How do you handle disappointment in a family member? This person needed my help repeatedly in the past, which required some sacrifices from me but I was always there for her. Just recently, seeing my situation she offered to help me, although I didn't ask her, but when I wanted to accept her offer, she declined with some ridiculous excuse. I very seldom ask for help from anyone, but since she offered I thought I will take her offer. I had to pay for a service she could've help me with easily.
I did tell her honestly, that I was hurt, but she turned it around as if it was my fault.
I don't want to be angry because that's a low vibrational emotion, but I don't feel like I should be there for her in the future either. Just let her go with love.
Maybe I'm not looking at this from the right angle. Any comments?
Thank you very much for your input.
Love and light to all!
“How do you handle disappointment in a family member?”
When you feel disappointment, you are out of alignment. You want to put the issue of the family member to the side, not try to figure anything out, and focus on helping yourself get back into alignment.
“This person needed my help in the past, which required some sacrifices from me . . .”
When you help someone from in alignment, there’s no sacrifice. You’re happy to help because it feels good. You don't do it for them, you do it for you because you want to do it. The reward isn't in their appreciation or reciprocation. The reward is the feeling of joy of helping.
“I was hurt, but she turned it around as if it was my fault.”
It’s not your fault, and it is your point of attraction. You attract your experiences with others based on your relationship with yourself. She may have reflected to you that you are not there for yourself as much as you could be. You want to be more supportive, understanding and kinder with yourself.
Don't feel that anger is necessarily a low vibration, if you feel it, then let yourself feel it. If they don't respect you then don't help them out in the future. It's okay to draw boundaries, even with family.
The way of seeing is "no angle" , it is All is One. OmniPresence, i which there are no sides, no differences, no separations, All be the same One Presence.
What I am you are and what you are I am, We are All the very same One and Only. What's mine is yours and what's yours is mine.
I AM is the only name all inclusive. My I AM and your I AM and everyone's I AM is all the One and Only. Even that which speaks not, is I AM. I AM is One.
This is the Way, the Truth, The Life, the Spirit. The One be being All and All be being the One.
this can really help you to free yourself from abusive relationships:
thank you very much! very helpful too!