I don't know what to do!!!

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Permalink Reply by 2blessed2bestressed on May 12, 2008 at 11:35am

I believe I read somewhere that no matter how much we wish something, we can not control another's actions. I think when you take the time to really appreciate yourself, and your life, you will find that things start changing for the better. I was in a similar situation and when I stopped worrying about him and really loving myself regardless of who I was with, it changed him. He turned around and started appreciating me for the wonderful person that I am. I'm not saying you should stop visualizing or wanting to be with her, but think about how it makes you feel when you want her and you are not with her. That's a negative feeling and sometimes we think we are drawing the positive by visualizing, but the feeling that it produces may be placing it further away. It was confusing to me at first as well, but then I stopped and thought about it and realized that it makes sense. So focus on the positive. Be grateful that you have gotten the chance to re-connect with her and keep thinking about all the wonderful things going on in your life and what you have to offer as a fantastic partner. I can't guarantee it'll turn around, but things will work out for the best. Good luck. Stay positive! Please let us know how things turn out.

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Permalink Reply by Juan Paillié on May 12, 2008 at 5:39pm

Thanks for your time...

Well today I woke up and felt really more calm about the hole situation and I've been having this "positive-oriented-thinking day" and guess what, I've been getting this weird signals that have helped me relax all day and come to be at peace with the situation.

Just a moment ago her cousin called me and said he wanted to talk to me, I said ok and all of a sudden he was asking me about her and how much I loved her and giving me some advice.

I'm very positive that things will turn ok for us in due time and I'm really happy about that right now.

Again thanks a lot, your words really helped!

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Permalink Reply by inthemiddle on May 12, 2008 at 3:21pm

Juan,
I have experienced a similar situation with a guy recently. I feel like he's scared to be in love again b/c he's been hurt before. We were dating for a little over a year, but he never wanted to commit. Due to his fear, we had some breaks along the way, but managed to always come back to each other. It was so frustrating b/c I didn't understand why he was/is so scared. He once told me (after about 6 mths) that deep down he doesn't trust women. It definitely shed a lot of light on our situation and I definitely kept that in mind as time went on. In retrospect, I think that me having those feelings caused subconscious negativity on my part.

Anyway, we continued to date, however a few times, I stopped talking to him b/c I was upset that he didn't want to commit. But I just couldn't let him out of my life. He's so unlike any other guy I've been with and I just couldn't bear to not have him in my life, even if we just remained friends. Anyway, long story short, we stopped talking again in February because he brought his ex-girlfriend to an event my office hosted (I work on a college campus and he is an alum). Anyway, I was devastated and stopped talking to him...this time I thought for good. It was clear that the reason (so I thought) he didn't want to be with me was due to feelings he still had for his ex. Well, come to find out, they weren't back to together or anything like that. Since I found out, I've been wanting to be with him again and have actually manifested him back in my life! I have only thought of him in a positive way, which has been difficult given what he did. But as I think about that moment, I feel like maybe he was just sabotaging things. I don't know for sure, but that's the only thing that makes sense. Prior to him bringing his ex to this event, everything with us was going so well! I felt like we had gotten a lot closer, we were seeing each other more and we were moving in the good direction. But perhaps, it got too much for him? I don't know...

I say all this to recommend that you keep positive. If you think of all the wonderful times you shared and have no doubt about how you feel and how she feels for you, I believe she will come back to you. This is how I feel about my guy and he's slowly coming back into mine.

I wish you all the best!!

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Permalink Reply by Live to Ride <3 on May 12, 2008 at 5:56pm

You need to focus on making yourself feel happy and loved without her, first.
And wish and want for your perfect soulmate/lifemate to be in your life romantically,
and if she's that person, she'sll be the person who you have in your life, I suppose.

Here's a post from the old forum, not by myself but by another member, which you may find of assistance;

http://thesecret.powerfulintentions.com/forum/thesecret/message-vie...

I wish you the best of luck with your love, and with everything you do in life!!

Amor&Happiness, always....

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Permalink Reply by Juan Paillié on May 12, 2008 at 8:38pm

woah!

Thanks a lot! I've read it and it's like totally helpful it's totally true.

That's what I needed.

You Rock!

again TY.

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Permalink Reply by susimuggle on May 13, 2008 at 7:53am

Hiya

would you be able to re-enter the link? I tried it, but all I get ist the starting page of the old forum. Maybe the threads are not viewable anymore?

Thanks

Susi

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Permalink Reply by Marie from N.E. on May 13, 2008 at 8:34am

SHOW HER THE SECRET!!!!

I have faith that once she watches it, it will transform her life and your relationship!!

Have faith!!! And share faith and faith will lead your way!!!!

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Permalink Reply by Sanju on May 15, 2008 at 10:25pm

As you said "I’m focusing all my energy on wanting, wishing, visualizing just being with her" That is fine.However whenever she is with dont act "Clingy" "needy".Be happy,cheerful be like a one who is happy and like the one who knows the secret of universe.She would then keep wondering "Wow this guys always seems to be happy and good to hang out with".Give her time and space.Do not call her and deep down in your heart wish her happines and she will be yours.

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Permalink Reply by Mairi Stephen on May 16, 2008 at 10:00am

Just believe in yourself...be the best you can be. If you love someone you must also be prepared to set them free, she came back into your life once...surely it may happen again?.....

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Permalink Reply by Juan Paillié on May 16, 2008 at 10:06am

TY...

She's coming back... she already called me and wanted to meet for lunch (too bad I was being audited and I couldn't go).

I just think I must be positive, consistent, patient and thankful about it.

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