Now that I have explained what TFM is meant to do- to help us release negative feelings, to focus on ourselves, to prioritize our feelings & build self love (part one) & I've explained the difference between THOUGHTS and FEELINGS (part 2) - we can move on to actually learning how to apply The Feelings Method.If you haven't read part 1 & part 2, I strongly suggest you do so before reading any further.HOW TO APPLY TFM.All we have to do in order to apply the feelings method is, to write out our feelings.We write out:What we are CURRENTLY feeling.What we DONT want to feel like.And what we DO want to feel like.Then we GO on about ourselves, we go and do something that feels GOOD, ENJOYABLE, RELAXING, FUN - whatever makes you feel like you're taking care of yourself. It doesn't matter what it is.TFM 5 GUIDELINES/RULES1)We will be writing out multiple sentences but we should keep each sentence as short as possible.2)We're allowed to write as many sentences as we need but we're ONLY allowed to begin each sentence with the words :I feel___________I feel like__________I dont want to feel__________I dont like feeling____________I want to feel_______________There are NO EXCEPTIONS. The focus is on YOU and your FEELINGS. Writing in this way ensures that you are keeping the focus on yourself- not others & it keeps the focus on your feelings - not your thoughts.3) The word "BECAUSE" should NEVER be used. If you are using the word "BECAUSE" - you are focuing on "thoughts" not feelings & you are using the word to explain or defend your feelings. This is incorrect.Incorrect:I am sad because my boyfriend has been ignoring me.Correct:I feel sad.I feel like my boyfriend has been ignoring me.4) Keep writing out your feelings until you feel like you've written them ALL out. Be authentic with your feelings, be HONEST - don't try to write the "right thing" or what sounds good. All feelings are valid.5)Go do something that makes you feel good afterwards. Take a hot shower, treat yourself to your favorite meal, watch a good movie, go for a walk, hang out with a friend, etc. Whatever you like to do, it doesn't matter. Just do something that feels like you are taking care of yourself & treating yourself with LOVE. <-- VERY IMPORTANT! Do not ignore/neglect this step.WHY TFM WORKS:When we are first writing our feelings, the first sentence we write will usually be SURFACE level, the obvious feeling. As we continue writing, DEEPER less obvious feelings come up. Things we didn't even realize we were feeling. TFM helps us to recognize and to understand our true feelings.Once all of our feelings are written out infront of us - we SHIFT our focus from our "negative" or unwanted feelings, to positive feelings. We shift our focus from what we DON'T want to feel onto what we DO want to feel. Sometimes we're not even sure about how we want to feel besides "good, happy, positive", we only have a VAGUE idea about how we want to feel. TFM helps us identify how we want to feel SPECIFICALLY.Then we LEAVE it alone. We go off and take care of ourselves, we have fun, relax, enjoy ourselves. You'd ask yourself, what would I like to do? What would feel self loving? Are you hungry - go feed yourself delicious food. Are you tired - go take a nap. Are you bored - go find a friend or go outside...whatever TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. This is self love.Sitting alone to dwell in our feelings is NOT self love. You SHOULD tend to your feelings. You SHOULD allow yourself to feel those feelings. But we should NOT dwell in them. After we've addressed the feelings at hand, we've expressed them, we've felt them - we have to let it go & tend to our OTHER needs. This brings LOVE and positive energy to us.The more you take care of yourself, prioritize your feelings & focus on yourself - the better you will feel about yourself. Your confidence level & standards of treatment for yourself will RISE. Your general attitude about yourself, your general image of yourself, your general level of self love will gradually improve, in a permanent & authentic way.We do not have to do anything specific to "FIX" our "specific problems", we only need to deal with the feelings that CAUSES/ATTRACTS those unwanted expierences in our lives. TFM helps us to do this.IMPORTANT: One round of TFM will not erase all your problems. If you are feeling sad about a certain topic, it is likely that those feelings will continue or will resurface. But if you keep working with TFM, the intensity level of those feelings will lessen every time as your self love level INCREASES.RECAPTo apply The Feelings Method we write out what we are CURRENTLY feeling, what we DONT WANT/DONT LIKE feeling and what we DO want to feel like.We begin each sentence with either: I feel, I feel like, I dont want to feel, I dont like feeling or I want to feel.We never use the word BECAUSE. We never attempt to explain or defend our feelings. We only write them out.Example:I feel sad.I feel like my boyfriend has been ignoring me.I feel like he's losing interest in me.I feel like I'm not important to him.I feel like I love him so much.I feel afraid to lose him.I dont like feeling this way.I don't want to feel this way.I want to feel like my bf is interested in me.I want to feel like my bf is attracted to me.I want to feel like I am loved & cherished.I want to feel like I am important.I want to feel like I'm in a happy relationship.I want to feel happy.Then we would go off and take care of ourselves. We would not sit around and think more about our BF and how poorly he is treating us. We wouldnt wait for him to show us love & attention - we go off and show OURSELVES love and attention. We turn our focus towards OURSELVES not to others, not to our "problems". Our focus should be on OURSELVES always.Work with TFM to help you build self love & to release negative feelings. Doing so will increase your ability to manifest positive/desired outcomes more quickly & more successfully.