Its been a few months since I've been on PI. I was involved with a woman (2.5 months) who was basically a mess being just 6 months out of a 20 year marriage. We had some good times, but she clearly wasn't ready for a rel/ship, and the attraction was marginal for me.
So my dilemma is I occasionally see my LTR ex (we were together for 5 years) at social events, and last summer, fall and winter when we'd see each other, I was a still a mess. I have since dropped the neediness and have become much more non-chalant in general. Our last face to face encounter at a meetup event was very interesting because I was calm, cool and collected. She commented on it. I did not ask her to hang out or talk about any future plans. I did call her a few weeks later, and it was a nice conversation. At one point I did matter of factly ask her if there was any hope for us? She started crying and could not speak. I changed the subject, and the phone call ended on a more upbeat note. Ok, so the thing is, during our last face to face, she commented on what a strong connection we had. I agreed, but didn't elaborate. So...in the meantime, I've been trying to meet new people and have had a date or two, but no one who seems like they're going to spark the kind of connection we had.
I know LOA says to focus on attracting a person with the kinds of qualities you want. Would it be against LOA to contact her and suggest a lunch meetup with no talk about the rel/ship, just a hang out?
We have had multiple breakups...but I just noticed how easy and comfortable the rapport was the last two times we communicated...I also know that she is too proud and stubbord to initiate anything with me...ok, fire away!