GUEST: Every day I get a deeper understanding of how to create my own
reality. In regard to other people, though, sometimes I don't fully
comprehend how to influence in a way that I would like to.
Specifically, I have one circumstance now in regard to my mother. Ten
days ago, my father passed away and this may sound strange, but for me,
personally, it was a magnificent experience.
ABRAHAM: That doesn't sound strange to us.
GUEST: It was incredible from this perspective. It was unthinkable
before. But my mother does not have this perspective now. She's lived
with my dad for just about fifty-five years and not only does she
grieve deeply, now, but she's terrified. I don't know, at the moment,
how to go about helping her through this terror to a place of feeling
safe and that all is well, and I dearly, dearly want that, not only
because I love her and feel for her but observing her pain and being
there for her brings that same feeling into me.
ABRAHAM: Yes. Why?
Because you make a Vibrational Match with it.
In other words, as you observe it...
There was a music teacher, talking to us about passing out tuning forks
among the students, in different keys. She took her tuning fork and
banged it on the desk and it sent a loud penetrating vibrational sound
into the room. MMMMMMM. A sound so clear and pure that you could not
only hear it, but feel it, and then the tuning forks that were in the
same key in the room began to vibrate in the sound. We call it a
As you observe your mother in pain, you vibrationally achieve harmony
with her vibration, and then that sympathetic vibration begins to
reverberate between the two of you, and for that moment you are a
Vibrational Match, now both separated from your Core Energy.
The way the power of influence works is this:
Let us say you walk into a room. Now, let us say that on the night
before, you went to bed and you spent some time basking and
appreciating. You spent some time observing that which is in
vibrational harmony with your Source Energy so that you were
reverberating the Pure Positive Energy of your Source.
Now, you walk into a room the next day and you see someone grieving or
struggling or complaining, and as you are connected to your Pure
Positive Energy, your vibration in connection with Source Energy
dominates the vibration of the room so that those people who always
without exception have some vibrational sympathy with this vibration of
Well-being, they are more likely to join you in your triumphant
Let's say, instead though, you got up, you didn't bask, you didn't
visualize, you didn't focus, you just observed.
You turned on the television, observed, whatever. You observed. And so
your vibration is sort of all over the place depending on what you are
observing. Now you walk into a room, not particularly or even
well-connected at all with your Source Energy, then you observe
somebody in struggle and you easily join them in their vibration of
struggle. The way you help someone is by maintaining your connection,
maintaining your vibrational match to Source Energy.
Now, it doesn't mean you have to appear cold or uncaring in your joy
about your own father's death.
What it means is that you are all right about it.
Imagine that you are doodling in your notebook.
Now you can use this Creation Box in three different ways.
You'll probably think of more. Actually get a box and tear things out
or doodle on cards or put pictures in it. Drop things in the box or
sketch in your notebook. Draw an arena. Whether it is round or square,
it doesn't matter, a creative arena on your page and then doodle in it.
Draw yourself there. And over there in another place, draw your mother.
And draw rainbows representing future happiness and dollar signs
representing continued success and draw other people around her buoying
her. You could even draw outside of the arena, people on their way to
her, people coming to fill in the gap that she is currently feeling so
strongly. Future mate on the way, future feeling of security on the
You see, you've got a choice.
Here is the most powerful statement that we can make to you and, we
want you to take it in full.
The Universe does not know or care if your vibrational offering -- your
point of attraction -- is as a result of something you are observing or
something that you are visualizing, but in either case it accepts it as
your point of attraction and responds accordingly.
So you've got a choice here. You can observe your mother as she is, and
she's in trouble and anybody would be.
In other words, she is living just exactly what most people would live
under those conditions.
So, you've got a choice.
You can observe her as she is or you can create an image of our mother
in your Box -- and in either case, the Universe will accept that as
your point of attraction.
Now, can you feel the power of influence?
If you are observing your mother as she is, you are joining her in the
disconnection. You are not connected to Source Energy.
Your power of influence is very small.
But if you've taken her to the Box. If you've imagined her joyful
again, and as you've imagined her waking up one morning and recognizing
the heavy burden has lifted, as you image her smiling again and finding
her way and meeting others and getting renewed Energy in life...now,
you have created, on her behalf, a vibrational point of attraction, and
you can do that.
You can hold somebody else as your point of attention, you see.
Your mother's point of attraction is always going to dominate in her
In other words, the Universe is always going to respond more powerfully
to her vibration about her than it is to your vibration about her, but
your vibration about her will help.
That is what we call power of influence.
It is delicious to recognize that you have the ability to assist
others, but, friends, if you see someone as broken, you make a
vibrational match to something other than creative Energy -- and you
have not much to give.
Excerpted from the workshop in Maui, HI on Saturday, December 9th, 1995