Comments

• 

  Debbie Corey July 2, 2012 at 2:06am

  Sam think long and hard about talking to him, I didn't realize how your relationshiop was did you ever feel totally loved by him? please this is really important did you ever feel like you were his whole world and not in a controlling way, in a loving way?
• 

  S July 2, 2012 at 2:02am

  Hey Debs! :),
  
  I've just been Reading your comments to other people and your words are so inspiring! :)
  
  thank you!
  
  Xxxx
• 

  samantha reilly July 2, 2012 at 1:46am

  Debbie! I've been feeling like for the last 3 weeks,sam,why not just throw caution to the wind and go to him and tell him how you feel! But now I'm thinking,wait! You have came this far! Why spoil it now! He will feel the feeling to contact me wqhen the time is right! If they truely feel your vibration then he will feel like contacting me when he feels it! I know the girl he is seeing is from his own country,he is from the gambia! I am from scotland! That's all I know about her! I don't know how long he's been with her or who she is or anything else! We broke up because of trust issues! I trusted him completely when we first met but then he started not coming home when he said he would! Going out clubbing all the time, drinking all the time! He started to treat me very badly and over time I was being destroyed! He was very cruel sometimes and it effected me in a very big way! I changed,I was not myself any more,I couldn't work,I stopped going out,I neglected myself so much because I was just reying to be what he wanted! I cooked,cleaned,took care of him! Even to the point that I would have his bath run for him coming home! I lost myself in him! He brought his children to my house and I took care of trhem like they were my own!one day he came to me and said he qwas sory for the way he had treated me all this time and he would stop the drinking and going out and other women! And he did! For 3 months everything felt good! He was coming home,behaving himself,I was feeling happyer than I had in months! I went back to work,started going to the gym,started feeling like me again,and then on the weekend he leftr I started noticing the old behaviour pattern again,he started going clubbing again,and trhen the next night again,and then the night it all ended he came home and said he was going out again! I just felt this huge pain in my chest,like oh god please not again,I said to him! Why are you starting all this again we have been happy,we have been ok! I can't live like that again,we argued and he walked out! That was it! He never came back! I tried a fewq times to get him back but he was very mean to me and said some very nasty things,so I decided for my own health to stop trying!! Everyone said to me,just walk away and he will comew back! But that never happend! Even his friends still say to me that they don't understand what he is thinking! They all seen how he treated me! And what I did for him! I am also a very attractive woman and take a lot of pride in myself and apearance! I work,go to school,go to the gym,and when I love someone I love with my whole heart! I know that people always say you should never give to much in a relationship, and I swear to you,my fault in this whole thing was loving someone to much! All of my friends,family,people I know,people he knows,all say that I was to good for him and if he can't still see what he had he is crazy! But that kinda makes it worse! Its like if by best wasn't good enough!! What else can I give to someone??
• 

  samantha reilly July 2, 2012 at 1:20am

  I spoke to my sister earlier and told her I feel like going to him and telling him how I feel and she said! Sam don't do that because he is a very cold person and he would love it if he knew that you still feel like that about him! It would just fuel things! She said if he had got someone else there will be a motive for it! He doesn't go with anyone unless he's getting something out of it! He is a user! He is cold and heartless,he was like that long before you were with him and he will always be that way,if you go and tell him you feel that way it will just give him a perfect opportunity to bring you down again!! Debs did you see my last message to you? You said that me hearing from his friends and me seeing him shows that there has been a vibrational shift! What did you mean by that? Could you explain that a little for me please? Thank you!
• 

  Debbie Corey July 2, 2012 at 1:19am

  Sam funny u say that cause I was thinking the same thing earlier that u should just tell him, BUt sleeep on that. As i am writing this i am getting a tingling sensation on my head not sure what the vibration is meaning. All I can tell u putting all of this LOA aside. I have loved my man for 44 years no one could ever take his place. He has nothing on anyone, he told me I am better than him, but it is he who I love I have never been ahppy without him, my marriage I got by with but was never truely happy. So when they say well if u can't have him you can just love another, I'm sorry I don't get that cause I have been with other guys and cared for them but NOT LIKETHIS and this is the type of love that everyone wants, and we had it this time for a very intense 9 months, it wasn't like the times before I can't explain it, He loved me so much it scared him and me how we felt. So if you really love this guy then wait or approach thats my advice. Is there anyway that u could find out who this girl is and if any of that is true. Can I ask u why u two broke up and how long it has been? I always get what i want and I'm not giving up on this. I can't contact him but u can what have physics told you?
• 

  Luna July 2, 2012 at 12:54am

  Thanks, Debs! That's exactly what I've been thinking. I will tell him that he should not contact me anymore. I really do need to respect myself, and I do feel disrespected when he contacts me and tells me that he is with someone else, and shows me that he knows I love and want him. No more of that! Like you, I am a beautiful, independent and free woman, and if he can't see that, it's his problem. Not mine. I am worthy of love and I know it. Just writing these things down make me feel better and more empowered. Thanks!
• 

  samantha reilly July 2, 2012 at 12:32am

  Oh thank you debs! And debbie! I needed you ladies today more than ever! I think you are right about the sign tho! I havnt seen or heard from him in ten months then suddenly over the last two weeks,I go for a coffee and the guy that owns the shop tells me he has a girl,then I see him twice in a week,then another guy is coming after me in the street to talk about. Him again! Mabee this is to test my vibration? I've been feeling more possitive,like YES,I can have him,why not!! And then all of this starts to happen! I wish I knew what its all about? What is it that I'm supposed to be getting from this? I'm still ok tho! I've not cried over it and I'm still her! I'm still ok! But a bit dissheartend! And yes I deffinatley am not in the right place for him to come back into my life because if I'm still feeling this need and hurt then if he came back and then did this again I would still be broken! Mabee that was the point of the meetings with these people! Sam your not emotionally ready LOOK!!
• 

  Luna July 2, 2012 at 12:29am

  Samantha, I feel your pain. I too love a man who is with someone else and I see them occasionaly, because we live close to each other. It hurts me very much and I spent my Sunday reading and letting it go.

  Debs, I know I attract him back all of the time! He broke up with me four months ago, and immediately started a relationship with this other girl. However, he contacts me every week! I think I attract him to me, but once he does, I don't know what to do. He calls me and we talk, but he keeps bringing up the reasons why he broke it off. We are also very attracted to each other sexually, and it shows every time we see each other or have a conversation. I have to admit that I love it when he contacts me, but I end up being frustrated, because what I want is to have him back as my boyfriend, and for him to end things with this other person, but that's now what he's offering me. Debs, do you have any insights on how I should act when he contacts me again? Because he will, he always does. Every week!

  
  It's so great to be able to "talk" to you girls...thank you!
• 

  samantha reilly July 2, 2012 at 12:03am

  I just feel so confused today! I was just at the point of truely believingf that I could have him,that god has heard me and knows that's what I want and was feeling good then BAM!! This guy comes after me to tell me my guy is wit someone else,I do feel like it was a sign! Buit a sign for what? What kind of sign is that? After a year of feeling terrible I start to truely truely believe and then that happens!! I'm so sory girls that I'm feeling like this today! But I don't know what to do from here! I feel like just going to where he lives and telling him how I truely feel! What's the worst that can happen! He tells me I don't want you! Well it can't be any worse than living in limbo right? Oh I don't know? Mabee when I wake up tomoro ill feel differently? I'm just feeling like I've gone right back to square one today! I've been trying not to question things and to just go on and see what happens! I've always been a chaser! If the relationships not working I'm the one who will go after what I want till its fixed! But thisa time I took everyones advice and stepped back!I don't chase or contact or anything! And its not working! Debs,I know I'm thinking of myself now but I also have thought of him and what he wants! I just thought that if I left him alone and let time pass that he would see what he had in me! Everyone else has! His friends,everyone has said that he will never find someone like me again! I can never explain to you girls waht I did for this man,and waht I took from him! I wish you coulkd know!what is wrong with me having the one thing that I have ever wanted so much!! I guess what letting go means is just don't want him at all and live with the fact that I can't have him? Is that it? so what's the point in thinking possitive,changing my vibrations to I can and will have him! When I might not get him in this lifetime! So I'm walking around thinking possitive thoughts,thinking I can have my guy of course I can!! But all of the possitivity in the world may not bring him back??
• 

  Debbie Corey July 1, 2012 at 11:40pm

  Ok Sam, God shows me signs all the time to hang in there. DO you ask and get any signs. I think this guy showing up might be one, funny that u changed your vibratiion and he showed up.. THey say if we go back and forth then we r stalling the hearts desire. I mean if one day you say screw it im done and the next wanting again the screws it up. I did that for a while but I stopped cause I only said those things when I was so frustrated. So maybe the guy was broguht to u to see your reaction, also u have to wonder on a realistic view if you BF (not gonna call them ex's anymore) said ifu ever run into her make sure u tell her im doing great. ALso if this was your worst nightmare guess waht u made it happen, by thinking it, My bf kept saying he was gonna loose me and i kept sayng NO YOUR NOT and look what happened bot of our parinoia got us to break apart...GOd cerrtainly does not want to see us suffering like this. he wants to see two people that r truey in love togehter thats all he wants..