.
I also am sure that when I meet my soul mate my heart will know it immediately.
This is why I can tell I have never met him so far...

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Permalink Reply by Awesome on December 3, 2008 at 11:45am

J, I think you are gorgeous just the way you are and the moment you are comfortable and in love with you, is the moment the Universe is bringing Prince Charming into your life......

My best piece of advice is to first ask you, have you made room in your life for this new SOUL? That's a very important question because if you think you are ready then you don't know for sure that you are.....
There are alot of fun feng-shui techniques that stimulate your brain and enable you to prepare for such a change in your current life and here are a few examples.....Make room for this new Soul, clear out your closets and set aside room for him to hang his clothes, clear out our dressers and again make some room, throw an extra pillow on your bed and sleep on one side and not in the middle, put up an extra night stand and keep it clear - all these are techniques you use to prepare yourself mentally and encourage YOU to the preparation work you can do to welcome this new Soul into your life.....

Have you made your list of qualities you would like in this Man? Have you made your list of qualities you are offering this Man?

The Universe is yours..............Tell it what you want, be prepared and welcoming and it is YOURS!

Namaste,
Awesome

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Permalink Reply by J_the_cat on December 3, 2008 at 12:10pm

Dear Awesome, thank you so much for your very kind suggestions!
I already knew about those feng-shui techniques, but I'd prefer not to use them yet because I think I'm not ready to go live with a man, right now.
You see, I never had a real boyfriend so far, only a bunch of (disappointing) dates, therefore, what I'd like to get at the moment is a very nice and kind boyfriend, someone who could truly understand my feelings and appreciate me for what I am.
I want to get to know him little by little, I don't want to rush things at all...

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