I've been struggling for a while now with my negative thoughts. But what that's gotten me is this shell of a person. This person who is so scared to do anything, a person whos so scared to CHANGE.
I know I have to work on my thoughts and how I perceive myself and my environment. BUT Im still having a problem taking action. I feel like if I can start building momentum and see things changing I can actually use these examples to rid those negative thoughts.
But how do I do that? How do I take action when on one hand I can be making the biggest mistake in my life which will affect my wife and daughter, but on the other hand it could be the best thing I've ever done?
I know this is vague but if you can help a brotha out I would love to hear what you think.
I love your question. Taking action doesn't mean to blindly throw everything you've accomplish away and start on a new path. Most skeptical or cautious people do what we call, Risk Assessment. You weigh what you have to loose against what you have to gain. being Positive is usually a journey, not a switch you throw. It can be very hard for many of us. We keep going back to our old way of thinking. Start by coming up with a phrase, something positive that you can believe. Mine is "I lead a charmed life" . I say this every morning when I wake up and every time I start doubting myself. This forces me to wash away the negativity and look at the situation positively or at least in a neutral view. The key is to keep your mind open for new opportunities. You will be amazed at what can happen if you think more about what you can do rather than what you can't.