I would like to tell you to lay aside all feelings of guilt and blame toward yourself or anyone else because life may not have worked out the way you thought consciously it was supposed to. Sometimes things just are the way they are and it is a testing of our faith in ourselves and in the Divine to hold a good self image, to remember that the universe listens to everything and responds in exactly the manner, positive or negative that we are projecting in our energy of thought, word and deed. Emotion is a very powerful form of energy. We all know about empathy- that ability top percieve and take onto ourselves the pain and sorrow of others. projective empathy is the ability to broadcast or project our feelings, and physical pain so that others cannot help but be aware of it. Sometimes it is in our body language, sometimes it is far more subltle in the energy fields in and around our body yet it is percieved, especially by those sensitive to those energies.
The only problem with this is that when we think or feel negatively about our self we attract more of that negative energy. What is in our heart and soul is what we speak to others whether we are aware of it or not. Thus it is important for us to become aware of our thoughts and emotions and to whenever and wherever we can to bring them to a more positive state. And we must be consistent about this. Because the more you think and speak and act in a positive manner, the more you reinforce positive energies and attract into your life what it is you really want.
It is different for everyone, there is more than enough in the universe to supply our every need want and desire, so if you are veiwing life from a standpoint of lack or of being hindered and held back from what you want then that is what you are going to experience.
So please do not assign blame to yourself or any one else. Remeber you are loved and that the All, God by whatever name you choose to name Deity or the universal oversoul is more than willing to meet you where you are right now. for within you is everything you need to recieve every good thing. The law of attraction is as much the law of willingness to recieve as it is the attracting of the energies of manifestation in your life.
Be blessed in all good things my friends