Career mothers, Career Fathers

I would like to steal the term "Career Mother" from the mothers out at work and give it to the Stay at Home Mother.

It is ironic that if you say a Career mother, you immediately think of a mother trying to squeeze in an extra career between her mothering duties, yet if you say Career Father, you think of a man who has specialised in Parenting and is an expert on Child and parenting issues!!

So I would like to restore the correct career title to a woman even if she is a mother also, but may have a daytime career as a Sales Manager, a Solicitor, a Nurse, she is a career person, just as a father working as a Sales Manager, Solicitor or a Building Contractor is a career person. But a mother or indeed a father who works full time in the home should have the title Career Mother, or Career Father. All parents outside of thier Career are mothers or fathers.

So now we could say that Joe Blogs is a father and a Career Engineer
Mary Blogs is a mother and a Career Sales Manager

Ann Smith is a mother and a Career Mother.

It makes sense, that the day time Career is what defines your financial worth in society. And your home and leisure time wiht children is your fathering or mothering role.

A fathers and a mothers careers are interdependent because of the children. A husband and wife are not free to work outside the home unelss they divide up the childcare responsibilities as children have to be cared for 24/7 neither parent could work without hte support of the other. Traditionally a mother stayed at home to mind the kids during the hours that the husband worked outside. Traditionally this work sharing was seen as a partnership with the wage he earned being seen as a joint salary for his work outside and hers minding their children. But there are too many flaws in this system. It is usually a verbal agreement and even with legal marraige it is rarely accepted after separation that the work arrangement still elicits a joint salary. This often means that if a couple separate, the property is divided but the salary becomes His and his only, and she may drop down into poverty. If he contributes it is not to her but to the kids so a huge disparity occurs and continues on to death with the woman becoming poorer and poorer and even if she does go back to work after the children are reared, because her work was never recognised as "work" she starts at the bottom of the ladder again and never reaches her age related potential in salay scale. But the husband may become wealthier than when supportin his wife.

Many modern or younger couples overcome this by never staying at home to raise children. They both continue in careers and use thier joint monies to support childcare in creches and possibly nannycare, but they rearely continue paying for care after age 11, letting hte kids effectively rear themselves, and this is frought with dangers for very vulnerable teens from ages 13 to 18. when immaturity, emotional, physical and sexual, may lead them to inappropriate behaviours and decisions that affect their entire lives.

Children deserve to be cared for and guided right from babyhood through the teenage years and up to adulthood, and society should demand it. It is not intended either that the mother should feel that she should be the one to stay at home but just to recognised that "someone" must be there in the home. And I suggest that the choice should always be 'the Mother, the Father, a Nanny, or another qualified individual", and they should be given the status of "Career MOther, Career FAther or Career Carer". All parents will still have to go home and parent to the best of their abilities every evening , every night and every weekend, those hours, those duties will never go away, but the Career part of the Day the 9=5 work day, the Economic hub of the week Monday to Friday, will be recognised not just a parenting, or childcre but as a Service to Society, enabling children to be cared for and adults to do the work of their choice in Society.

Career Mothers, Career Fathers, and Career Carers should be paid at least the minimum wage in each country and more when Society starts to notice the benefits of childhood being invested in by the quality of young adults who come into the workforce each year.

All comments welcomed and all suggestions for a better and fairer system are most welcomed