My brother is getting married in a few short months.
Yesterday, my mother turns to me and advises me that my future sister in law asked my sister to be her matron of honor because she has never been anyone's matron of honor. My husband's sister, who is one of my best friends, was my maid of honor. Could I have had a maid and matron of honor? I guess I could have, but really didn't think of it. I knew who I wanted right by my side and it wasn't going to be her.
(Long story longer, my sister tried to sabatoge things about my wedding from day one to bring the attention to herself---
1.I announced my engagement and she turned around and got herself pregnant,
2. she bought the bridesmaid dress in her prepregnancy size and then announced she couldn't wear it because it didn't fit--Of course it didn't she gained 60 pounds! I managed to find the same material so she could have it fixed, she sat and pouted the whole day--
3. She forgot to invite half of the people on the list to the bridal shower so there was only about 10 people there--
4. On the day of the wedding the zipper on my dress broke apart-the piece that brings the teeth together fell OFF! I have this friend who is like the female version of McGyver and managed to sew the whole thing closed and I was only 5 minutes late. She told everyone that I had gained so much weight that I busted out of my dress. Actually I had lost 10 pounds in the prewedding rush--
So would you ask this woman to stand up for you? Back to yesterday...)
I turned and said "Oh my goodness, that is wonderful!", and I actually meant it. I pointed out that since my sister is a teacher, she has the summer off and can dedicate time to planning things, like the shower, but that I had some wonderful ideas for a cake and favors and ways to surprise my brother's fiance, so to please use me as she sees fit. I did not point out that I know her tricks so I can cut her off at the pass, although I am attempting to manefest maturity for her, and we won't have an issue. I know that this was not the reaction that my mother was looking for, she was looking for the old kicking and stomping me, not the new go with the flow me, finding the good in things me.....Is it wrong that I am excited that I disappointed her? She really didn't seem to appreciate the new and improved me. I am glad that I appreciate the new and improved me.