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  • Debs I love your exercise...it has come just at the right time. Coincidence? I don't think so...I believe it's the LoA in action. I have been using it in order to reconcile with my husband of 24 years and I am so pleased to see just how it DOES work!! We have been separated for 4 months and I have refocused on me and my life purpose and have become the me that he fell in love with. I believe this all HAD to happen to get me to sit up and take notice that I had lost my life focus. Once I did, it all started to happen. I am incredibly happy with me and my life no matter what the future holds. I AM convinced that my husband and I will reconcile...I've already seen changes in him. I do have moments of little doubts that like to creep in, and I am able to combat them with this site and the friends I have met as well as the reading material I immerse myself in on the LoA. Your exercise came at just the perfect time...I was tetering on a lower vibration and needed to get off it. Thank you for your wisdom!!

  • Hi everyone,

    I read all the answers to this post, and I will reread them as many times as it takes for me to really grasp it. I am so tired of thinking of my (ex) boyfriend. So tired of fighting my thoughts, which insist on being about him, about us, about what we had and what we don't have anymore.  He's with someone else, but  always contacts me. What I feel is that he still loves me and is trying not to love me. I don't know whether he's happy or not, but he says he is. What makes it so difficult for me is that we are practically neighbors, and I am friends with his family. I see him at places with this other person, and it hurts a lot. I try to ignore them, but it affects me deeply. The only way for me not to see him anymore would be to change all my friends, and that I don't wanna do. I also feel a lot of anger towards his girlfriend. She is with him and is trying to  be friends with all of my friends...they are everywhere I go....

    I am learning about LOA because I need to be happy again and I know I have to do it on my own. I have a lot of issues with abandonment and in my childhood I felt very alone and negleted by my family, after the death of my mother, when I was four. My father wasn't present either. I think all of it made me feel unwanted, and at some level, I always think that relationships break, people leave, etc. So, I am certain I caused the break up in my relationship with my (ex) boyfriend. He broke up with me 4 months ago. Since then, I have done a lot of things for myself. I moved to a different city (his), put my apartment together (It looks cozy!), tattoed a phoenix on my back, lost 10 kg, but I can't seem to get over the break up. I realized I really love this man...I want to try my best to have him back in my life.

    I needed to write all of this. Thanks for taking the time to read it. I am very thankful for this space and for all the wonderful people who so generously help with their advice and wisdom.

  • And I have to add that I've also manifested you girls to,I think that its amazing how we are all here thrashing this thing out together! I am learning so much from you girls! And I got a tarot reading a few months back that said I was going to connect with a female or females on a spiritual level and that's where my life will turn for the better,I never even thought about it! But it has to be you girls!!
  • Debs,I think that's amazing,and I've been noticing to how I've been manifesting things that I have wanted! I wrote a list of things I want in my life ,I wrote that I wanted to go to college and study counselling,and guess what?I just passed the first year of the course,I wanted to lose weight,I have just reached the point of losing 20 kilos,I have recorded messages to myself that I listen to every night before I sleep,telling myself that I am beautiful inside and out and I swear to you,random people are coming up to me telling me I'm beautiful!! I was even walking to the gym the other day and a guy cane running out of a shop and asked me for my number,hahah,I didn't give it to him but still!! Everyone keeps telling me how great I look and I've been noticing guys kinda staring at me everywhere I go,its kinda freaky!! I seem to be getting signs everywhere that all of the things I want are showing up! Even the thing with not seeing my ex anywhere!I don't know if you remember me telling you girls a few weeks ago that I found it strange that I never see him anywere and then two days later he walked past me,then again I walk into a shop and he's there! Even though he's not making any move towards me yet,its like the law is telling me to look! Look at what you are manifesting! You are just not getting him yet because you are sending out mixed signals,but stop it and you will have him!! In answer to your question though! To be honest debs I don't really know what I'm frightend of losing if I let go! I guess I feel like if I stop thinking about him and I stop wanting him then he won't come back,and if he does come back I might not feel anything,I'm not even interested in any other man because I don't want to lose my feelings for him incase he comes looking for me! Its really crazy behaviour I know! And I want to let go! But I just don't know how!even sometimes when I've not thought about him for a while I get like a fright in myself that's like,oh my god your not thinking about him,quick,get him back in your head! Its bizzar!! The feelings that I'm to afraid to let go of are not even good feelings,its a sadness! Who wants to hold onto that? But that's what I'm doing! I know exactly what I need to do,but it just won't happen! I don't know how to let go! That's my problem! How do I take a feeling away? I can't just pick it up and throw it! I don't know how to make it stop!! That's where my problem is!! To be honest debs its driving me crazy! I don't want to feel like this any more and its like a pest following me around! I know that I'm doing it to myself but I don't know how to make it stop.
  • Its not them that we are still in love with is it?? Its us that we have not yet fallen in love with!! To totally believe in yourself is way to difficult to do!! So we want these men here,confirming that we are not loveable or good enough!! That's much easier,even though its slowly destroying us! Its the easier option!!
  • My god deborah!! You were talking about epiphanys! I just had mines!! I have read over what you wrote again and again slowly,thinking about every word!! You are right! Just when I read the part about living in the past or future and attaching the feeling to the person,and living with the feeling of losing him,I just got a flashback!! Yes yes yes..the way that I am feeling now is how I was feeling when we were together! He was always dissapearing and letting me down and at first I was fine,But the more he did these things the more fear and insecurity I started to feel,eventually I was a shaddow of myself,I was someone I diddnt recognise any more,I was anxious,frightend,felt not good enough,wonderd when he was going to go out one time and just not come back,when I voiced that I was uncomfortable with his treatment of me he would tell me if I say anything else he would leave,I got to the point where I couldn't focus or think about anything else,my job sufferd,I neglected myself,my friends,my heart,my whole world was consumed with him not loving me,not wanting me,not being enough,doing more and more and more for him just to make him see me! Its those same feelings that I am still feeling!! Its not him that I've not let go of..its those thoughts about myself,its those not good enough feelings about myself,its terror..pure terror and fear!! And these feelings are what I'm holding on to and still believing to be true! He is gone,he has been gone for a long time!! But the feelings never left with him!! I held on to them and have been torturing myself with them ever since!! I have let go of him because I don't chase him,I don't wonder what he's doing,I don't even get a picture of him in my head any more when I try to visualise him I can't,his face won't come into my head,yet when I feel sad,upset,insecure,bad about myself,confused,hollow,not good enough,I automatically get a feeling of him,kinda like his essence,like my mind just attaches him to these feelings,he is the excuse because if not him then what? I felt all of these bad feelings when we were still together,I need to face ME!! I need to tell ME that I am good enough for ME!! I already believed all of these things about myself way before he came along! I manifested a man that confirmed all of the feelings that I had about myself,I already felt,not good enough,not worthy of love,not beautiful enough,and he confirmed all of these things for me so I grabed on to him trying to make him believe that all of this was not true! If I could make him see that I wasn't all of these things then mabee just mabee I would believe it myself,but he diddnt make me feel better,he confirmd that how I felt about me was true!! And since he's been gone I have no one to treat me the way I thought I deserved(bad,not good enough etc) the hole and empty I am feeling is not for him is it?? The hole and empty and no good and bad is for me!! My feelings are screaming at me to just love me,find me,believe in me!! I'm no going to get that from him,or the next man! I'm going to do this to myself over and over and over untill I face,love,hug,console,be gentle with,love just me!! I am just traveling through this life not believing in ME,and looking for a man to treat me as such!! I treated myself so badly in that relationship that he just treated me how I was asking to be treated,I'm not good enough..so he treated me not good enough,I diddnt feel beautiful,so to him I wasn't beautiful,I acted frightend,so he gave me more reasons to be frightend,I felt insecure about other women,so he went with other women! I knew that he wouldn't want me so he diddnt want me!! I feared him leaving..so he left!! I still feel not good enough,so when he sees me he still acts like I'm not good enough!! WOW,WOW!! This is so much to take in,its overwhelming!! Now for the really hard part!! Changing my whole lifetime of belief about myself!! How,how am I going to do that??
  • I am going to just keep reading everything that you have said deborah,untill I take it all in! The thing is that I know all of this is true!I have known it for a while,I have seen my ex only one more time since the last time I told you about! He was in a shop that I walked into,as soon as he seen me he walked out,his behaviour puzzles me because we broke up a year ago and haven't spoken or seen eachother in about 10 months but he kinda bolts every time he sees me,hahaha,its kinda funny! I feel like he's frightend of me and I have no clue why! I have been working on myself a lot since we broke up and I know that I look amazing right now,better than I have in a long time,my friends say that he probably feels guilt when he sees me and that makes him feel uncomfortable around me! I don't know? I know that everything in life comes to you when you stop chasing it! If you have a dog and u run after the dog it runs from you,but the moment you stop and turn and walk the other way the dog stops running and follows you! Rivers flow in one direction and if you jump in and try to swim in the direction of the flow it will push you away! The moment you just chill,let go and go with it it gets so much easier! Deborah what you say is true about me,I know I'm hanging on to this feeling and I'm attaching him to this feeling but it can't be about him! I know that! I'm gonna keep on focusing on other aspects of my life and I'm gonna continue to let go! I know that he will come back one day soon,I am taking my power back and keeping it for myself! I am finding me!I know he will follow,as soon as I stop emotionally chasing him and turn and walk the other way..he will follow! That's a certainty. Debie,if he has all your power and he has his own power also,who's wishes do you think the law will answer?? His will is stronger and more powerful than yours right now because he has possetion of your power and his own! If he is feeling a bit negative towards you right now and doesn't want to see you the law is giving him what he wants by making him see you all the time!and then you want to see him,so the law is answering your wishes to by making you see himm all the time!! Both of you are getting what you want but in opposit ways!!
  • what i meant in my first post about absorbing all of this is what the 2 of u have just said in your posts, if i could only get that all......But i do know the meditating has helped me emmensely..

  • ok I have to absorb all of this. Here is what has been happening in my situation. I have seen him everytime I leave the house we drive past each other with no effort on my part. He I think thinks I am stalking him WHICH I AM NOT, we pass each other in so many different areas and also one timehe was behind me on a highway. ok I couldn't have stalked that.  Well another day i traveled a whole different route so there was no chance I would run into him on our main st. Well as i traveled outside of town I pulled into the gasstation and there he ws pumpimg his gas, I pulled along side of him and he said "nobody wants u" and I said well "nobody wants u either" and I said can i get some gas and he had me repeat it and I could tell he was a little surpised by my response, which of couse i didn't mean and I don't beleive he meant his either, and about a week before that he called my cell ad left a message to stop stalking him which I guess if it were reveresd thats what i would think also, but as i said there is no effort on my part and he is always there.

     

  • Deborah,everything you are saying makes perfect sense to me,but how do you change that negative vibration that you are sending out?the thing is I know that that is exactly what I'm doing but I don't know how to fix it,I'm meditating,affirming with subliminal messaging for confidence,doing everything I can to let go but its like my body is so stuborn,does that make sense? My mind heart and soul know what I need to do but that inner empty won't alow me to let go! And also,will this change in vibration be felt by the man even although you are not around him? Like will he know even though he doesn't see you or talk to you?
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