(some background: after 10th grade we go to junior college for two years and then go to university)
So here’s the question-
what would you tell this 16 year old
She has finished her school successfully and has been pretty confident and happy and safe and loved and positive so far.All these years she was very much looking forward to being an adult so she could have all the fun with the added element of freedom .
Now all she hears is life after school is very different . It is coming from her family and other elders who she has been learning from all this time. They say- The happy days are over. You will be by yourself, on your own, people won’t bother too much to guide you at every step. You will enter the real world and it is dangerous out there. There is so much struggle . You need to fight it to be able to make it there. You will never have the same kind of friendship after this age because people become selfish and mean and closed as they grow up. So never trust anyone.
She believes them and begins to feel fearful and discouraged and disappointed .
I want to know how you would make this teenager see the truth?
I cannot explain why I am doing this. I simply have a feeling that it will bring me more clarity and peace.
It is like a gift I want to give my teenage self.
Thank you so much!
You're very welcome :)
Thank you so much Joseph M. Chuffa
Really appreciate it :)
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LOL perfect timing ! I needed to hear this today :)
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"I want to know how you would make this teenager see the truth?"
I am curious as to what you mean by seeing the truth? Life is what we make of it and this teenager's family & elders are seeing life through one lens. Their lens. They appear to have a rather pessimistic and fearful view of life. Why? Maybe their experiences. But their experiences are not this teenager's experiences nor do they have to be.
My parents and elders had somewhat tainted views on life. My dad especially is super negative about everything all the time. He is a good reminder to me of how I do not want to be. Therefore, I adopt a positive mindset or try to in most cases. I went to college right after 12th grade, but I knew that education was the path out of my parent's home and I'm savvy enough with money that I figured out ways to get costs down and came out relatively debt free. That education gave me a career and a good paying job. Many years later I decided I wanted to go to graduate school, but made a deal with myself that I would not do it unless I could do it debt free. Well I did do graduate school and came out of it debt free. Twice.
I have defied the odds pretty much my entire life, so I would encourage this teenager to listen to their instincts. Spend time figuring out who they are, what they want (now), and what sacrifices they are willing (and not willing) to make to get where they want to go in life. Keep in mind what you want as a teenager will change with age, so be flexible and realize the life path has lots of twists and turns.
All that said, the teenager should thank the elders/parents for their advice and then let it go. They should find like-minded friends who support their vision and goals. We can pick our friends, but not our family.
Thanks for your reply.
It is for me, for my teenage self. I only learnt LOA in my mid twenties.
I have been feeling very inspired to go back in time and replace the beliefs when they started forming. This was even before I read about Neville’s revision technique. Hence this post.
Thank you so much for sharing your life experience. It is very helpful, very encouraging. Only recently, I have begun to choose friends depending on whether or not they support my dreams and my happiness .
Note to self:
Listen to my instincts and figure out what I want from life and find like minded friends .
And also thank the people for their advice because they are telling me what they believe.
What I would recommend would be something along the lines of telling this child that those are all limiting beliefs.
To explore all the limiting beliefs in her life, and see how they manifest. Ultimately, if you change these perspectives from the beginning, they will get better.
Whatever you believe will ultimately become true. Those beliefs that they are sharing, are with good intentions of course, but the message isn't really helpful.
Also, great idea! Show her this forum post for evidence :) I'm sure a lot of people have shared answers here which will definitely help her!
Have a good day!
Thanks for posting your comment.
it is for me :)
Trying to replace bad programming with all the positive and intelligent advice from you guys.
You are right, it is much easier to change one’s perspective in the beginning itself, better late than never.
Thank you and have a great day :)