When LOA worked with a twyst of confusion?

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Permalink Reply by FL_Potter_At_Heart on April 29, 2008 at 9:12pm

GodSent,
I can empathize with your situation. I was in a similar one, and it was only after I expressed my feelings, at the risk of being rejected, that she told me she felt the same way. That was 6 months ago, we've been through a lot together and individually, and continue to work through things.

Being rejected may not feel the best, but it's a heck of a lot better than always wondering "what if"....that takes too much energy. On the other hand, what if he feels the same way but was also afraid of rejection? Besides, I thought that during leap year the waman is allowed to do those things... ;-)

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Permalink Reply by Patra on April 29, 2008 at 9:12pm

I think that the perfect relationship is a natural unfolding...that there are a lot of "tricks" to get what you think you want, including other people....but that the universe can surprise and delight you with a person that is an OBVIOUS match if you just wait for the right one and focus on your joy right now. we were created male and female so the desire for a mate is natural and obvious to your higher self, just as is food, shelter and whatnot....and all of that comes to you in the perfect unfolding if you get out of the way...and focus on the feeling place of what you want...and yes, some specifics....and alot of specifics in physical things...but with people....well....

i think that there is no right or wrong in this. you can use remote seduction to get a person to come to you from what I understand...but the relationship will be about that. if that is okay i suppose there is no harm b/c the person has to acquiesce to vibrate there with you too.

gosh i'm glad to be married and not having to think about these things for anything other than the entertainment of conversation.

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Permalink Reply by GodSent on May 2, 2008 at 1:30am

Thank you both for your replies. FL Potter At Heart, you did make me smile. You know? There may be a possibility that he may feel the same, but Im too afraid of being rejected, so Id rather not even go that route. I think in the long run for me, either the universe will allow us to connect, or I will gain the strength to get over him. Im trying, but when I thin of his character in comparison to other guys, that makes it difficult because he is idealistically a positive compliment to every aspect of me. From my soul, mental stimulation, his love & belief in God, his mannerism, everything is just so wonderful. But I have to humble myself before God and just hope that if he is not the one, God and the Universe will know whats best for me, which will be better. I just can't see it any better, because the say love is blinding. and I think I'm in love...

But if he isn't, then this is why I have not opened up. Surely you understand, from your experience. I dont know. We'll see. thank you so much.


Patra,
Thank you also for responding, I also believe in love unfolding perfectly as God intends. Funny you should mention the MS, because I was lying down thinking about him one night, and he sent me a message out of the blue, which was unusual. I was estatic, but I don't ever show it. I think that if he did show me a bit of interest, that i would reciprocate. But I wouldnt want any relationship to be built on the physical, as you did mention.. and that is very possible if that was the case. I would want it to be on a higher level, because I don't carry myself as the type of woman to become easily 'physical' sexually, or otherwise with a guy upon an attraction, or dating.

I feel you, about that marriage thing. Marriage is the most wonderful part of life to look forward to, awww . I can just lie down and dream of all the things Id love to do for my future husband, but since I dont even date... It just gets dow n right depressing.. so I try ot stay away from entertaining those thoughts.

At least for now. but some day, its going to happen. I already thank God for what I have, and where I am in my life, that will be my ultimate blessing from God, so I know thats why Im waiting. I have to be patient, and remain humble, thankful with a heart of grattitude. Wish me luck.

Love & light,
GodSent

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Permalink Reply by Patra on May 2, 2008 at 7:34am

even better than luck, i wish you a whole lot of fun, a sense of who you really are as an eternal and powerful being, and self mastery.

have a wonderful day Godsent. i'm off to fall into a cup of coffee. my children just do NOT let me sleep enough. ahhh, but when they start school....i shall nap every day for a year. :-)

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Permalink Reply by Pat on May 3, 2008 at 12:28am

Ah, yes . . . been there, done that . . . you'll be like the guy in the department store commercial singing Andy Williams "Most Wonderful Time Of The Year" when it's back-to-school time, because that's definitely "ahhh" time!

And you can never get too much peace . . .

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Permalink Reply by Patra on May 3, 2008 at 7:49am

Macy's may ban me!

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Permalink Reply by Pat on May 3, 2008 at 12:19am

Hi, GodSent --

I'm certainly no expert either, but I do know love isn't something you find if you go looking for it. In my experience, at least, it pops up like a jack-in-the-box and decks you, or it creeps up slowly and seduces you, but either way it's a surprise. When I met my wife, I didn't know I was in love right away, until I realized I couldn't stop thinking about her. Then, the next time I saw her -- POW! So I got it both ways.

The down side to that little deal is that our marriage turned into a 26-year-long, slow-motion train wreck. We had some good times, but a lot more bad ones, until we finally wore each other out. Marriage is a lot of work, even if you see eye-to-eye on most issues (we didn't) and love alone won't sustain it if you end up not LIKING each other. I know -- how can you LOVE someone and not LIKE him/her? Well, believe me, it's possible. You cling to the memory of what once was, hoping there's some way to salvage it, but the current reality has become something you just don't want to be around. So sometimes, even if it starts out seeming to be the perfect match, it can become a disaster for any number of reasons.

But that doesn't mean that your Certain Someone isn't out there! Stay focused on HAPPY and try not to get lonely. Think about all the good things you want, and that you deserve them. Because you do. Sooner or later, as you remain receptive to it, love happens!

Love and Light back to you!

-- Pat

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Permalink Reply by GodSent on May 3, 2008 at 10:16am

LOL Patra. I wish you the best of happy times during school days. Thank you for those insights Pat. I am on the same wavelength as you are, and not intentionally looking for love, tho I thought that I had 'found' or become attracted to someone of potential, now i am beginning to think that I have indeed, been 'looking for love' in his direction, tho I never looked at it in that way. I just thought it was a 'crush' turning into love? or maybe, I'm just confused after being alone for most of the last decade.

When its not reciprocated or the chemistry is not present, it is a waste of energy, time and thoughts,. Thank you. I will continue to love myself, and when it happens, It will be in good timing. Of course this is more easily said than done, but I will put the effort forth, without allowing myself to get down (too much) spiritually or even cry, facing reality this choice is likely in my best interest to let go of the false idea that I've drawn in my head, that he is right for me. when infact, he shows the least to no interest. I don't believe in FORCING these LOA ideas or thoughts in the universe. The results won't be pleasant, if it doesn't flow both ways naturally. Oh well. I'll just let God do his work, and I focus on me.

~ GodSent.

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