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Permalink Reply by Paul on September 17, 2008 at 10:18am

Hey!

I agree with Annie. I think you're trying too hard. It's not your fault. Sometimes when we want something too much, we are focusing on the lack of it and don't even know it. Whenever you are wanting something, always pay careful attention to how you feel. "Well, how do I feel when I am wanting (blank)? Do I feel good? Do I feel bad?" You should always feel good about what you want, because once you understand this law, you will know that you have already been given what you ask for, you just have to open yourself up to receive it! Being able to receive means you must be feeling good, and so if you are feeling good when you are thinking about what you want, knowing that it's already there, and making it's way into your existence, then you are right on track!

Also, what I like to do is keep a gratitude journal. Write all of the things you are thankful for, and all of the things you are wanting, but write in the present tense as if you already have them and are grateful for them now. For example, I may write, "I am so thankful, and so happy now that I have my dream home." Then I go on and on and describe my dream home. Writing about it makes it more realistic, and can speed up the process. Let your parents create their reality, and you can create yours. A realist is only one who is understanding their OWN reality, not yours. That's where a lot of people get stuck. Your dad's reality is his alone!

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Permalink Reply by Kris Stroz on September 17, 2008 at 10:52pm

Annie and Paul gave some very good advice. You may need to concentrate more on feeling good. When you are doing well with your gaming or get a good grade, throw a party! Have fun! Put on some music and sing to it.

I was reading another thread about people having a "bill burning party". Each month she paid her bills (the payment of the bill, not the full balance), she burned the bill and threw a party as if the bill has already been paid off. Once we get our emotions in line, the rest will come and it will come a lot easier.

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Permalink Reply by Bernard on September 18, 2008 at 4:35pm

The LOA has always existed in your life, whether you were aware of it or not, so it could not possibly have made it worse... Have faith!

Good luck

Bernard

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Permalink Reply by Tony Rush on September 19, 2008 at 10:10am

I'm going to disagree with the person who says it's not your fault. Ready? It IS your fault. Deal with that.

Stop. Just stop. Are you willing to do that for a second?

Your life is a reflection of who you are choosing to Be.

Period. Nothing more.

The "Law of Attraction" hasn't made your life worse. You were using the law of attraction with 100% success before you ever heard about it. We all were. Perhaps what you meant to say is that you haven't been successful in using it for things you WANT versus things you DON'T WANT. Either way, that's not the same as saying "the law of attraction has only made it worse".

Perhaps the solution to your problem can be found in your own language. By your own admission, your life consists of "go to school, go home, watch TV and play my game. I've never had a girlfriend."

Well, let me give you a cold-splash of water. It's your fault. If you're going to pen yourself up in your house in front of a TV, game console or computer........well, your life is going to continue to pretty much look the way it does now. It's not likely the girl of your dreams has a fantasy of finding her dream guy hiding in his house in front of a computer screen.

Now....Quick! How does that make you feel? Mad? Angry? Sad? Frustrated? Pissed off?

Whatever you feel in response to that is 100% authentic. It's cool. Just be with that feeling for a few minutes.

But, really understand that your life is the way it is because of how you're making decisions and how you're taking action. If you're expecting your life to automatically get better just because you know about LOA.....but you're not willing to actually do your part....then you're fooling yourself.

And, yeah, I get that it's depressing. But the solution lies with you. The moment you stop seeing yourself as depressed, lonely, frustrated and helpless (which is what's creating your present situation)....and start seeing yourself as the fun, interesting, vibrant, active person (which is who you really are underneath your "act").......

....then that's when your life will change.

Until then, it's up to you.

If you don't like what you're getting, change how you think. Change how you view yourself. Quit whining and realize who's causing this.

That ain't warm and fuzzy but that's the truth. You're a giant drowning in three-feet of water. Stand up.

Tony Rush

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Permalink Reply by ursula on October 10, 2008 at 12:46am

Wow! Thank You, this is just what I needed. I have a smile from EAR to EAR!!!!! Light and Love:)

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Permalink Reply by AuntyTantan on November 23, 2008 at 4:24am

And what a "rush" that was! LOL - totally truthful, loved the ending... cheers for the reminder.

Tanz :)

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Permalink Reply by Sandy Lee Jones on September 19, 2008 at 10:40am

The law of attraction is every day life, so bring it to everything you do. Rather than trying to obtain something, just feel joy in the every little thing you do. The joy of going to school, you know you can before you go to school send out love to the entire school and all students and teachers and ask for a peaceful fun day at school. You can also have breaks instead of playing a game, take time to just be still and connect with your own inner self. That is where so much information lays which holds all the knowing about the LOA. We all know this stuff from within us, it is not held with teachers but it's held within our heart. Satisfaction comes from when we can feel good just being who we are, loving the life that we have and enjoying each moment seeing each as magic. As far as a girlfriend goes, i'm sure that they would be drawn to your inner respect, confidence and love that you emit... just be you and let that create for you in perfect timing.

Love, Light and Miracles,
Sandy


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Permalink Reply by Flowerpatch on October 9, 2008 at 7:43pm

Hi Seven, I am so glad you wrote! This is a wonderful place to find really sound, positive advice. Each day that you find yourself here you have chosen to look at the good in your life!! Hooray!

Here is my tidbit of advice...Listen to your thoughts. What are they saying? Are they positive? Encouraging? Sit quietly for a few minutes every day. Just BE. Spend time being close to nature. Leave the video game and find a spot by a quiet stream. See how you feel. The answers are there for you! Keep working. YOU are worth investing in, Seven.

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Permalink Reply by Ro on October 10, 2008 at 4:07am

Hey,

Along with using the LOA to your advantage, you might want to use the power of gratitude.

I met a bum on the E train in NYC. At first, I was creeped out when out-of-nowhere, he started talking to me. But then, I got over it. His name was Dan.

He was homeless, broke, hungry, and worst of all, he stank.

Dan contemplated suicide often and one day finally started writing a suicide letter.

But on that particular day, Dan said that something was different. The weather was sunny and some guy actually bought him coffee.

Dan said, "so I'm sitting on my cardboard, writing my suicide note, with a Starbucks coffee that this guy just gave me, thinking how ironic it must've looked, and man, it made me laugh."

He looked at his fancy coffee and realized that he was thankful for it. He looked up at the sky and saw that it was a sunny day, that it could've been raining, but it wasn't---and he was thankful for that too. Maybe after drinking his fancy coffee, he could use the cup as a coin cup, maybe get money for a donut, perhaps? I don't know.

Then at the end of our conversation he said, "…I had that pencil to write my suicide note; but I also had the eraser when you flip it over. And I used it, too, to erase that letter. And yeah, you could say I'm thankful for that too."

What do you think was the point of that story?

I want you to take a piece of paper & jot down 10 things you are thankful for. Just do it.

Most of all, thank YOURSELF. We often don't, you know? Give yourself some slack. No matter what you have done in your life, YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY. YOU ARE AWESOME. I truly, truly believe that.

After this exercise, I want you to TRY and stay positive for the whole day. This might be hard. You'll find that your inner dialogues will beat you down. Don't let it!!! Whenever you even THINK of anything negative, I want you to tap the side of your hand (where you would karate-chop something) with your other hand's index & middle finder. While tapping it, say, "Even though ...(insert negative statement)...I completely love and accept myself." --- it sounds corny, I know. But didn't you say you were desperate? Just do it! And remember, anger is a choice. It does not have to be an involuntary reaction.

YOU can choose to have good day! YOU can choose what mood you are in today. 80% of our daily shit (take your pick: missed your bus, overslept, traffic, stepped in dog poo, etc.) shouldn't affect us the way we let it. AND, it should never send us in a downward spiral for the day, or the week.

DON'T LET DOG POO RUIN YOUR WHOLE DAY! You are bigger than dog poo!

At the end of your good-mood-day, whip out that list I asked you to make and review it before you go to bed. If for some reason you reacted negatively to something today, read over the list anyway. Take it easy, no one demands you to change in 1 day. The key, is that you TRY. (And please, try.)

Feel good about yourself. The mere fact that you are on this site is HUGE. Even if you never visit this page again, you've made a big step. Be a happier person, and the people around you will be happier.

As one human being to another, with your help, we can change all of our lives---one grumpy person at a time. =)

You, sir are awesome. Believe it. THINK YOU ARE AWESOME.com

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Permalink Reply by songstar on November 23, 2008 at 1:40pm

Hey 7killers, I noticed that you never came back here and commented and I noticed the date you posted, 9/16. I was wondering if you had an update or if you had come back to see your comments at all. Sometimes what we perceive as our reality can be like a box with walls. What we perceive, we believe. If we do, think and feel the same things we get the same results. So to change, we have to challenge our perceptions, beliefs, actions, thoughts and feelings. You are an intelligent creation and you are giving yourself messages. You have stumbled onto the Law of Contrast which is important in the process of knowing what you desire. It's not a bad thing, it's just part of a process. You now know with certainty that what you perceive, believe, do, think and feel makes you miserable. This is a good thing. Just perceive, believe, do, think and feel the opposite and see what happens.

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Permalink Reply by the7killers on November 23, 2008 at 1:49pm

I haven't posted here because when I posted this, I felt hopeless. I feel much better now, and I'm pretty good at changing the way I feel when I start to feel even a liitle worried. Anyway, thanks for all the respone.

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Permalink Reply by Rich Lady on November 30, 2008 at 5:58pm

The first thing that I see is that you come home from school and watch TV and play games,maybe you need to change how you spend your time once you get home from school?
When I come home from work I watch some TV,but I only allow myself to do it for a hour, then I turn it off and do my visualizations. Granted... I find that I spend too much time on the computer and have to turn that off as well.
So make sure that your not spending most of your time playing Video games,and watching TV or listening to music.
I don't have much of a social life either,but thats a bonus, that gives me more time to use "The Secret"
Take this all one step at a time, you'll have a girlfriend in time,but maybe things need to be rearranged to bring her into your life,(for example) that perfect person lives right now in another state,but in time, she will be moving to were you live and you'll meet....!
Be glad that your learning all this at an early age, I wish I had !
Plus, you know how we're to be grateful,be grateful that your smart and are doing OK financially, that in its self is something to truly be grateful for!

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