So, after my latest realization, I've come to the conclusion that I am hopelessly brainwashed by the modern media convention of romance. To illustrate my point, here's a real life example:
There is a woman I want to date. I have tried for the past four and a half years to try to garner her attention and desire by inviting her to coffee again, but was rebuffed. I went to her place of employment with a handwritten Valentine's Day card and a box of Sweet Tart candy hearts four years ago and gave them to her. I made her a video for her birthday that year and posted it on YouTube, then sent her the link.
Does this scenario sound familiar to you? Like something out of a RomCom or something equally sappy and endearing? That would most likely be because that's where I've gotten the majority of my "romantic" training and idealism.
Truth be told, that situation makes me sound like an obsessive stalker; even I know that. And, if this were a movie, instead of real life, those actions would have netted me the woman after a random chase across town because all of those movies seem to have a random chase across town before the love interests finally get together at the end. Cue sappy pop song, fade to black, and roll credits.
Grand gestures do work in real life, but only if you're already in a relationship with that person. Otherwise, you look like I do: a creepy, obsessive stalker.
I truly wish I could live the romantic ideals I grew up on, but, just like the movies, TV shows and books I experienced those things from, it's just fantasy.
Still, seeing as how I am consciously aware of this fact now, there actually is hope that I can change this aspect of myself. Not so hopelessly brainwashed after all, right?