Seemed like a simple and easy enough challenge, 1 day without complaining. No listening to the news, that meant no radio, no TV, no headlines,...no talking politics (I welcomed that) What about interacting with people, when complaining would begin I would first try to just change the subject, if that failed I tried to point out a bright side, if that failed I interjected, humor if that failed, I'd voice my thoughts that no amount of complaining would change the past . I say that I will not be a participant in complaining and would explain my goal . Some would say Thank You, and we continue the conversation . Some would say oh, ok, at first they seemed to take it personal , then we just LET IT GO. Some would say:
I am not complaining I am just venting,
You are living in denial,
You are being selfish by not listening to me.
This lead me to question what is the "definition" of:
Complaining- to express grief, pain, or discontent ,
Venting- to relieve by means of a vent,
Denial-refusal to admit the truth or reality,
Realty-the quality or state of being real,
Selfish- concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself,
I realized that we all have our own dictionary and ways of handling life. By trying to NOT to complain I realized I was complaining... By trying to change directions of a conversation, I was surrendering and caught up in it. If I do not want to hear what I feel is complaining ...I have to just LET IT GO. These people were not holding me captive against my will. By setting my intentions to NOT COMPLAIN I was attracting "COMPLAINING". At best when I would try to change a subject or find a bright side or interject humor I would be pushing against trying to stop something... instead of just LET IT GO. So without further thought I will stop complaining and just LET IT GO.