I'm in the mood for be-all and end-alls today.Are relationships really the be-all and the end-all? I would dearly appreciate some guidance on this.I have never really had a relationship before, and I guess there is some fear around them, but I look at the relationships of the people I know and think, " why would I want to end up in one of those? "So many relationships I know of end in what I call the 'ups'. Coupled-up, mortgaged-up, fed-up, lumbered with debt, bickering, finding faults with each other, getting the seven-year itch, co-dependency, hitting the glass ceiling and not being able to grow.And my mates are all encouraging me to have one. And I just think, " no thanks, I can't see how they would bring me any kind of joyful growth and happiness. "In fact, I can't think of any truly happy and contented couples. Just people regressing into stagnation once the initial rocket-whoosh of attraction wears off.This doesn't mean that I haven't considered having one before, but the fears have got in the way a number of times.Maybe I'm just being a grumpy sod (one of those days today) needing to be educated, and would like somebody to do so. Why do people reckon that relationships are the be-all and end-all, the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow?What is the big deal, and what are the positives about them, which I am missing out on?Thanks for your 'educations'