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for self study, quotes reference, spending time with the material expressed by Abe....
There is also a discussion thread where I lifted the kick off quote: Taking Full Responsibility for your Life/Vibration
We have a new game for you to play. And the game goes like this. "I've decided in my physical human form that I'm going to take complete ultimate only responsibility for everything that happens to me. I'm not ever again... (it'll take a little getting used to)… I'm not ever again gonna blame somebody else for where I am, for how I'm feeling, for what's happening to me."
Can you imagine if everyone would say, "It's my job...my life is MY job."
So you don't blame your mate anymore; you don't blame your kids; you don't blame your parents; you don't blame your teacher; you don't blame circumstances. You say, "I take FULL responsibility."
The reason that this is ultimately so satisfying is because you have only ever always, only ever always, only ever always, been the only ever always one who could only ever always do anything about anything in your life experience. Nobody else can do anything. In other words, asking someone else to change… even if they're willing, even if they can do it for 5 or 10 or 15 or 20 years... even if you can get somebody else to contain their behavior so that you will feel better, you are the ONLY one EVER who can do anything about it.
And so, when you stop and think about it and you think... hmm, let's talk about the uprising, the seemingly eternal uprising in the Middle East. Everyone thinking that somebody else should do something different. And no one else willing to do it different for the other. And we say, can you imagine how peaceful and wonderful experiences could be if each individual would understand that, "Hey, I can do something. I can do something." And what is it that we're asking you to do? We're asking you to choose any thought, any word, any action that allows who you are to come back in this moment.
So. You're so angry at your mate, or your mother, or someone... someone you work with, someone you work for. And they just seem to be ruining your life. Because they will not change their behavior. You do no seem to be important enough to them to change their behavior which hurts your feelings a great deal. And then you discover, "Wait a minute! They don't have to change a thing in order for me to feel better. I can start looking for positive aspects. I can look for things within them that make me feel good."
"Oh that's impossible," you say. "There is so much that is bad and not much that's good. In fact I haven't seen a glimmer of anything that's good for so very long." And we say, there are other subjects to which you could give your attention. "Well, maybe," you say reluctantly. "My dog. My dog is easy to love.. or my cat."
And we say... do whatever it takes to find something to be your object of attention. And as you give your attention to something that allows you to feel good, you've done something about this relationship that was bothering you. In fact, if you will make it your work to feel good, every relationship that you have will be one that pleases you.
Now that's offensive to some of you because you've been holding others as being responsible for you feeling good for so long that it's sort of hard to let loose of that. It's sort of hard to let them be whatever they need to be while you selectively choose whatever you need to choose to feel good. And we know, friends, that it would be a lot easier for you to do this if they'd learned it first. (laughter) But you can't wait for them to figure this out and you don't need to because once you figure it out, your life is going to feel so much better.
It does not matter how many aspects of whatever it is that you're giving your attention to that's making you feel bad. It does not matter how many negative aspects there are... it is our absolute knowing that in there somewhere are some positive aspects. Now, it might be that the way your relationship has been evolving, that you have begun to focus upon the aspects that you don't like. So you have activated that part of your vibration to an art. So that when you come together with this person or these people, that what they mostly show you is that part that is most active in your vibration.
DID YOU HEAR THAT? WHAT THEY MOSTLY SHOW YOU, IS THE PART THAT IS MOST ACTIVE IN YOUR VIBRATION.
It's such a wonderful thing... did you hear that? What they keep showing you is the part of them that is most active in YOUR vibration. And all this time you thought it was their doing. It is the part that is most active in your vibration. That's why when we say to you, "Somebody should do something about it," the person that we're ALWAYS talking about is YOU. Not them, YOU.
Because, oh, we know, they could stand on their head and they could work really hard to only show you things that would please you but you know, you're sort of fickle in what you want from moment to moment. And they're outside of your emotional guidance system and they've got to find ways of pleasing you based upon the letters you've written or the prenuptial agreements that you've signed, or the arguments that you've had where you come to, "I promise I will never do that again."
In other words, it's so awkward when you try to control the way you feel by controlling their behavior from the outside. We've never seen it work, not for very long. That's why it's easier to just keep moving to a new relationship where you have not activated in you negative aspects of them. A new relationship is easier because of you don't know much about them until you have that dinner where you say, "TELL me about yourself." (much laughter from audience)
Very good in coming together vows would be, "I promise to never tell you anything about my past if you will promise me you will never tell me anything about your past. Just start in this fresh place. Please don't tell me about any of your failures because as sure as you do, I'm gonna activate 'em in my vibration then I'm gonna suck 'em right out of you. And then our relationship is just gonna be like all the other lousy relationships you and I have ever had. Let's not do that. Let's start fresh."
So tomorrow here's what we want you to do. Leave everyone you know and go out into the desert all alone, meditate and start your lives over...with all fresh new vibrations.
If you will be more selective in your sifting, if it will matter more to you how you feel than anything else... then what your experience will be… is one of bliss. Because as you look at a relationship that has been happening for a while, and you deliberately look for things that will make you feel good, and you practice looking for things that will make you feel good, til you activate within yourself that vibration… then what happens is... those people that you're interacting with, literally rise to match your vibration. We're not kidding you about that.
It is so much fun to watch our physical friends coming back, consciously and deliberately, into their own power. It is such a delicious thing, to be standing in the middle of something that could be a potential argument or a potential hurt feeling and to see one or the other of you... it's nice when it's both... one or the other of you standing there and saying, "I am Source Energy. There's no reason for me to feel diminished no matter what you say, no matter what you think, no matter what you do, there's no reason for anything that you are reflecting… which may have something to do or may not have anything to do with me... it is no reason for this to diminish my sense of self. Because my sense of self is something that I've been practicing deliberately for a while."
So what we really want you to begin to do as you are practicing the art of allowing... we want you to begin to practice feeling good no matter what. We want you to decide once and for all, "Somebody should do something about that! Oh, yeah! I'm the only one that can."
Take full credit and full responsibility for the way you feel and watch how fast your life gets good on so many fronts no matter who it is that you are interacting with. So many benefits come into the forefront right away because the first thing that happens is when you no longer hold someone else responsible for the way you feel, they are free. And they immediately begin to feel better. There is nothing more delicious than to be interacting with someone who's mostly happy but even when they are not, doesn't hold you responsible. And there's nothing more awful… to be interacting with someone who seems unhappy and thinks that it's your fault all the time.
We would begin saying, "Nothing is more important than that I feel good. And I like it when you feel good. Meaning, whoever it is... the driver who flips you off in traffic. Hasn't happened to Esther since she left Arizona (audience laughter). Two miles after being back in Arizona, it happened again. And we would say to Esther... that was a willing, compliant driver who matched the vibration where you last left it.
Esther can blame it on Arizona. She can blame it on Arizona drivers. And they will find her all over the country. (lots of laughter) And every time they flip her off, she'll check the license plates, "Yep, sure enough, sure enough." And we would say to Esther, "Somebody should do something about that." And Esther would say, "Laws should be passed against that. They should be fined when they are caught. Hog-tied and left by the roadside for the vultures to deal with." And we say, Esther is the only one who can do anything about that. And Esther has much more power in EVERYTHING... including things like that. You all do, you see.
You are the creator of your experience and the way you feel is the indicator of what you're offering vibrationally. And what you're offering vibrationally always matches what comes back.
So, you can play it one of two ways. You can wait til it comes back in manifestational form... that's an exciting life... and then do something about it. OR you can wait til it's reflected back to you in emotional form, before it manifests. It's not as exciting. It's just as much in control. Ultimately more satisfying and really what deliberate creating is all about.
But the basis of the way that we will unfold here today, that we're going to tell you again and again, remind you, that the Universe that responds to you... which includes every person, every attitude, every conversation, every person in traffic, everything that comes to you… comes in response to your vibrational offering. And the Universe that is responding to you, does not know or care or distinguish in any way, the difference between the vibration of some fact that you are living, or something that you've imagined, or something that you've remembered.
In other words, vibration is vibration.
Abraham-Hicks workshop in Phoenix, 3/23/02
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