Hello all,I am new to LOA and still haven't read Ms Hay's book, but I am in an uncomfortable place and am seeking an answer. Two years ago my partner ended our ten-year relationship. We are from different countries and finally immigration issues forced us into a long-distance relationship, we tried but after two years my partner found someone else. I handled it horribly. I lied to my neighbors about my partner with the intention to ruin my partner's reputation. There is no excuse for what I did. In my mind--since my partner had lied to me by finding another partner and not telling me until months later, I used my partner's deceit to justify my own actions. I was wrong. My partner and I have had no contact until last month. Prior to my viewing The Secret I had an overwhelming urge to call, we had a healing conversation and shared forgiveness.A week later a friend gave me The Secret DVD and I am trying to understand the LOA and put it into practice. When I try to describe my 'perfect partner' I keep describing attributes of my ex. For instance..."I want a partner who always looks into my eyes and I can see how much I am loved (like my ex), I want a partner who puts our relationship above other friendships (like my ex), I want a partner who believes in me and supports me and gives me a friendly nudge in the right direction when I get off-track (like my ex)." Now I am wondering if my ex is, in fact, my perfect partner; or if I am hanging on to the past in order to not have to move forward.My stomach is in knots and I am unable to find inner peace. Am I afraid to completely let go of my ex? Am I afraid that my ex might be my perfect partner? Or, am I even more afraid that my ex is not my perfect partner. How do I know?Where do I look for answers, I am unable to find the answer within yet.Thanks.